Boyfriend trying to quit: need advice!

[Nickald]

Merry Christmas!

Disclaimer: I have a huge ego. Among other things... But since this is mixed company I should probably not be more descriptive. Anyway, in life I always tended to be a bit of a free spirit. I believed I could do anything by myself. Watched all of my neighbors pay to build a deck... I hauled lumber 10 sticks at a time in a corolla. Work... You don't wanna be on my team ... ? See ya! I'll do the work myself!

But, I could not quit alone. Couldn't. I needed the accountability of knowing that others, including the men posting below, would be let down if I broke my word. Yes, it sounds crazy. Here is a 42 year old guy in the heart of America that is quit because the idea of breaking my word to a young guy in Las Vegas and a bad ass law enforcement guy in Tampa... Both if which I've never met... Is unthinkable. But it works. I quit last Christmas Eve. After 25 years.

Posting roll on this site, getting numbers, being accountable ... This is the real deal. Last Christmas was a (sorry for the phrasing but it is the truth) fucking nightmare for me. This site and members like those below saved my life. Srans and neon are the real deal... They know how to quit.

I agree with worktowin. We quit on the same day last year. I know he is there if I need anything, along with a ton of others and I am there for them.
NICK

[worktowin]

Merry Christmas!

Disclaimer: I have a huge ego. Among other things... But since this is mixed company I should probably not be more descriptive. Anyway, in life I always tended to be a bit of a free spirit. I believed I could do anything by myself. Watched all of my neighbors pay to build a deck... I hauled lumber 10 sticks at a time in a corolla. Work... You don't wanna be on my team ... ? See ya! I'll do the work myself!

But, I could not quit alone. Couldn't. I needed the accountability of knowing that others, including the men posting below, would be let down if I broke my word. Yes, it sounds crazy. Here is a 42 year old guy in the heart of America that is quit because the idea of breaking my word to a young guy in Las Vegas and a bad ass law enforcement guy in Tampa... Both if which I've never met... Is unthinkable. But it works. I quit last Christmas Eve. After 25 years.

Posting roll on this site, getting numbers, being accountable ... This is the real deal. Last Christmas was a (sorry for the phrasing but it is the truth) fucking nightmare for me. This site and members like those below saved my life. Srans and neon are the real deal... They know how to quit.

[ilovestats]

Yes, Merry Christmas to you all! I didn't expect any responses for days - thanks for your prompt replies!! I'll talk to him when I see him on 27th about joining, for sure.

[srans]

Just dawned on me what I should have realized coming into this forum: it's mostly, if not all, guys!  Hope I'm not crashing the party.  Again, any advice is appreciated, and your stories are really inspirational!

Guys or girls, no matter! Being Quit is genderless!
It is Christmas Eve though so I imagine there aren't too many people on right now.

I am on day 20, there are people that support me every day that are on day 200 or 2000.

I think my only advice right now is to tell your Boyfriend to make an account and get his ass on here! Best decision I ever made. We will help him. Since you are here posting we already know he has a terrific support system,

Try and get him on the site. Lot of information on here that can help him. He needs to start learning his enemy. Knowledge is a big part of this battle. He has to really want it and we can point him in the right direction. Merry Christmas.

[NeonPanther]

Just dawned on me what I should have realized coming into this forum: it's mostly, if not all, guys! Hope I'm not crashing the party. Again, any advice is appreciated, and your stories are really inspirational!

Guys or girls, no matter! Being Quit is genderless!
It is Christmas Eve though so I imagine there aren't too many people on right now.

I am on day 20, there are people that support me every day that are on day 200 or 2000.

I think my only advice right now is to tell your Boyfriend to make an account and get his ass on here! Best decision I ever made. We will help him. Since you are here posting we already know he has a terrific support system,

[ilovestats]

Just dawned on me what I should have realized coming into this forum: it's mostly, if not all, guys! Hope I'm not crashing the party. Again, any advice is appreciated, and your stories are really inspirational!

[ilovestats]

Hello All!
My boyfriend is on day 6 of quitting after using for 25 years. It was his choice to try, I had no idea he was even going to do it. He's having a very hard time but he's sticking with it thus far.

Any words of wisdom for me? Right now we are not together (with respective families for the holidays) but will see each other again on the 27th. I keep asking how it's going to show support, but he mentioned that he'd rather not discuss it unless he brings it up. He says it's getting worse and he's scared he can't do it, and I directed him to this site, but then he changes the subject, so I just go with it.

Any advice of how to be supportive but not heavy handed or annoying would be greatly appreciated. I just want to do all I can to help him during the process. I can't imagine how hard it is. I am hoping he sticks with it.

Congrats to all of you for quitting/trying to quit. I admire you!