I haven't posted anything meaningful here in a while and I have a few minutes while my umpiring clothes dry and I have to hang them up, so....
Aggieheismanziel is part of a text group that I was added to probably 14 days into my quit. The other members of this group are Slug.go (known badass), Krusty (saved my ass already), myself (not as badass, but a 100% poster and admitted addict) and Grizzlyhasclaws (Absolute badass that just reached the 2nd floor). Aggie sent us a text today and confessed that he had caved. When I read it, it felt like I had been punched in the gut. I knew that he hadn't been participating in the group texts lately, but he had just moved and work was keeping him busy.....so, I didn't worry about it
I considered caving often early in my quit. The days were so damn hard. Not having my fix was so damn hard. Not having a lip full of shit was hard. Not spitting was hard. Every time I thought of caving, I thought about having to send that text message to these guys (before they had become even more bad ass) and tell them I failed. The thought of doing that just crushed me. I couldn't imagine facing these guys after letting them down.
Aggie's reason was that he was drunk by a pool and was offered a cigarette. I went on a bachelor party 2 weekends ago with all of my dipping buddies. I knew I would be tanked the entire weekend and would have ample opportunities to cave. I made a quit plan, told my text group about it and then was held accountable by Krusty while I was shit hammered. The cab driver took my room key to figure out where I was staying kind of drunk.
Long story short - build a fucking network and invest in your immediate peers. Don't let a guy go long without checking in. Don't think that your quit only matters to you. Others are depending on you. Don't be a selfish asshole, give a damn about somebody else and their quit.
Aggie apologized to our group and I do appreciate that he was man enough to come back and admit he screwed up. I wish he would have come to us before he caved, maybe I would still be behind his day count.....