I took yesterday pretty hard, today I am taking a little bit better. I have begunforming a plan and that plan involves a good friend of mine who is a sometimes dipper (seems not to have a problem never doing it)
Brad used to play bass in my band and is my best friend and he has pledged to quit with me. WHether he smokes or whatever he decides to do, which is his perogative, he has told me he will not dip because he wants to see me succeed.
don't hitch your quit train to an engine that's you're not 1000% confident in. if brad has a weak moment, your quit is fucked with your current plan.
you need to rely on YOU. sure, have support; have numbers to call. but don't quit "with" someone. i am quit for me. when my friend caved, i cared personally, but my quit didn't give a shit. he's back on the wagon, and i'm happy about that, but my quit really still doesn't give a shit.
don't just post roll in feb. you have more to offer than just that. you can be their guide. hell, you've been through the shit enough times to know what's coming. you know the pitfalls. get VOCAL and be a leader. trust me, the more you post and offer advice, support, and wisdom, the less likely you'll cave. no one likes being a hypocrite... get to know your new quit brothers. call them. text them. tough to shit all over FRIENDS and not just usernames/avatars.
right there is a better fucking plan than hitching your wagon to someone who's still going to be using nicotine and a sister who loves you but has NO FUCKING CLUE what quitting dip is like.
buy in. drink deep of the koolaid. get invested.
stay quit.