General Discussion - 2016

[Deleted User]

My husband is 7 days into his quit.
Or my husband tells me that he is 7 days into his quit.
I told myself he was quitting for himself.
It's obvious now he is quitting for me.
When I make a big deal, he tells me to stop, I start to think that maybe it is because he's not quit, is his concise getting to him, I wonder?
I helped him make an account on here, he won't post, he's says he doesn't need to.
He talks about "problems in his life" and "needing dip."
He talks about dip like it's an entitlement.
He says he might "buy a few cans per year"
He says quitting is "easy"
I thought I could stay strong.
I prepared to be his support.
He doesn't want this quit.
I hate worrying about him.
I find myself distancing myself from him, I'm afraid for his life, he's gambled with these poisons so long.
Tonight I offered to go with him to run an errand, he accused me of only wanting to go because I wanted to stop him from buying a can, but I know that I can't stop him, only he can.
So for now I pray and choose to wait.
If he fails, I will love him still. If he doesn't fail, I'll be proud, so so proud.
Dipping is difficult on spouses. And all of you who think your wives don't know, I bet almost all of them know. It's just a fight that we can't win, it's a fight you have to fight for youself.

[Idaho Spuds]

I quit Saturday night April 2nd after the ncaa games. Made so many excuses for so many years (ill quit after vacation, long road trip coming up, blah blah blah). There is no good time to quit, just a time that you decide you no longer want to be a slave to the drug. For the last 17 years I have planned my life around chewing tobacco, not scheduling meetings so I could have a post meal dip, staying up late, "working on something in the garage" so the wife wont see it...I don't know why I did that for so long. I'm upset at myself for all the time I wasted in my life dipping. Forget the money, the only currency in life that matters is time, ask someone on their deathbed how much they would pay for an extra year/6 months/day, and the answer is however much you want. I don't want to look back and think of all the time I wasted sitting on couch, or in my office dipping. That is a wasted life. No more.

My wife thought I quit years ago, so glad I found this resource to help with the issues. If I get on here and just start bitching, my apologies in advance.

Welcome, I told my wife I quit many times. then only to get caught trying to hide it.
Freedom from chew is wonderful, drink the koolaid, we can help if you want it.

[Jheinrich7]

I quit Saturday night April 2nd after the ncaa games. Made so many excuses for so many years (ill quit after vacation, long road trip coming up, blah blah blah). There is no good time to quit, just a time that you decide you no longer want to be a slave to the drug. For the last 17 years I have planned my life around chewing tobacco, not scheduling meetings so I could have a post meal dip, staying up late, "working on something in the garage" so the wife wont see it...I don't know why I did that for so long. I'm upset at myself for all the time I wasted in my life dipping. Forget the money, the only currency in life that matters is time, ask someone on their deathbed how much they would pay for an extra year/6 months/day, and the answer is however much you want. I don't want to look back and think of all the time I wasted sitting on couch, or in my office dipping. That is a wasted life. No more.

My wife thought I quit years ago, so glad I found this resource to help with the issues. If I get on here and just start bitching, my apologies in advance.

[Lip Leech]

I started smoking close to 30 to 35 years ago until my son was born in 2004. I picked up dip for the first time then, thinking it would help me quit smoking. 12 years later I am still hooked. I have tried to quit but went back to smoking almost immediately. So I picked the can back up. I have chewed a can of cope or red seal every day for the whole time. It has kept calling me back every time I took a dip out. I can do it anywhere I wanted as long as I had a spitter of some sort. Until recently, I kept noticing that I was getting sick of the taste, the feel and everything that goes along with it. I would put a dip in and not even a couple of minutes would pass and I would take it out. On Sunday the 27th of March 2016 I decided to allow my self no more than two dips the next day, but I had to go as long as I could with out one. I took my dip out at 6pm on the 27th and made it to 1230 on the 28th, It was hard but I realized I could do it!!! I had one more dip on the 28th and I took that out at 330 pm, that way I could take the edge off before I went home to the wife and kids. That was the last dip I took, I have been dip free since 330 pm on the 28th of March 2016. It has been hard as hell in many cases but easier than I thought in others. I am just done with it and never want to have another dip again or even nicotine ever again. I will be 40 this August and want to be able to grow old and see my 4 year daughter get married and have kids!! I got this, this time!! But I will need help, I have always looked at this site because it was very informative and I took the jump and joined.

Richard, sounds like we're in a similar boat, except I turned 40 on my quit date (Feb 8th) and my daughter is 3 weeks old today! The combo of the two things has turned out to be great incentive. For whatever reason, turning 40 had been looming in my mind as a make-or-break date. I had to ask myself...if you're not man enough to do this by 40, when will you be? I've been almost scared on those days when it seems so easy, but I've learned that I have to take it very seriously, especially on those days. One trick I've used is remembering my worst dipping moments  trying to re-live them as best as I can. The first was a night about a year ago, I came home from a long day of helping a buddy with some work on his house, we wrapped it up with some beers  of course, I had been dipping like my life depended on it the whole time. Later that night, trying to fall asleep, my jaw was just throbbing  buzzing...scaring the absolute hell out of me. I lost a bunch of sleep then woke up fine the next day, but I'll never forget how bad I hated dip in that moment. The second was several years ago when I saw my little nephew about a split second away from dumping the contents of my spitter down his throat. I caught him just in time...and just wanted to go out to the street and walk into oncoming traffic. Sometimes when I get cravings, I think about times like that  remind myself that dipping is AWFUL  there's a thousand reasons I quit. That evil, addicted part of our brain that still remains tries to tell us that caving will offer some sort of relief. It won't. Let's hang in there!

[Aregee70]

Great day clean, I have been reading a lot on and off site... The dimensions of gnus habit are immense. It has stolen life from so many people and in so many ways. Find that quit trigger and be done w/it. For years I have thought about possibility of oral cancer, but it goes soon much further than that. How about just treating your body/brain/bloodstream proper... I'm sure it will be a long journey to regulate but will be well worth not being a slave to this lifestyle!

[Richard K]

I started smoking close to 30 to 35 years ago until my son was born in 2004. I picked up dip for the first time then, thinking it would help me quit smoking. 12 years later I am still hooked. I have tried to quit but went back to smoking almost immediately. So I picked the can back up. I have chewed a can of cope or red seal every day for the whole time. It has kept calling me back every time I took a dip out. I can do it anywhere I wanted as long as I had a spitter of some sort. Until recently, I kept noticing that I was getting sick of the taste, the feel and everything that goes along with it. I would put a dip in and not even a couple of minutes would pass and I would take it out. On Sunday the 27th of March 2016 I decided to allow my self no more than two dips the next day, but I had to go as long as I could with out one. I took my dip out at 6pm on the 27th and made it to 1230 on the 28th, It was hard but I realized I could do it!!! I had one more dip on the 28th and I took that out at 330 pm, that way I could take the edge off before I went home to the wife and kids. That was the last dip I took, I have been dip free since 330 pm on the 28th of March 2016. It has been hard as hell in many cases but easier than I thought in others. I am just done with it and never want to have another dip again or even nicotine ever again. I will be 40 this August and want to be able to grow old and see my 4 year daughter get married and have kids!! I got this, this time!! But I will need help, I have always looked at this site because it was very informative and I took the jump and joined.

[RDB]

My husband is 11 hours into his quit, tomorrow he can post roll for his first time. He's joining just as soon as he can think of a user name. I really want this for him, he's a great guy, nicotine had robbed so much time and money from our family, I'm glad my husband is taking back control of his life.

He can post now. Today is his day one. Today is the first day he commited to remain nicotine free. Jump in. The water's fine!

[Deleted User]

My husband is 11 hours into his quit, tomorrow he can post roll for his first time. He's joining just as soon as he can think of a user name. I really want this for him, he's a great guy, nicotine had robbed so much time and money from our family, I'm glad my husband is taking back control of his life.

[mattlock]

Couple questions?? Looking for input.
Is the dead-ass no energy feeling in the am outta bed due to no nicotine...?
Is it ok to use the fake chew, it really helps me get thru the ritual and oral fix...
Stay strong/clean!

Aregee70, good to see you on the boards and glad to see you quit. Get on over to the June Quit Group and post your promise to quit for 24 hours. Make that promise every day and keep your word and you will be quit.

You are not here by accident. You have found THE place to get the support you need to kick your addiction to nicotine. We know, because we've walked your path. We are addicts, too.

This is a NICOTINE FREE FORUM.
1. Be sure to visit the WELCOME CENTER for what you need to know.
2. Stop by Introductions and tell us something about yourself.
3. Knowing what to expect is found here and here .
4. Print this Contract to give up... ; put it in your wallet and commit to signing it before you can take another dip.
5. Read about Tom and Jenny Kern , It will be a tough read, but do it. Start from the beginning
6. Unsure how to Post Roll? Click here -- How to post roll.
7. For inspiration stop by Words of Wisdom, HOF Speeches, and the Hall of Legends
8. Here are some Suggested Site Settings for KTC.
9. The rules for these boards are few, but check them out nonetheless. Board Guidelines

Definitely the no energy feeling is from nic withdrawal. This was all over the map for me during the first 2 weeks. Listless one minute and raging like a lunatic the next. After about day 15 though it's been more steady.

I use smokey mountain to help me get through the day. Candies and what not work a little for me, but not as well as the fake stuff to help curb the crave/oral fix. Some people think it's too much like using the real and don't recommend it. I say use whatever the hell you can to keep the poison out.

[Aregee70]

Couple questions?? Looking for input.
Is the dead-ass no energy feeling in the am outta bed due to no nicotine...?
Is it ok to use the fake chew, it really helps me get thru the ritual and oral fix...
Stay strong/clean!

[RDB]

Hi, first time joining a forum however not my first time trying to kick this habit. Started chewing when I was 16 and now about to hit 35. I feel like crap all the time and am setting a bad example for my 9 year old twins. I've been through this before and want to make this my last. Any support is appreciated as this is day #1 in my journey.

Coming here to quit is the best decision you could have made. I'm on my phone, so I can't do a great job of guiding you to your quit group ... Go back to the main Forum page. Find the link to Quit Groups. Scroll down til you find the July 2016 pre HOF group. Go to the last page in that thread. Find directions for Posting Roll in that thread. Post a promise to not use nicotine in any form today. Make the same promise every day. Stay quit.

It's not easy, but it is that simple.

Read as much as you can on this site, and get involved.

Stay quit.

I'm proud to quit with you today.

[Vacajo]

Hi, first time joining a forum however not my first time trying to kick this habit. Started chewing when I was 16 and now about to hit 35. I feel like crap all the time and am setting a bad example for my 9 year old twins. I've been through this before and want to make this my last. Any support is appreciated as this is day #1 in my journey.

[QuitConstruct]

Hey everyone just thought Id introduce myself. I was a smoker for about 5 years, would sometimes dip inbetween smokes and really was just a huge nicotine junkie. I quit all nicotine for about 7 months and then crept back into dipping about a tin a week. Then it became a couple tins a week for about a year. The past few months have been a literal battle with dip. Ill stop for 4 or 5 days and be sucked back in. Well this time Im tired of going back. I will not be sucked back in and the last thing thats going to put me 6 feet under is some stupid plant called tobacco! Agh! Its just such a mental anguish quitting you know? Its been the bull of a day for me today. It isnt much but you gotta start somewhere. Its been 3 weeks since my last quit which was a 5 day quit. Well heres to day 1! Its really nice having a place you can vent this stuff to with people who actually have done what every nicotine addict can hardly fathom: control. God bless you all and especially the creators of this site. You are saving many lives with a place like this.
Well this post is all over the place as am I on my first day of a dipless life. Hope yall understand!

Get involved! Find someone to keep accountable! Reach out and exchange numbers. Brotherhood + Accountability - excuses = quit

[Idaho Spuds]

Feel u Jswiss; I quit 21 dAys ago 3-9. Was coasting ... Using smokey mtn. Fake dip to curb the oral fix; all of sudden anxiety-depression out the ass??? Been constant chewer since 19; now 45. 24-7 unless sleeping  would wake up for it... :huh:
Any other assholes out there similar stuff?

Yes sir, anxiety and depression is something I struggled with. And it occurs with a lot of Quitters.
Stay busy, exercise and remember you can't change the past only the future.
And also it will get better!

[Aregee70]

Stay strong... Waking up proud of myself everyday! Take control of you. Wake up tired as hell/fatigued but nicotine-tobacco free!