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[bonzo74]

Thanks Bean. I will post something in the group about obtaining some numbers and stay in contact. Main thing for me is not to get ahead of myself. Too often I am looking ahead and trying to plan something and as a result, I loose sight of today and lapse. I will make it a goal that I make at least 2 calls a day even to check in. Thanks for the help!

[Bean]

I appreciate the encouragement and the compliment of having a hot ass wife! Doing ok on day one, but I know that will vary as time marches on, but as for now ok. I feel like I need a plan or something so I have some structure. Any suggestions?

I printed off The Contract and kept it in my truck. Driving was one of my biggest triggers...that and meals. I don't have it anymore, but someone will. Also, get phone numbers from Nov 2012 group. Exchange promises with someone that you will call before you cave. Print cancer pics...they never dissuaded me, but maybe they work for you. I also got a ton of resolve from the Tom  Jenny Kern story.

Replacement activities...I walk after dinner instead of dipping. I cut back on couch potato time too. Hope this helps!

[bonzo74]

I appreciate the encouragement and the compliment of having a hot ass wife! Doing ok on day one, but I know that will vary as time marches on, but as for now ok. I feel like I need a plan or something so I have some structure. Any suggestions?

[jeremyrossnorris]

This cold turkey way is making me an Ill and pissy . My and my wife is fussing .

[Radman]

Bean said it well. I'm proud to say I posted roll with him at over 700 days this morning. Our stories read much like yours, so accept that it can be done.

I understand your situation well. We are no different than the despised meth addict. Nicotine is a powerful adversary and reduces us to pitiful examples of humanity. I'm not proud of who I was, but that is in the past. Read some intros and HOF speeches. It will strengthen your resolve. Mine is linked at the bottom of each and every one of my posts. Reach out if you need something. We're only a PM away, and there are lots of us out here to help you.

One day at a time.

[Bean]

Welcome Bonzo -

Your story is very familiar. You have "stopped" before, but you haven't "quit." So you can do it...you just can't keep it. Click on the pink Welcome Center link above and read. Learn how to post roll. That is your daily promise that no matter what happens today, you won't put any nicotine in your body. The wake up and do it again tomorrow.

Quitting forever is hard. But nobody is aksing you to do that. In fact, don't think about tomorrow, next week or next year. We'll worry about them when they get here. Just focus on staying quit today...and anybody can go one day, right? That's all we're doing here...quitting today.

Just focus on today. You can't change the past. And nobody knows the future. So don't think about them. All you can do is control yourself right now...today.

Also, make sure your quitting for the right reason...yourself. Your hot-ass wife (you did say she was hot, right...well, it is a reasonable inference) may be a great bonus, but you must quit for you. If you quit for some other reason (like your job, family, friends, or your aforementioned hot-ass wife), and something happened to them or you lost your job, you wouldn't want to lose your motivation. That is why quitting has to be a very selfish endeavor. Think, "I'm quit today because I want to make me a better me." No more hiding, lying, and bullshit.

You take the first step, and we'll help you with the rest. So post roll. Your Quit Group is November 2012. If you need help, just PM me or post here (like you already did) and one of the mods will be in touch.

Stay strong, stay quit!

[bonzo74]

Today is my first of many attempts to quit smokelss tobacco. I've struggled with this for many years, and have had some success, but to no evail I go back to it. It is very humbling in that I work with people who struggle with addictions and yet I have a hard time putting down my own. It is the only wedge in my marriage and I mean the only. I have a great family and an awesome wife and it pains me that I sneak it and hide from her and when she finds out it is so devastating to her. Not because I am using it, but the deceitfulness of it all. In all honesty I will say that reaching out on this forum is the first time trying to use outside support and swallowing my pride, since I thought that I am educated enough to do this on my own. Thanks in advance for the support and look forward to my journey on being tobacco free.