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Offline Tuco

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Re: Stone Cold Can Killer
« Reply #124 on: April 21, 2017, 02:04:00 PM »
Posted this in the HOF speeches, but figured I'd put it here for posterity. Quit on, brothers.

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One thousand days ago, I woke up and made a decision to quit all forms of nicotine, and have done so every day since. That's one thousand consecutive days of making a conscious choice: I am not going to going to use nicotine today. Pretty simple. Quitting wasn't always an easy choice, especially in those early days, but it certainly was no accident.

When I found KTC two or three days into my quit I was desperate for a lifeline. Anything that could help to ease the constant, gnawing craves and the pea soup fog that had settled over my brain. I was struggling just to cope, and I figured any sort of tips and tricks I could glean would certainly be of some use. I quickly discovered that no such tips or tricks exist, but something far more powerful does.

Allow me to preface this by saying none of the advice I offer is particularly new or groundbreaking. Do a little digging in any pre-HOF month or through just about any HOF speech and you will find many equivalent sentiments from literally thousands of other quitters. Plenty of truths and wisdom about quitting has been written ad nauseum in this space. Perhaps the one perspective I can add is a distillation of the core fundamentals that comprise the Quitter's Mindset. As in, I came here looking for "tips and tricks" and quickly found a literal foolproof mindset that I can personally guarantee 100% success - if you follow it unfailingly.

The Quitter's Mindset

#1 Post roll first thing each day. No excuses. If you have a pulse and the means to access some form of electronic communication, you can get on roll and make your promise. To be clear, this isn't a rule. This is something you already understand must happen of your own volition. You don't have to post roll. You want to post roll. See the difference? Strive for the latter, even if you must fake it for a while at first. Posting roll and making your promise first thing will become the foundation of your quit today, and every day thereafter. If you're still skeptical about the efficacy of posting roll first thing, go look at any month that started 1,000+ days ago. Look at the timestamps from quitters posting their promise. I can all but guarantee that the overwhelming majority of them consistently do so in the first part of their day. Every. Single. Day. The ones that were lackadaisical about it early on have long since faded. Do yourself a favor now and make a habit of posting roll first thing.

#2 Focus only on today. Once you've given your word, center all your energy on keeping your word for the rest of the day. Yes, 'one day at a time' is preached far and wide here, but until you come to understand and embrace what that truly means, you must keep your sights set firmly on doing everything in your power to be quit today. Not yesterday, not tomorrow, and certainly not forever - just today. Quitting in 24 hour increments is far less daunting, even for a seasoned quitter, than thinking of being quit in terms of weeks, months, and years ahead. 24 hours is finite and totally within our control. Worry about today, today. Worry about tomorrow when it gets here.

#3 Invest in your own quit by investing in others. I repeat: invest in your own quit by investing in others. Connect with other quitters on here. New and veteran alike. Your addiction desperately wants you all alone so you can be more easily manipulated. That gets a whole lot harder when you feel personally accountable to other quitters. It seems a bit odd at first to be trading PM's and sharing your mobile number with total strangers on the internet, but it is one of the single greatest tools you can have in your arsenal.

Plenty of guys quietly assure themselves that they don't need help. Guess what? They're wrong. At some point, every single one of us needs a pickup. Even if you're the one picking up a fellow brother, that alone becomes high octane fuel for your quit. Just as some guys think they don't need any help, others think they can get all the help they need from their family, friends, church groups, etc. Also wrong. Having supportive friends and family is great, but unless they are battling nicotine addiction right alongside you, there are very noticeable limits to the actual support they can provide. Besides, they probably knew you and accepted you during your dipping days. If you were a ninja dipper, you long since figured out how to deceive them. On KTC, we've seen it all before. The lies. The bullshit. The rationalizations and addict-speak. We've also seen the mile of shit you must wade through in those early days of quit. The struggles and the triumphs. Your wife or friends might think the world of you, but when it comes to you as an addict, no one knows you better than KTC.

Finally, I will add how fortunate I am for some of the genuine and lasting friendships I've made here (MiBS shoutout). Barely a day goes by where I don't connect with at least one person from my core group. Sure, the conversations have largely drifted away from quitting at this point, but to a man, we all have each other's backs and understand explicitly what it was that originally brought us together. Having connections like that simply cannot be understated. I would literally rather die than disappoint these guys by caving. Plain and simple.

#4 Be deliberate with your quit. As I mentioned previously, you don't quit by accident and you sure as shit won't stay quit by accident. It is a deliberate, conscious choice that you must make every single day. Treat your quit with the respect it deserves, and do it with purpose and pride. Never take your quit for granted, even when things start getting easier, for complacency is your addiction's primary weapon to win you back. Make no mistake, nicotine addiction plays the long game here. Once you've grown complacent, it's only a matter of when, not if, you will eventually find yourself scraping the bottom of a tin. Complacency killed a near 4 year quit for me over ten years ago. I know how easy it is to get lulled into a false sense of security. Once the fire inside dies down to barely a flicker, it doesn't take much to allow a cave to happen. The best way to ensure that never happens to you is to quit deliberately and with purpose each day.

That, in a nutshell, is the core mindset you need to adopt if you have any designs on being a long-term quitter. If you're thinking about quitting, or have just begun your journey, know that you can do this. It won't be easy, but it will be terribly worthwhile. Invest your time and energy on facing your addiction head-on, using the advice given above. I learned each of those facets of quitting in my first 100 days, and I've spent the following 900+ days proving that they work flawlessly.

Since this is technically a HOF speech, I'd be remiss if I didn't give some other folks their proper due. I posted a 1,000 today, because of my fellow Stone Cold Quitter brothers in November, '14. To post up each day next to the same group of guys is reassuring and reinforces the fact that what we do here actually works. I'm fortunate to have landed in such a strong month stocked with bad-ass quitters. It's truly been an honor to quit alongside these guys. I'm also thankful for the vets that set me straight in those early days. It didn't matter if they were a few weeks ahead of me or a few years, the knowledge they dropped plus a well-timed pat on the back or kick in the ass is precisely what I needed. They lit the way, and I am forever grateful.

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Re: Stone Cold Can Killer
« Reply #123 on: June 28, 2016, 07:26:00 PM »
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Hey Bro
I stumbled across your Intro today. I just wanted to say thanks for sharing it. The fact that you had quit for 4.5 years and then caved is something every newbie needs to read about. I need to keep in the front of my mind that this battle isn't over in 100 days or 9 months or 2 years. Sure it's a 1 day at a time deal, but I needed to hear that I can never let my guard down.
thanks bro!
Thanks, man. Coming up on two years Quit and it's something that I am very passionate about. I will say this: my mindset is wholly different this time around than it ever was all those years ago. I took this quit with the seriousness and respect it commanded right from the start. I didn't have all of the answers, still don't, but I knew I needed help if I was going to be successful. I also know from personal experience that the moment I let my guard down and start to believe I've got this thing beat for life, is the moment that I am very likely headed back to being a slave.

Focus purely on One Day at a Time. Never waver from that simple ethos. Know that you are an addict today, tomorrow, and every day you draw breath thereafter. Find peace in that. You are what you are, but you have the tools and support to never succumb again. One day at a time.

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Re: Stone Cold Can Killer
« Reply #122 on: June 05, 2016, 12:32:00 PM »
Hey Bro
I stumbled across your Intro today. I just wanted to say thanks for sharing it. The fact that you had quit for 4.5 years and then caved is something every newbie needs to read about. I need to keep in the front of my mind that this battle isn't over in 100 days or 9 months or 2 years. Sure it's a 1 day at a time deal, but I needed to hear that I can never let my guard down.
thanks bro!
Just one and you will be back where you started.
And where you started was desperately wishing
you were where you are right now.

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Re: Stone Cold Can Killer
« Reply #121 on: July 29, 2015, 09:46:00 AM »
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Year mark, congrats Tuco!
You are one BAD ASS M*th%r F*ck%r TUCO! Congratulations
Great job on your year taco! A premium grade badass quitter!
Congrats on the Nic-Free year, that is f'n cool!

That is THUPER DUPER
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Bad ass quitter and great example. Thank you for rapidly becoming a quit force around here.
Wow. what a year for you. 365 days without nicotine and a legion of new friends. Proud of you bro. Congrats!
Congrats on the year Tuco. You were a great influence on December. Thanks!
Congrats Tuco. By now you know how good a year feels!

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Re: Stone Cold Can Killer
« Reply #120 on: July 27, 2015, 09:09:00 PM »
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Year mark, congrats Tuco!
You are one BAD ASS M*th%r F*ck%r TUCO! Congratulations
Great job on your year taco! A premium grade badass quitter!
Congrats on the Nic-Free year, that is f'n cool!

That is THUPER DUPER
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Bad ass quitter and great example. Thank you for rapidly becoming a quit force around here.
Wow. what a year for you. 365 days without nicotine and a legion of new friends. Proud of you bro. Congrats!
Congrats on the year Tuco. You were a great influence on December. Thanks!
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Re: Stone Cold Can Killer
« Reply #119 on: July 27, 2015, 05:45:00 PM »
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Year mark, congrats Tuco!
You are one BAD ASS M*th%r F*ck%r TUCO! Congratulations
Great job on your year taco! A premium grade badass quitter!
Congrats on the Nic-Free year, that is f'n cool!

That is THUPER DUPER
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Bad ass quitter and great example. Thank you for rapidly becoming a quit force around here.
Wow. what a year for you. 365 days without nicotine and a legion of new friends. Proud of you bro. Congrats!
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Re: Stone Cold Can Killer
« Reply #118 on: July 27, 2015, 12:29:00 PM »
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Year mark, congrats Tuco!
You are one BAD ASS M*th%r F*ck%r TUCO! Congratulations
Great job on your year taco! A premium grade badass quitter!
Congrats on the Nic-Free year, that is f'n cool!

That is THUPER DUPER
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Bad ass quitter and great example. Thank you for rapidly becoming a quit force around here.
"If you want to quit then stop talking and just QUIT. If you want to kill yourself a bullet is cheaper and faster than a tin, plus it eliminates my hearing you whine and cry like a bitch."

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Re: Stone Cold Can Killer
« Reply #117 on: July 27, 2015, 11:50:00 AM »
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Year mark, congrats Tuco!
You are one BAD ASS M*th%r F*ck%r TUCO! Congratulations
Great job on your year taco! A premium grade badass quitter!
Congrats on the Nic-Free year, that is f'n cool!

That is THUPER DUPER
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Re: Stone Cold Can Killer
« Reply #116 on: July 27, 2015, 11:24:00 AM »
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Year mark, congrats Tuco!
You are one BAD ASS M*th%r F*ck%r TUCO! Congratulations
Great job on your year taco! A premium grade badass quitter!
Congrats on the Nic-Free year, that is f'n cool!

That is THUPER DUPER

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Re: Stone Cold Can Killer
« Reply #115 on: July 27, 2015, 11:10:00 AM »
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Year mark, congrats Tuco!
You are one BAD ASS M*th%r F*ck%r TUCO! Congratulations
Great job on your year taco! A premium grade badass quitter!
Tobacco is so addictive it took me a year after a massive heart attack, in which doctor confirmed caused from dipping to finally put a lid on the bitch! ODAAT EDD

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Re: Stone Cold Can Killer
« Reply #114 on: July 27, 2015, 10:48:00 AM »
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Year mark, congrats Tuco!
You are one BAD ASS M*th%r F*ck%r TUCO! Congratulations
KISS MY ASS, I DON'T NEED YOU ANY LONGER.

ACTUALLY I NEVER NEEDED YOU, I WAS JUST TO FUCKING WEAK TO REALIZE I WAS ADDICTED TO YOUR FUCKING SHIT!

NOW I KNOW!


I use to use Cope to Cope for over 30 years, now I have to Cope without Cope just to Cope.

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Re: Stone Cold Can Killer
« Reply #113 on: July 27, 2015, 09:22:00 AM »
Year mark, congrats Tuco!

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Re: Stone Cold Can Killer
« Reply #112 on: June 08, 2015, 02:25:00 PM »
Tuco, belated congrats on being a 3rd floor resident. Just wanted to pop into your intro page and thank you for the encouragement you've given me and the Sept Samurai. Means a lot.

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Re: Stone Cold Can Killer
« Reply #111 on: June 05, 2015, 07:06:00 AM »
quit perfection right there. Reward and reminder all in one.
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Re: Stone Cold Can Killer
« Reply #110 on: June 03, 2015, 01:58:00 PM »
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Day 312, and a belated thanks to everyone for the well-wishes on hitting the third floor. Time is really starting to fly now, and I'm realizing it has been a while since I updated anything in my intro. Plenty has happened, but I won't attempt to recap any of that now. Instead, I've got a little anecdote I thought I would share so that I don't forget about it later.

This morning, I grabbed a pair of pants that I haven't worn since sometime last summer. When I put them on, I could feel some paper wadded up in one of the front pockets, and my first thought was, "Well, fuck."

Back when I was using, I would typically wrap up a nic mint or two in some kleenex and put it in my pocket if I was going to be going out with the family for a while and needed to get my fix. It turns out I had those little fuckers stashed everywhere. Over the past year, nic mint bottles (full and empty) as well as individual ones have popped up from one place to the next. They're like cockroaches. I naturally assumed that I had inadvertently stumbled upon yet another stash in my pants pocket.

When I reached in and pulled out the paper, I was pleasantly surprised to find 3 Trident wrappers and restaurant receipt instead. Trash. The receipt was dated August 7 and I quickly remembered that was my first "date night" with my wife after I quit. It was nice to be out, just the two of us, but I mostly recall sitting there gutting it out through the suck while my wife enjoyed her dinner. I also remember how my phone was blowing up with txts from grizzleyslayer, telling me he had just caved and freaking out over what he should do. That would be my first direct contact with someone else's cave, and that sudden realization of "I better not fuck this up if I'm telling this guy to sack up and get back on the horse."

It's funny how a few pieces of trash can come to symbolize so much. Rather than having yet another reminder of the routine lengths I would go to in order to hide and feed my addiction, I was rewarded with a reminder that I put a stop to that shit nearly a year ago. As the +1's begin to pile up and blend together, it's nice to pin a gold star on one today.
Thanks for sharing Tuco... that's a good little read. Throughout my quit I stumble upon numerous items/thoughts that lead me to reflect on the poor choices I made as a user of nicotine. Whether it be trying to sneak one without someone knowing or making excuses to have another dip, it was until I made the decision to quit did I realize how bad I was. It's a terrible lifestyle and it's nice to come across those little reminders to reassure you've made one of the best decisions in your life.