Quitting for the last time

[eric71]

Who is willing to help me out?

Dude, you wrote that. You, first and foremost have to be willing and committed to helping you out. This is going to be a bitch of a road to climb so first you have to come clean to your wife and the rest of your family. You have to understand that they will be upset and question you. But the pyscho-babble bullshit about them not trusting you or looking up to you is a mind fuck you are putting on yourself so you can stay addicted to nicotene. You have to see that first.

Here's what you can do:

1. Set the table properly. Clear the air and leave nothing out
2. Invite all your guests. The more in your quit group, the better your chance to stay quit
3. Post roll. First thing every morning, leave nothing to chance.
4. Get contact info and develop strong bonds with those in your quit group. You will need to lean on each other more than you can imagine.
5. Pray for guidance and strength. God gives us all we need in every aspect of our lives, it is up to us, though, to find where and why he leads us how He does.

Heed these words and push all your chips in, now is the time to change. Hit me up for contact info.

[ktb1764]

I'd give some serious thought about coming clean to your family. You need their support, and piling lies on top of lies won't solve anything. It's one less thing you'll be stressed over.

[LLCope]

God won't help you. He will instead pat you on the back after you do it yourself--but he will not do it for you.

This is simply about you NOT putting cancer in your mouth today. Some days will be very painful---some days will be easy. The key is to make a promise today to Quit today come Hell or High water.

I like your plan. Include in your plan to contact your Quit brothers or family and friends when things get bad. Caving is not an option if you post your promise---post your promise every day.

This is cliche but----ONE DAY AT A TIME! At the end of the day let God pat you on the back for what YOU accomplished.

LL

[SirDerek]

Hello Everyone! I lucked into this site tonight. I read a bunch of info and decided it was 100% time to quit for good.

Here is my bio

I am 39 years old. I started chewing at the age of 15 and chewed snuff in my upper lip till i was 33years old. My older brother was diagnosed with terminal esophogial cancer and i decided i was going to quit for me and hope he would be stronger and try to quit smoking during his chemo. It was easier than hell to quit, i stopped cold turkey, kicked its ass and told my self every day i was a winner and felt like a warrior that wouldnt loose, it was mind over matter and my mind always won. I stayed clean for 2 years and 2 months. After my brother passed away i kind of went weird in the head and had a midlife crisis, I wont go into details. But during this time i went bear hunting with a long time friend and at the time i was suffering from a very bad prostate infection, which i didnt know what it was so i was stressed beyond belief. While hunting i figured i would return home and be told i was dying from something. At my weakest point i decided to bum a chew off of my friend. I thought" Hell, i quit and one wont hurt" Well, bullshit, we all know where that leads. That was over 3 years ago. I have tried to quit more times than i want to admit. But here is my biggest problem with quitting.
my wife and family and kids helped me thru it as they all new i chewed and encouraged me daily and told me how proud they were of me every day. Well the truth is they dont know i started up again. IT really sucks that i chew pouches as i can have one in and no one is the wiser. It would kill my wife to know i started and kept it from her.
I feel terrible about the whole decieving part put the chew is the worst demon i have ever had. I quit for 3-5 days and turn into an asshole and try to control my short bouts of rage and then decide to start again before i go to far. I am between a rock and a hard place. I want my wife to still look up to me but if i tell her i started again then she will always doubt everything i do.
I want to quit and be done with this shit. I did it once and it was easy, i just need some support. Who is willing to help me out? I know i can do this with some support.
I dumped my last can 15 minutes ago and plan to start the first day of the rest of my life tomorrow. I plan on putting some things in place first thing when i get off of the pc.

1. Not the best Christian but i am going to pray and beg God to help me be strong and give me some help thru this and keep doing it till i have no more cravings even if its the rest of my life

2.pay for gas with a credit card and not walk into a gas station
3 Buy 4 bags of wintergreen life savers, 4 bags of sunflower seeds, 2 packs of gum
4. tell my self every few minutes that i dont chew and that i am strong and a winner, sounds gay but it worked for me the first time.

Yep, thats my plan for tomorrow. I just remember how i felt after quiting the first time, i felt like i was 10 feet tall and bullet proof, now i just feel like a big piece of shit, weak, second class citizen.
I will check in as often as i can during everyday and may need to lean on a few of you and you can do the same to me. This is a big deal for me

Here is to a new day, please keep me in your prayers and thoughts!


DiverFreak

Hey man, glad you made the decision that you have.

got one more item on that list of things to do. and that is while you are on this site, that is when you wake up each morning, to come in here and make a single promise to yourself and your brothers here that you will remain nicotene free for a day. That is all we ask.

And tomorrow repeat.

take in the information that is here on the site, and yell out if you have any questions

[diverfreak]

Hello Everyone! I lucked into this site tonight. I read a bunch of info and decided it was 100% time to quit for good.

Here is my bio

I am 39 years old. I started chewing at the age of 15 and chewed snuff in my upper lip till i was 33years old. My older brother was diagnosed with terminal esophogial cancer and i decided i was going to quit for me and hope he would be stronger and try to quit smoking during his chemo. It was easier than hell to quit, i stopped cold turkey, kicked its ass and told my self every day i was a winner and felt like a warrior that wouldnt loose, it was mind over matter and my mind always won. I stayed clean for 2 years and 2 months. After my brother passed away i kind of went weird in the head and had a midlife crisis, I wont go into details. But during this time i went bear hunting with a long time friend and at the time i was suffering from a very bad prostate infection, which i didnt know what it was so i was stressed beyond belief. While hunting i figured i would return home and be told i was dying from something. At my weakest point i decided to bum a chew off of my friend. I thought" Hell, i quit and one wont hurt" Well, bullshit, we all know where that leads. That was over 3 years ago. I have tried to quit more times than i want to admit. But here is my biggest problem with quitting.
my wife and family and kids helped me thru it as they all new i chewed and encouraged me daily and told me how proud they were of me every day. Well the truth is they dont know i started up again. IT really sucks that i chew pouches as i can have one in and no one is the wiser. It would kill my wife to know i started and kept it from her.
I feel terrible about the whole decieving part put the chew is the worst demon i have ever had. I quit for 3-5 days and turn into an asshole and try to control my short bouts of rage and then decide to start again before i go to far. I am between a rock and a hard place. I want my wife to still look up to me but if i tell her i started again then she will always doubt everything i do.
I want to quit and be done with this shit. I did it once and it was easy, i just need some support. Who is willing to help me out? I know i can do this with some support.
I dumped my last can 15 minutes ago and plan to start the first day of the rest of my life tomorrow. I plan on putting some things in place first thing when i get off of the pc.

1. Not the best Christian but i am going to pray and beg God to help me be strong and give me some help thru this and keep doing it till i have no more cravings even if its the rest of my life

2.pay for gas with a credit card and not walk into a gas station
3 Buy 4 bags of wintergreen life savers, 4 bags of sunflower seeds, 2 packs of gum
4. tell my self every few minutes that i dont chew and that i am strong and a winner, sounds gay but it worked for me the first time.

Yep, thats my plan for tomorrow. I just remember how i felt after quiting the first time, i felt like i was 10 feet tall and bullet proof, now i just feel like a big piece of shit, weak, second class citizen.
I will check in as often as i can during everyday and may need to lean on a few of you and you can do the same to me. This is a big deal for me

Here is to a new day, please keep me in your prayers and thoughts!


DiverFreak