I went back and read the PM, 2 days before you came back. You were in mental pain......wanted to quit but were afraid of failing....... Guess what, you wanted your quit more than succumbing to your fears, I admire that!
That is a huge stumbling block for a lot of guys coming to KTC. The fear. It can be paralyzing!
The following is one of the PMs exchanged.
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ChickDip · May 22 2015, 12:26 PMForward
Hey girl, still here for you if you need anything.
Like I said, i won't bother you any more on your phone unless you reach out for help first.
Just wanted to let you know that
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AshleyLynn · May 29 2015, 10:45 AMReport Post Forward
Thank you.
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AshleyLynn · May 29 2015, 10:59 AMReport Post Forward
Every day I think about quitting. Every. Single. Day. I get on this site all the time, read the stories, etc. and every day I say fuck it because I know I'll fail again. I'm too stressed, it calms me, I need it... All the same lame ass excuses I've always used.
I wake up and say "no snuff today" and make it until about 1pm. Then the kids are screaming, I need to clean, I have to drive somewhere, so on and so on. Triggers. So I put a dip in. I'll be back to post a day 1 when I know I won't fail. I know that's lame and I should just post a day 1 now but I'm not a liar and I can't fail again. That's all I got.
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ChickDip · May 29 2015, 12:44 PMForward
wow, i hear you loud and clear. you have to have your mind strong and right to quit! get some fake stuff ahead of time to be ready for it when you jump in when you really want to quit, quit for good.
it doesn't calm you..... it is poisoning you girl.. you know that.
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2 DAYS LATER SHE QUIT, REALLY QUIT, HARD AND HEAVY.
SHE BEAT HER FEAR WITH HER DESIRE TO LIVE, ANYONE CAN DO IT.
Thank you girl. This is crazy to read because I remember this so vividly. I remember thinking "why does this chick care so much if I quit or not". And I remember getting on and having messages from you and others encouraging me to come back. I owe the people here that have strengthened my quit so much. Thanks for being my rock girl! Love you! Xoxo
Congrats on a year AshleyLynn! And thanks for connecting with me - you are a BAQ and I am proud to quit with you EDD. B)B
Congratulations on your one of many years proud of you!! Thanks for always having my back!
Congrats on 1 year quit!!!!!!!!!!
That is one hell of a story of perseverance Ash. Nic had some deep claws in you and I hope you're damn proud that you've beaten them back for a full year. Congrats on that first lap and keep it up!
To ChickDips' Little Cookie....
Sorry I missed your one year anniversary. I feel like a heel. You, Chick, Jenahen, BAM0821, M5 Shelly, Ms. Ginet, Electra, Daisy, Sage, 2Mch2live4, SamCat, KGirl, and others I'm sure I have missed make this place much nicer (and probably cut down on some of the ass-hattedness that would otherwise ensue!).
Proud of you and your stick-to-it-ive-ness.... you have shown what perseverance is all about, and in the process have developed your own massive quit legend! Awesome!
Again, sorry I'm late....just wanted you to know I was proud of you on this huge anniversary....now that a year's gone, there's NOTHING you haven't seen without a dip!!
