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Re: General Discussion - 2020
« Reply #256 on: October 27, 2020, 09:08:33 AM »
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Re: General Discussion - 2020
« Reply #255 on: October 23, 2020, 12:26:12 PM »
Blanket Posting at End of Day:

I have noticed a trend over the past few weeks, since I've had a reason to be on the site late into the evenings. What's the deal with all these 'vets' just blanket posting support across every single month at the end of the night? TBH I find it disrespectful, because we tell quitters that they need to WUPP or their promise doesn't mean shit. That's how I feel about this practice. Your support doesn't mean shit to me if your dropping it in at 11:45PM and quite frankly I resent my group being used to bolster your post count.

And if you're going to do it, at least have the decency not to post over a flipped roll.
The vets that post support across multiple groups at the end of the day typically WUPP but come back when family/personal life allows to show support to other groups. While maybe it would be ideal if everyone had time in the mornings, posting support can occur at any time of the day to express solidarity with groups, both old and new.

I doubt the majority of those exhibiting this behavior are doing it bolster a post count. They are taking time out of their day to post in groups outside of their own. While I understand your position, I'd challenge you to be thankful for their presence at any time of the day and maybe share digits with a couple of them. I miss people posting support in my group; we have a handful of loyal supports each day but not to the volume there once was.

You can't control who comes into your group and posts support. If they are posting over an already flipped roll, either reach out to them and ask them to be more aware or maybe re-evaluate if roll is being flipped too "early" in the evening.
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Re: General Discussion - 2020
« Reply #254 on: October 23, 2020, 08:29:59 AM »
Where y’all from?
Southeast Texas here.

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Eastern suburb of Cleveland in the house.
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Re: General Discussion - 2020
« Reply #253 on: October 23, 2020, 06:51:45 AM »
Where y’all from?
Southeast Texas here.

Southwest Pennsylvania checking in.

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Re: General Discussion - 2020
« Reply #252 on: October 22, 2020, 11:53:50 PM »
Blanket Posting at End of Day:

I have noticed a trend over the past few weeks, since I've had a reason to be on the site late into the evenings. What's the deal with all these 'vets' just blanket posting support across every single month at the end of the night? TBH I find it disrespectful, because we tell quitters that they need to WUPP or their promise doesn't mean shit. That's how I feel about this practice. Your support doesn't mean shit to me if your dropping it in at 11:45PM and quite frankly I resent my group being used to bolster your post count.

And if you're going to do it, at least have the decency not to post over a flipped roll.

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Re: General Discussion - 2020
« Reply #251 on: October 22, 2020, 11:05:57 PM »
Where y’all from?
Southeast Texas here.

Way up in Northern BC, Canada. I’d love to visit the southern states one day

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Re: General Discussion - 2020
« Reply #250 on: October 22, 2020, 09:29:46 PM »
Where y’all from?
Southeast Texas here.

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Re: General Discussion - 2020
« Reply #249 on: October 22, 2020, 09:14:23 AM »
I don’t know if this is the place to post this but I’m new so the heck with it. 
What do or did y’all do for long road trips? I used to have a lip in the whole way keeping me awake and going. Now i have a trip to Georgia coming up from Chicago and i don’t know how I’m going to keep it moving. Right now I’ve been using flavored tooth picks but it drys my mouth if i use too many. So looking for other suggestions.

@Sledrider - there's a GANG of outstanding alternative products that contain NO TOBACCO and NO NICOTINE. These products can be your best friend on a long road trip. They saved my quit many times.

https://www.killthecan.org/your-quit/smokeless-alternatives/

For me personally I’d be scared to use the fake stuff fearing that it’d lead me back to snuff or does that not happen really?

If using the fake / non nicotine alternatives help you stay nicotine free then do not be ascared to use it. I have never heard anyone say that using the fake lead them back to snuff.  It has helped many quitters stay nicotine free.  As for myself I used the fake on the golf course for a couple months. I weaned off only because my gums were already in bad shape.
For long trips, I stocked up on gums, toothpicks, hard candies, etc
@WishedIQuitSooner that is a common and valid concern many quitters share. The fact of the matter is that none of the fake products are addictive since they don't contain any nicotine. If you choose to use the fake substitutes, there will ultimately come a day where you find you don't want anything in your lip anymore. For me my gums/lips healed to a point where the fake was actually uncomfortable. But everyone on here that has employed fake dip as a tool has phased it out with no issue. But it's a personal decision so do what you feel is best for you and your quit.
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Re: General Discussion - 2020
« Reply #248 on: October 21, 2020, 11:26:56 PM »
I don’t know if this is the place to post this but I’m new so the heck with it. 
What do or did y’all do for long road trips? I used to have a lip in the whole way keeping me awake and going. Now i have a trip to Georgia coming up from Chicago and i don’t know how I’m going to keep it moving. Right now I’ve been using flavored tooth picks but it drys my mouth if i use too many. So looking for other suggestions.

@Sledrider - there's a GANG of outstanding alternative products that contain NO TOBACCO and NO NICOTINE. These products can be your best friend on a long road trip. They saved my quit many times.

https://www.killthecan.org/your-quit/smokeless-alternatives/

For me personally I’d be scared to use the fake stuff fearing that it’d lead me back to snuff or does that not happen really?

If using the fake / non nicotine alternatives help you stay nicotine free then do not be ascared to use it. I have never heard anyone say that using the fake lead them back to snuff.  It has helped many quitters stay nicotine free.  As for myself I used the fake on the golf course for a couple months. I weaned off only because my gums were already in bad shape.
For long trips, I stocked up on gums, toothpicks, hard candies, etc
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Re: General Discussion - 2020
« Reply #247 on: October 21, 2020, 09:35:18 PM »
I don’t know if this is the place to post this but I’m new so the heck with it. 
What do or did y’all do for long road trips? I used to have a lip in the whole way keeping me awake and going. Now i have a trip to Georgia coming up from Chicago and i don’t know how I’m going to keep it moving. Right now I’ve been using flavored tooth picks but it drys my mouth if i use too many. So looking for other suggestions.

@Sledrider - there's a GANG of outstanding alternative products that contain NO TOBACCO and NO NICOTINE. These products can be your best friend on a long road trip. They saved my quit many times.

https://www.killthecan.org/your-quit/smokeless-alternatives/

For me personally I’d be scared to use the fake stuff fearing that it’d lead me back to snuff or does that not happen really?

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Re: General Discussion - 2020
« Reply #246 on: October 20, 2020, 07:46:12 AM »
I don’t know if this is the place to post this but I’m new so the heck with it. 
What do or did y’all do for long road trips? I used to have a lip in the whole way keeping me awake and going. Now i have a trip to Georgia coming up from Chicago and i don’t know how I’m going to keep it moving. Right now I’ve been using flavored tooth picks but it drys my mouth if i use too many. So looking for other suggestions.

@Sledrider - there's a GANG of outstanding alternative products that contain NO TOBACCO and NO NICOTINE. These products can be your best friend on a long road trip. They saved my quit many times.

https://www.killthecan.org/your-quit/smokeless-alternatives/
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Re: General Discussion - 2020
« Reply #245 on: October 20, 2020, 06:40:46 AM »
I don’t know if this is the place to post this but I’m new so the heck with it. 
What do or did y’all do for long road trips? I used to have a lip in the whole way keeping me awake and going. Now i have a trip to Georgia coming up from Chicago and i don’t know how I’m going to keep it moving. Right now I’ve been using flavored tooth picks but it drys my mouth if i use too many. So looking for other suggestions.

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Re: General Discussion - 2020
« Reply #244 on: October 18, 2020, 11:59:51 AM »
I'd never gone back to read my Hof speech when writing my comma. Thank you for putting both together; it does show a change in thought patterns. Not a forced change or even a change I was aware of. But a subtle change that life naturally allowed. It's good to not live a lie.

This is GREAT stuff @Oliver88 - thanks for putting it out there!

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Re: General Discussion - 2020
« Reply #243 on: October 17, 2020, 09:54:44 AM »
This is GREAT stuff @Oliver88 - thanks for putting it out there!

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https://www.killthecan.org/oliver88-comma-club-uncertainty/
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Re: General Discussion - 2020
« Reply #242 on: October 16, 2020, 12:39:17 PM »
I've just reached 3 weeks, and I am really buzzed by that! One thing that has been HUGE for me since day 3 of my quit has been anxiety. It's just about reached stella proportions this week as I have to have an upper endoscopy on Friday due to gastric bleeding.

I've been doing all of the things to take care of anxiety over the procedure and the reason for it as best as I can, but in general this third week has been a beast with increased anxiety, tension, feeling like I'm going to lose the plot and the accumulated effects of insomnia since day 5. Do any veterans have any tips how I might get over this hump, and if it's normal at this time? I'm also having bad brain fog, but after reading a superb post by a member here I'm guessing that's all about the neurotransmitters (and must be where the 'non worry' anxiety that just strikes out of the blue is coming from, too).

Many thanks for reading.

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I too had very bad anxiety and a non stop crying spell. The best thing you can do for yourself is to tell your doctor what is going on. I am on anti-anxiety meds(Lexapro) and will stay put on them for a while. I like you also had a medical condition that scared the beejeezers out of me, but be certain that everything will turn out for the best as 99% of the stuff you worry about will never happen. As for the post I made earlier I found that on Google and found that Chewie posted an article on it quite some time before, therefore I can't take credit for it. It did indeed help me and still does as I reread it sometimes. Keep On Keeping On, it gets better I promise.

I really appreciate your kind and thoughtful reply - thank you for taking the time. It's so helpful to hear from someone who truly understands how these things can effect you.

I'm a little leary of starting an antidepressant for anxiety as I had a rough time trying one when I entered menopause but I'm not ruling it out completely if I really need it. It's very important to me that I stay the course and I'll use every tool I need to to make that happen.

I'm so very glad that you shared that post as it's something that I can carry with me. I'm also so glad that you are succeeding on your journey, it's truly an inspiring achievement and I take my hat off to you as a fellow quitter who is now treading that path behind you.

Oh and Scotland is awesome, loved visiting Edinburgh and Loch Ness. My neighbor is also from there.

I'm so glad that you've visited Scotland! Awesome that your neighbour is a Scot, too. :D