This Time Is For Real

[Candoit]

Everyone here will face a serious challenge to their quit and their resolve to stay quit. Let me lay out a time line for you all...

July 17, 2014 - I go from being a ninja dipper to full out i dont give a fuck.
July 23, 2014 - I quit after I heard myself put dip ahead of my children.
1st weekend in August, 2014 wife and I go away and try to start to rebuild relationship
Oct 30, 2014 hit hall of fame
Nov 14, 2014 get a call from by boss saying we need to talk
Nov 16, 2014 asks for my letter of resignation
Nov 20, 2014 I refuse to turn it in and desicide to fight it

In between these two days, it is a daily fight with axenity, depression, and for my own confindnce. I ended up filing harassment and bullying charges against the school system.

Feb 26, 2015 I am given my remainder of my contract pay, and told to stay home.

In between these dates I find out some very meaningful things. Being dad is more important than any title. And I have been blacklisted and cannot get an interview in the state of CT for education. Take a position with AFLAC because it felt like it fit and I was in control.

June 30, 2015 last day of my pay

So no pay...work like a dog building my network. My relationship with my wife "begins" to melt down.

August 12, 2015 My wife tells me that the relationship is beyond repair. We talked for almost 60 min. The longest we have talked about us in a very long time. We have agreed to seek conseling, but don't know that if it will work. We realized that this has been swept under the rug for almost 4.5 years. The issue of no money coming in brought it to a head.

Guess what my first thought was? I should go buy a can because she doesn't care any more. Guess what Nic Bitch 'finger point' fuk u I am quit.

The moral of this is life happens and I gave all of you my word that I will be here to post 387 days quit.

[Candoit]

If that was my attitude a couple nights ago, my quit would be toast right now. We've all tried to do this thing on our own before, with no success. Now look at all the guys on here that are quit because they used the tools they learned on here. I don't know what it's like to be on day 380, but that's a big damn number. Slam the door on the what-ifs. That's the devil playing games with you. Grab your ball and go home. Quit with you all day today Candy.

Sorry KN. This is nothing to do with quit. But getting my business off the ground. They want me to go back to a 9-5 salaried position, it is safe. Not that every job I ever had made me miserable.

Gotcha. Nonetheless, I quit with you anyway, and good luck with the business stuff.

Thanks KN.

I am finding that I am almost reverting in away. About this point a year ago, I used the boards to share my thoughts and ideas. Not for any great purpose or reasoning, but just as a place to capture them.

Both Mcarmo and Wastepanel said it that there is an ebb and flow to activity here. I am really finding that to be true. But the phrase that stands out to me is that KTC is what you need when you need it. Believe it or not that is from Mcarmo.

I am truely frustrated and disappointed with myself for things that I can not control or change. I can not create money or business when there is none. Everyone days its a number game or just push through. I want to, I want to stay at Aflac. For the first time in my life I own my business. But it takes time. Time is something a stressed wife doesn't want to give me.

You started a business? What kind of business? I don't know what its like to start a business and because of that not have steady money coming in but I feel for you. What does it take to start seeing some revenue? I may not have the answers but maybe someone at KTC who reads this might have some pointers to offer? Or direction? Your a bad ass and have proven that hard work and perseverance will get you where you need to go. Hold your head high. Karma will come back to bless you.

It's not easy. On the one hand, you have your wife to take care of and make sure she's provided for. On the other hand, just like you can't quit dip for her, sometimes you have to make some decisions for you as well.

This is not an easy one, but I will say this. Whatever the decision, you and your wife both have to live with and deal with the consequences because it will affect both of you. I'm sure you've already done so, but maybe a nice quiet dinner out on the town where you can have a conversation for an hour or so and really hash out the pros and cons to both sides. It has to be a team decision, because if it's not, somebody is going to feel slighted.

It may also help to not just make the decision for the present. For example, maybe stick with Aflac for another year with the promise from your wife that a year from now, she'll go balls deep with you on your own business. Something like that where everybody wins.

Anyway, hope this helps Candy.

I am a 1099 employee for AFLAC at 100% commission. It is built on educating people, selling and keeping a promise.

I am my own boss, I make my own hours, I get out what I put in. The fast successes here have a "warm" market that they can sell to. I do have a "warm" market however it is school systems. Those are at least 8 - 12 months worth of work before I see any money. Therefore I do not have a warm market, so I am building this from ground zero. I have built and filled my pipeline, but yet to close any accounts. So no closed accounts no money.

I need to close accounts. IDWC I am not asking for anyone to buy something from me, I do not feel right about it. I am always looking for someone to sit down and have a conversation, they just have to be in CT.

I came to this job, because I need to work for me and/or someone that shares the same values and sense of service as I have. I have found that in AFLAC, I can not believe how much I believe in their product and company, only after 2 months. I don't want to walk away, but I cant pay bills on beliefs and morals.

[KingNothing]

If that was my attitude a couple nights ago, my quit would be toast right now. We've all tried to do this thing on our own before, with no success. Now look at all the guys on here that are quit because they used the tools they learned on here. I don't know what it's like to be on day 380, but that's a big damn number. Slam the door on the what-ifs. That's the devil playing games with you. Grab your ball and go home. Quit with you all day today Candy.

Sorry KN. This is nothing to do with quit. But getting my business off the ground. They want me to go back to a 9-5 salaried position, it is safe. Not that every job I ever had made me miserable.

Gotcha. Nonetheless, I quit with you anyway, and good luck with the business stuff.

Thanks KN.

I am finding that I am almost reverting in away. About this point a year ago, I used the boards to share my thoughts and ideas. Not for any great purpose or reasoning, but just as a place to capture them.

Both Mcarmo and Wastepanel said it that there is an ebb and flow to activity here. I am really finding that to be true. But the phrase that stands out to me is that KTC is what you need when you need it. Believe it or not that is from Mcarmo.

I am truely frustrated and disappointed with myself for things that I can not control or change. I can not create money or business when there is none. Everyone days its a number game or just push through. I want to, I want to stay at Aflac. For the first time in my life I own my business. But it takes time. Time is something a stressed wife doesn't want to give me.

You started a business? What kind of business? I don't know what its like to start a business and because of that not have steady money coming in but I feel for you. What does it take to start seeing some revenue? I may not have the answers but maybe someone at KTC who reads this might have some pointers to offer? Or direction? Your a bad ass and have proven that hard work and perseverance will get you where you need to go. Hold your head high. Karma will come back to bless you.

It's not easy. On the one hand, you have your wife to take care of and make sure she's provided for. On the other hand, just like you can't quit dip for her, sometimes you have to make some decisions for you as well.

This is not an easy one, but I will say this. Whatever the decision, you and your wife both have to live with and deal with the consequences because it will affect both of you. I'm sure you've already done so, but maybe a nice quiet dinner out on the town where you can have a conversation for an hour or so and really hash out the pros and cons to both sides. It has to be a team decision, because if it's not, somebody is going to feel slighted.

It may also help to not just make the decision for the present. For example, maybe stick with Aflac for another year with the promise from your wife that a year from now, she'll go balls deep with you on your own business. Something like that where everybody wins.

Anyway, hope this helps Candy.

[I'm done with chew]

If that was my attitude a couple nights ago, my quit would be toast right now. We've all tried to do this thing on our own before, with no success. Now look at all the guys on here that are quit because they used the tools they learned on here. I don't know what it's like to be on day 380, but that's a big damn number. Slam the door on the what-ifs. That's the devil playing games with you. Grab your ball and go home. Quit with you all day today Candy.

Sorry KN. This is nothing to do with quit. But getting my business off the ground. They want me to go back to a 9-5 salaried position, it is safe. Not that every job I ever had made me miserable.

Gotcha. Nonetheless, I quit with you anyway, and good luck with the business stuff.

Thanks KN.

I am finding that I am almost reverting in away. About this point a year ago, I used the boards to share my thoughts and ideas. Not for any great purpose or reasoning, but just as a place to capture them.

Both Mcarmo and Wastepanel said it that there is an ebb and flow to activity here. I am really finding that to be true. But the phrase that stands out to me is that KTC is what you need when you need it. Believe it or not that is from Mcarmo.

I am truely frustrated and disappointed with myself for things that I can not control or change. I can not create money or business when there is none. Everyone days its a number game or just push through. I want to, I want to stay at Aflac. For the first time in my life I own my business. But it takes time. Time is something a stressed wife doesn't want to give me.

You started a business? What kind of business? I don't know what its like to start a business and because of that not have steady money coming in but I feel for you. What does it take to start seeing some revenue? I may not have the answers but maybe someone at KTC who reads this might have some pointers to offer? Or direction? Your a bad ass and have proven that hard work and perseverance will get you where you need to go. Hold your head high. Karma will come back to bless you.

[Candoit]

If that was my attitude a couple nights ago, my quit would be toast right now. We've all tried to do this thing on our own before, with no success. Now look at all the guys on here that are quit because they used the tools they learned on here. I don't know what it's like to be on day 380, but that's a big damn number. Slam the door on the what-ifs. That's the devil playing games with you. Grab your ball and go home. Quit with you all day today Candy.

Sorry KN. This is nothing to do with quit. But getting my business off the ground. They want me to go back to a 9-5 salaried position, it is safe. Not that every job I ever had made me miserable.

Gotcha. Nonetheless, I quit with you anyway, and good luck with the business stuff.

Thanks KN.

I am finding that I am almost reverting in away. About this point a year ago, I used the boards to share my thoughts and ideas. Not for any great purpose or reasoning, but just as a place to capture them.

Both Mcarmo and Wastepanel said it that there is an ebb and flow to activity here. I am really finding that to be true. But the phrase that stands out to me is that KTC is what you need when you need it. Believe it or not that is from Mcarmo.

I am truely frustrated and disappointed with myself for things that I can not control or change. I can not create money or business when there is none. Everyone says its a number game or just push through. I want to, I want to stay at Aflac. For the first time in my life I own my business. But it takes time. Time is something a stressed wife doesn't want to give me.
It is difficult when you have deeply ingrained morals, values, and expectations. So when you find something that meets all three and you can see that there is great potential, but the wife wants you give it up for instant finical security. What do you do?

[KingNothing]

If that was my attitude a couple nights ago, my quit would be toast right now. We've all tried to do this thing on our own before, with no success. Now look at all the guys on here that are quit because they used the tools they learned on here. I don't know what it's like to be on day 380, but that's a big damn number. Slam the door on the what-ifs. That's the devil playing games with you. Grab your ball and go home. Quit with you all day today Candy.

Sorry KN. This is nothing to do with quit. But getting my business off the ground. They want me to go back to a 9-5 salaried position, it is safe. Not that every job I ever had made me miserable.

Gotcha. Nonetheless, I quit with you anyway, and good luck with the business stuff.

[Candoit]

If that was my attitude a couple nights ago, my quit would be toast right now. We've all tried to do this thing on our own before, with no success. Now look at all the guys on here that are quit because they used the tools they learned on here. I don't know what it's like to be on day 380, but that's a big damn number. Slam the door on the what-ifs. That's the devil playing games with you. Grab your ball and go home. Quit with you all day today Candy.

Sorry KN. This is nothing to do with quit. But getting my business off the ground. They want me to go back to a 9-5 salaried position, it is safe. Not that every job I ever had made me miserable.

[KingNothing]

If that was my attitude a couple nights ago, my quit would be toast right now. We've all tried to do this thing on our own before, with no success. Now look at all the guys on here that are quit because they used the tools they learned on here. I don't know what it's like to be on day 380, but that's a big damn number. Slam the door on the what-ifs. That's the devil playing games with you. Grab your ball and go home. Quit with you all day today Candy.

[Candoit]

Day 380

I hate the what if mental games. Asking for favors makes me feel like I cant do this on my own. Especially from family and friends.
My family doesn't ever ask anyone for help or favors. You do it on your own. Your veiwed poorly if you do.
So god forbid you reach out to someone for help. You are weak you wait for someone offers help to you. And I am the worst guy because I turned down help, to do a job I don't want.
I am ruining my life, because I am weak and need help. Fuk them.

[KingNothing]

Yesterday I had a tough day as far as my addiction went. It wasn't craves. I have had craves that literally brought me to my knees. That wasn't it. These were persistent thoughts...like a dip would taste great. If I have one I will be able to focus better. Why not? Just take my lumps and move on.

Guess what I pulled over and read KTC for almost an hour in a target parking lot. This is a constant reminder of the choices and actions we make. I choose to ignore those thoughts. I choose to honor my word. I put my quit above myselfish indulgence.

Make the right choice and embrace the hard choices. Those hard choices, may not pay off today or tomorrow, they will pay off in the long term. When you choose to reflect on the series of events that have happened you will realize why we do what we do here and how it pays off. I made it to post another +1, that is a huge vicotry no matter your day count.

With you Candy man and thanks again for being there for me last night. Not in that way, but you know to help a brother pull through. Sick, not like that either. Anyway, thanks again bro, it won't soon be forgotten.

[Candoit]

Yesterday I had a tough day as far as my addiction went. It wasn't craves. I have had craves that literally brought me to my knees. That wasn't it. These were persistent thoughts...like a dip would taste great. If I have one I will be able to focus better. Why not? Just take my lumps and move on.

Guess what I pulled over and read KTC for almost an hour in a target parking lot. This is a constant reminder of the choices and actions we make. I choose to ignore those thoughts. I choose to honor my word. I put my quit above myselfish indulgence.

Make the right choice and embrace the hard choices. Those hard choices, may not pay off today or tomorrow, they will pay off in the long term. When you choose to reflect on the series of events that have happened you will realize why we do what we do here and how it pays off. I made it to post another +1, that is a huge vicotry no matter your day count.

[Candoit]

Today I am 378 days quit. Yet another feel closer to one month quit than on my 13th month.

Not craving like I will lick an ashtray. But constantly thinking about it. I made my promise and fight like hell everyday to keep it. I grow weary of those that either don't take this seriously or find no purpose in being here.

Those that read this that are less than 100 days. Do not get discouraged or think that it is impossible. You are looking at the sum of all the daily promises I have made.

Those that are greater than 100, you need to be here to keep the tools sharp. You never know what today holds. Plan all you want, however she does not follow your plan, and never will.

She feeds on weakness and exploits it every chance she gets. Just as water through many cycles of freezing and thawing can fracture mountains, she can destroy a quit with the same patience.

[Candoit]

There always has to be a tipping point. The question is what happens when we reach that point?

Alot of times we back pedal to the safe comfortable zone. For us addicts that is right back into a slow game of Russian roulette with a can.

That voice is the same one that makes us stay in jobs, relationships, routines, and many other things, it is fear.

Fear of Change. Fear of Failure. Fear of Making a Mistake. Fear of the Wrong Choice. Fear of Regret.

I have found that you have to do two things at this point.
1. Determine how much you want it.
2. Embrace the fear.

Fear is normal. However the ability to use fear to become successful, is abnormal. Embracing fear leads to success. Running to safety only perpatuates the norm.

[Jerk11]

Congratulations on 1 year!

1 year 10 years just keep doing what you're doing its needed! Congratulations my friend!

Congrats Cando!!!

Congratulations on your milestone of 1 year!
Enjoy it and here's to quitting with you today!
You have helped so many... but I thank you for helping me.

'chief'

'party2'

Candi on a sweetride to quitsville!Thanks for everything you do for the newbies, Cando. It goes a long way and is much appreciated. Hope all is well with your new biz. Proud to quit with you today.

You rock, my intellectually stellar quit-friend!! Does my heart good to see you sharing the quit wisdom as far and wide as the eye can see. You, sir, are truly a BAQ.

Congrats on your journey around the sun! You've helped make quite a few lives better.

Congrats Candy! You are the man. When anyone doubts you just recall this. "Bitch please. I'm the Candy Man" 'archer'

Congratulations Candy! Thanks for the help along the way!!

Congrats Candy on your Orbit around the Sun nicotine free. You are a Quit Behemoth around these parts, constantly bringing the Truth to the newer groups, laying down the law when needed, and giving inspiration at the right intervals of struggle.... your Leadership has not gone unnoticed, that's for sure... Here's to 400!

[DWEIRICK]

Congratulations on 1 year!

1 year 10 years just keep doing what you're doing its needed! Congratulations my friend!

Congrats Cando!!!

Congratulations on your milestone of 1 year!
Enjoy it and here's to quitting with you today!
You have helped so many... but I thank you for helping me.

'chief'

'party2'

Candi on a sweetride to quitsville!Thanks for everything you do for the newbies, Cando. It goes a long way and is much appreciated. Hope all is well with your new biz. Proud to quit with you today.

You rock, my intellectually stellar quit-friend!! Does my heart good to see you sharing the quit wisdom as far and wide as the eye can see. You, sir, are truly a BAQ.

Congrats on your journey around the sun! You've helped make quite a few lives better.

Congrats Candy! You are the man. When anyone doubts you just recall this. "Bitch please. I'm the Candy Man" 'archer'

Congratulations Candy! Thanks for the help along the way!!