There is no way around it: quitting is going to suck for a while. You have to be resolved that you are going to succeed no matter what the addiction throws at you, and then focus on managing the symptoms. It sounds like you're on the right track.
Here are some ideas for managing the anger:
1. Come to this site and rant. Abuse us; we've been
exactly where you are now, we understand, and we can take it. Chances are your family will not understand and should not have to take your shit.
2. For the first few weeks, you may have to pretend to be calm and pretend that you don't hate everything. You don't have to like it, you just have to do it.
3. Find a harmless outlet for your anger. A few of my favorites:
- Beating on a trash can with an axe handle.
- Working a punching bag with my heavy work boots on.
- Smashing holes in scrap plywood with a framing hammer.
4. Accept that you will just be uncomfortable and pissed off for a while and just be ready to live with it. I really found that once I accepted it, the anger and withdrawals became a non-issue.
The foundation of quitting on this site is posting roll call promising not to use nicotine today. Then all you have to do is keep your promise for the day, and come back tomorrow and do it again. You can start your quit right now if you spit out the dip and post a day-1 in the November quit group. Hundreds of people on this site have quit successfully by following this simple approach; you can too. Here are a couple of links to get you started:
roll call... why we do ithow to post roll call