Fear is an excellent motivation

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#5
November 25, 2012, 01:32:00 PM
They're right PJM. The fear will fade. I dipped in the car on the ride home from my biopsy.........both times. Sean Marsee the 18 yr old dying of cancer kept chewing after they had removed half of his face. I've read posts where others have kept demanding chew through the haze of morphine strong enough to make them almost unconscious. Even on their death beds, nicotine addiction has a grip.

This isn't about fear. It is about addiction. Your a doctor, your going to hate the next thing I tell you.

"The only difference between you and a heroin addict is your choice of drugs"

The behaviors that circle around the substance are the same on all accounts. The sneaking, the lying, the justifications for using, the rationalizations to yourself and to others. Your an addict in the ugliest sense of the word.

That being said, your in the right place. But don't chase the wrong rabbit Alice. Using fear may be a good start but this is about choice. You choose to be quit, and you live with that decision. It's that simple.
You can't choose it FOR your wife as a surprise or a present, when shit gets hard you'll resent her for it, and you'll cave. YOU have to make this decision, and it has to be for YOU and YOU alone.

I read a great post the other day about being selfish. I think it was in Words of Wisdom. The jist of it was that we have earned the right to watch our kids grow up, to grow old with our loves. To live our lives. To be selfish and want to suck all the good stuff out of life.

Quitting a substance that is essentially a prolonged suicide ending in death by living autopsy over a period of months is infact selfish, but in a good way. I want you to be selfish, I want you to live long without an addiction hanging over your neck like a anchor. Get mad , make the decsion. Quit.

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"CLOSE THE DOOR. In my opinion, it?s the single most important step in your final quit. There is one moment, THE moment, when you finally let go and surrender to the quit. After that moment, no temptation will be great enough, no lie persuasive enough to make you commit suicide by using tobacco."

Wt57

#4
November 25, 2012, 10:56:00 AM
Dr. What cbird said about the addictive mind taking over after the fear is gone is so very true. Most of us that have dipped over 20 years have had those scares of sores, tooth loss and other oral problems that have made us pause for a short time. As an addict I'm one of the best rationalizers. The support here along with the daily promise will make your quit possible if that is what you truly want!
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Coach Steve

#3
November 25, 2012, 10:42:00 AM
Quote from: CBird65
Quote from: PJMI am an emergency physician and have dipped two tins/week of Copenhagen snuff for 24+ years.Ã,  The risks of cancer are all too familiar to me yet I chose to ignore them in order to keep dipping.Ã,  Yesterday I diagnosed a 50yo man with esophageal cancer after he complained of a foreign body sensation in his throat for the past week.Ã,  Needless to say that was the tipping point despite the countless new diagnoses of cancer I have made and broken to patients over the years.Ã,  For some reason this most recent patient encounter, perhaps because it was a head  neck cancer, broke through my active refusal to consider what dip was doing to my own body.

Today is my wife's 37th birthday.Ã,  Yes, she is getting jewelry.Ã,  But I am going to give myself a gift today as well.Ã,  Today I am quitting.Ã,  No more dip for me.Ã,  Never really wanted to quit before because I enjoy dipping.Ã,  Never really made a concerted effort to quit dipping either although I have had intermittent periods of a dip free existence for one reason or another.

Looking forward to this experience, receiving support, and lending it to others.
Welcome - see you've already posted into March.


I applaud your decision to take your life back.

Fear may currently motivate your decision but it will not fuel your quit for the long run. Soon your addict brain will start to rationalize your fears " we all have to die of something".
Go to the Welcome Center (salmon colored link at the top) and read. Then go to the March 2013 pre-HOF Group and post roll.

Welcome.

Listen to Cbird. My quit also started as a scary trip to the dentist's office, but that fear turned into resolve and accountability. Quit Like Fuck.
Make Your Decision

cbird65

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November 25, 2012, 10:16:00 AM
Quote from: PJMI am an emergency physician and have dipped two tins/week of Copenhagen snuff for 24+ years. The risks of cancer are all too familiar to me yet I chose to ignore them in order to keep dipping. Yesterday I diagnosed a 50yo man with esophageal cancer after he complained of a foreign body sensation in his throat for the past week. Needless to say that was the tipping point despite the countless new diagnoses of cancer I have made and broken to patients over the years. For some reason this most recent patient encounter, perhaps because it was a head  neck cancer, broke through my active refusal to consider what dip was doing to my own body.

Today is my wife's 37th birthday. Yes, she is getting jewelry. But I am going to give myself a gift today as well. Today I am quitting. No more dip for me. Never really wanted to quit before because I enjoy dipping. Never really made a concerted effort to quit dipping either although I have had intermittent periods of a dip free existence for one reason or another.

Looking forward to this experience, receiving support, and lending it to others.
Welcome - see you've already posted into March.


I applaud your decision to take your life back.

Fear may currently motivate your decision but it will not fuel your quit for the long run. Soon your addict brain will start to rationalize your fears " we all have to die of something".
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November 25, 2012, 10:00:00 AM
I am an emergency physician and have dipped two tins/week of Copenhagen snuff for 24+ years. The risks of cancer are all too familiar to me yet I chose to ignore them in order to keep dipping. Yesterday I diagnosed a 50yo man with esophageal cancer after he complained of a foreign body sensation in his throat for the past week. Needless to say that was the tipping point despite the countless new diagnoses of cancer I have made and broken to patients over the years. For some reason this most recent patient encounter, perhaps because it was a head  neck cancer, broke through my active refusal to consider what dip was doing to my own body.

Today is my wife's 37th birthday. Yes, she is getting jewelry. But I am going to give myself a gift today as well. Today I am quitting. No more dip for me. Never really wanted to quit before because I enjoy dipping. Never really made a concerted effort to quit dipping either although I have had intermittent periods of a dip free existence for one reason or another.

Looking forward to this experience, receiving support, and lending it to others.
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