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Re: Introduction: Matt from VA
« Reply #15 on: December 05, 2015, 08:45:00 AM »
Where is this guy?

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Re: Introduction: Matt from VA
« Reply #14 on: November 30, 2015, 01:57:00 PM »
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I feel a little weird about it, not because I don't feel confident about never using nicotine again, but because I felt a sense of sadness from saying good by forever.
Welcome MSBaseball and congrats on making the best decision you'll likely ever make. After all you get your freedom and your health (saved your lips, jaw, teeth, throat, and possibly your life).

Confidence is a good thing but I had a hard time wrapping my head around "forever." That's exactly why I'm focused on quitting TODAY. That one day at a time mindset has worked for me so maybe it can for you too.

Again, welcome to the suck and don't hesitate to contact me if you need anything.

Proud to quit with you today.

Ron
^^^^ QFT. I used to think I needed dip as well. I didn't and I don't. It's hard at first, but you are only quitting for today - worry about tomorrow then.
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Re: Introduction: Matt from VA
« Reply #13 on: November 30, 2015, 01:46:00 PM »
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I feel a little weird about it, not because I don't feel confident about never using nicotine again, but because I felt a sense of sadness from saying good by forever.
Welcome MSBaseball and congrats on making the best decision you'll likely ever make. After all you get your freedom and your health (saved your lips, jaw, teeth, throat, and possibly your life).

Confidence is a good thing but I had a hard time wrapping my head around "forever." That's exactly why I'm focused on quitting TODAY. That one day at a time mindset has worked for me so maybe it can for you too.

Again, welcome to the suck and don't hesitate to contact me if you need anything.

Proud to quit with you today.

Ron
Tomorrow marks the 9 year anniversary of you being gone. I can't believe all that has happened since you have been gone, 3 of the 4 have graduated high school, 2 of the 4 graduated college, 1 had a baby, we all have jobs, we all got our licenses. I honestly never thought I would make it this far. I so wish that you could be here with me, Alexa, Connor, and Tori. Seeing all of the things we have accomlished...and everything that we still have yet to accomplish. Graduating high school, moving in at college, graduating college, having kids, buying a house, baseball games, first jobs, first girlfriends/boyfriends. I know that you are proud of each and everyone of us, but I/we need to hear it from you. We want you to be here to tell us "Nice pitch", "Congratulations on graduating", "Have I told you I loved you yet today?" (which Kenra and I try to do everyday now :)) It is sometimes just hard to get through the day. And to think...all this over a stupid dip...who would have thought?

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Re: Introduction: Matt from VA
« Reply #12 on: November 30, 2015, 12:15:00 PM »
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Still trying to understand why I felt a sense of "loss" when making the permanent decision to stop dipping.
When you are addicted to a drug, the drug is your mistress, and everyone and everything else in your life is secondary to your relationship to that mistress. So when you give up the drug, it is like you are giving up your mistress.

But the relationship was abusive from the start.

Most of us found this mistress while we were minors and still jail bait, but she didn't care, and seduced us anyway. She daily takes our money and poisons us, and comes in between all of our relationships with other people. No one can figure out what we see in her.

So when you finally say good-bye, it feels lonely. But once you get her out of your system and put your life together without her, you realize that the relationship was abusive from the beginning. Then you quit feeling lonely, and wonder how you could be so fucking dumb for so long, and so you get angry.

And that's how you need to be, angry that you have allowed yourself to remain in this abusive relationship for so long.

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Re: Introduction: Matt from VA
« Reply #11 on: November 30, 2015, 08:53:00 AM »
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Still trying to understand why I felt a sense of "loss"
When I quit and sat by the toilet bowl watching 3 cans of cope swirl down I bawled like a baby. After a 40+ year love hate affair with Copenhagen I knew I that was losing this companion that had been in my lip through all my life experiences. I didn't know how to deal with life's experiences without nicotine because at 54 years old is never dealt with adult life without it. You are about to discover that your nicotine use is much more than a bad habit, it's a addiction that is on par with any illegal drug.
...and that breaking free from the bonds of addiction, while very difficult, is liberating in ways that you would never expect....
Kind of pathetic huh, ...that you (we) felt a sense of loss when we flushed our last cans. That, my friend, is addiction at its finest. Round these parts we call that romancing the can. As m'man work alludes to, once you break free from its chains, the liberation is unfathomable - if you make it that way. Heed the words of the sound quit gospel that these badass quitters have given you.

Quitting is like an investment that returns 10-fold on how much you put into it. The more you put into your quit the higher the return.
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Re: Introduction: Matt from VA
« Reply #10 on: November 30, 2015, 04:45:00 AM »
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Still trying to understand why I felt a sense of "loss"
When I quit and sat by the toilet bowl watching 3 cans of cope swirl down I bawled like a baby. After a 40+ year love hate affair with Copenhagen I knew I that was losing this companion that had been in my lip through all my life experiences. I didn't know how to deal with life's experiences without nicotine because at 54 years old is never dealt with adult life without it. You are about to discover that your nicotine use is much more than a bad habit, it's a addiction that is on par with any illegal drug.
...and that breaking free from the bonds of addiction, while very difficult, is liberating in ways that you would never expect....

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Re: Introduction: Matt from VA
« Reply #9 on: November 30, 2015, 02:45:00 AM »
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Still trying to understand why I felt a sense of "loss"
When I quit and sat by the toilet bowl watching 3 cans of cope swirl down I bawled like a baby. After a 40+ year love hate affair with Copenhagen I knew I that was losing this companion that had been in my lip through all my life experiences. I didn't know how to deal with life's experiences without nicotine because at 54 years old is never dealt with adult life without it. You are about to discover that your nicotine use is much more than a bad habit, it's a addiction that is on par with any illegal drug.
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Re: Introduction: Matt from VA
« Reply #8 on: November 29, 2015, 10:15:00 PM »
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Matts...i dropped this the March quit room...but just in case you didn't see it....This is the life you need to start living

READ THIS

Your are an Addict and the first step is realizing that.....You need treat yourself accordingly and not let your addict mind convince you to do something you know isn't right - (ie..put that shit in your mouth again)....The most important thing we do here is post roll...we do that every morning and as soon as we get up....By Posting Roll you are making a promise to yourself and every one of your supporters that you will not use nicotine for that day...You will repeat this every day....Wake up / Piss / Post Roll  that is what gets me thru the day.

At the beginning of your quit:
*drink shit loads of water / go to the gym / stay busy
*the nicotine should be out of your system after 3 days of quit....keep flushing your body with water
*stay busy....STAY BUSY...any thing you can do to keep your mind off of dipping
*find something to substitute for the oral fixation - seeds, gum, hard candy, fake stuff....what ever works for you
*come on this site and read as much as you can...lots of good stories about Bad Ass Quitters and their fight against the evil weed
*at night - go onto live chat and kick around
*post support in other quit groups - start with March2015 - we will be watching you from this point forward
*get to know other quitters in your group...exchange digits...start building a network of accountability....not one quitter has been able to this this alone - you will need support
*NO ALCOHOL for at least the first 30 days....many a good quitter has caved after getting a buzz on
*Tell your friends and family your quit....they can help hold you accountable

Bottom Line....you have to want to do this for this to work.....you can't be quitting because someone else wants you to quit....It has to be You

Post Roll Every Dam Day....Make your promise early
Listen, read ,post early every day, do this every day and be a man of your word and you got it! This shits hard, so get you some numbers and stay active! You're not alone now and that's awesome. Make sure to ask any questions. Damn proud of you! Quit on!
Tobacco is so addictive it took me a year after a massive heart attack, in which doctor confirmed caused from dipping to finally put a lid on the bitch! ODAAT EDD

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Re: Introduction: Matt from VA
« Reply #7 on: November 29, 2015, 05:59:00 PM »
Matts...i dropped this the March quit room...but just in case you didn't see it....This is the life you need to start living

READ THIS

Your are an Addict and the first step is realizing that.....You need treat yourself accordingly and not let your addict mind convince you to do something you know isn't right - (ie..put that shit in your mouth again)....The most important thing we do here is post roll...we do that every morning and as soon as we get up....By Posting Roll you are making a promise to yourself and every one of your supporters that you will not use nicotine for that day...You will repeat this every day....Wake up / Piss / Post Roll  that is what gets me thru the day.

At the beginning of your quit:
*drink shit loads of water / go to the gym / stay busy
*the nicotine should be out of your system after 3 days of quit....keep flushing your body with water
*stay busy....STAY BUSY...any thing you can do to keep your mind off of dipping
*find something to substitute for the oral fixation - seeds, gum, hard candy, fake stuff....what ever works for you
*come on this site and read as much as you can...lots of good stories about Bad Ass Quitters and their fight against the evil weed
*at night - go onto live chat and kick around
*post support in other quit groups - start with March2015 - we will be watching you from this point forward
*get to know other quitters in your group...exchange digits...start building a network of accountability....not one quitter has been able to this this alone - you will need support
*NO ALCOHOL for at least the first 30 days....many a good quitter has caved after getting a buzz on
*Tell your friends and family your quit....they can help hold you accountable

Bottom Line....you have to want to do this for this to work.....you can't be quitting because someone else wants you to quit....It has to be You

Post Roll Every Dam Day....Make your promise early
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Re: Introduction: Matt from VA
« Reply #6 on: November 29, 2015, 05:45:00 PM »
The only way to screw up roll is to not be on it.

Good decision to flush all, good follow up with posting roll. The trick is to post every morning when you first wake up. (And select all or Ctrl A, then cut or Ctrl X, instead of copy or Ctrl C).

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Re: Introduction: Matt from VA
« Reply #5 on: November 29, 2015, 05:39:00 PM »
Thanks for info and support! Got a bunch of smokey mountain and went to role call just now (don't know if I did it right). Look forward to going through it together and finally quiting this crap!

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Re: Introduction: Matt from VA
« Reply #4 on: November 29, 2015, 05:21:00 PM »
Go to the above link and post roll. Get numbers and make friends.
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Re: Introduction: Matt from VA
« Reply #3 on: November 29, 2015, 05:20:00 PM »
Jenny and Tom Kern

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Re: Introduction: Matt from VA
« Reply #2 on: November 29, 2015, 05:18:00 PM »
I don't know how long you have used my guess is it has been a crutch/fix/habit for so long.

The oral fixation in the beginning was tough for myself. I used and still at times use smokey mountain at times. Pick it up at walmart if you need to, no shame in it my opinion.

Congrats on making the right choice. I'm here if you need me.
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Introduction: Matt from VA
« on: November 29, 2015, 05:12:00 PM »
Well, just dumped all my dip down the toilet and decided I'm done with this crap. I feel a little weird about it, not because I don't feel confident about never using nicotine again, but because I felt a sense of sadness from saying good by forever. Still trying to understand why I felt a sense of "loss" when making the permanent decision to stop dipping. My logical mind knows it's not a big deal and that I'm making the right decision. That thinking just helps me to understand that I was really hooked. Thanks everyone for the info, support and help.

-MS