Hey everyone out there, I know that no one knows me so I thought I would introduce myself. I foolishly started smoking/using smokeless tobacco my senior year in high school and graduated to just "dip" after the birth of my first son. I thought it was something I would just outgrow and move away from eventually, but I always found the excuse to keep going with it. I got really good at hiding it...it started out only at work and then started doing it at home. I switched to pouches and putting it "upstairs" because that way I could hide it way back on my last tooth and gum by the back of your mouth. I figured out quickly that as long as I was drinking something, I could chew almost anywhere and not get caught.
I got a divorce about three to four years ago, and it was devastating. It had nothing to do with my chewing, and I was the one who initiated it. I thought I chewed a lot before that...yikes. During my divorce, and up to two years later I chewed almost all the time...hid it from my kids and my new girlfriend, and started the dishonesty all over again of hiding things and all that shit. I had a few nights where I passed out on the couch after having that "last beer/chew" of the night with the chew STILL IN MY MOUTH. I could've fucking died right there on the couch, and have my two kids aged 13 and 10 find me? What a fucking jerk I am....and I know better. I've seen this shit in my job...people dead for days, families destroyed by addiction...and here I am going the same thing, why? Because it's legal? Because lots of cops/military use tobacco? What a fucking jerk I am....
My girlfriend of two years and I were on vacation last week, and my buddy was there too. She asked if he chewed (he did) and I told her I thought he did. She mentioned how she could not support someone who did that, and talked about how gross it was and she would not kiss someone who did that. I didn't say a word and felt like the biggest asshole in the world. What a fucking coward I am.
I decided to quit the next day. After driving my buddy to the airport, I had my last one and it didn't even taste good. I was so mad at myself for becoming a slave to this shit. I have everything to lose....great career, wonderful/beautiful girlfriend and best friend, two awesome kids, beautiful new house, my health, etc....
I read about you guys about a year ago when I started to get serious about quitting. I tried 1/2 heartedly a couple times but this is different. I am going to be 42 years old, and I have been using tobacco in some way, shape, or form for over twenty years. I AM AN ADDICT. And I am ashamed of myself.
I've been clean for four days, and right now I am in the fog. But the only way in through.
Thanks to KTC for being here....You are all going to be sick of my ramblings in no time.