Ahhhh, a good day!

[AgLawyer]

The support here is fantastic! I'm enjoying this brotherhood and plan to embrace this day by day to kick this bullshit. My wife and I went to the gym this morning and I told her about this forum and also spilled the beans about how I've been sneaking around to dip behind her back, told her all my little secret routines, where I hide the shit, etc. I feel like an absolute fool articulating it but damn, I've literally been dipping my entire adult life from 18-39....but 39 is done...gave it 21 years and that's it. The wife is of course supportive and thinks this is a great idea but she's seen me quit many times before (well, listened to my bullshit where I told her I was quitting and then as soon as she went to bed I was putting a big dip in) but this time it is for real...nothing but a positive outlook from here on out, or at least day by day...baby steps. I like the principle...don't think about tomorrow or next week or forever, think about just getting thru today...psychologically it makes a hell of a lot of sense and the reality is that this shit is ALL psychological at this point.

Hope all continue to have a great nicotineLESS day!

[wcummingsiv]

Anyway, I can already tell this website is going to help me a great deal and I'm going to commit to it full bore ahead.  No where else can you share with like minded individuals and bounce off each other frustrations and get support.  Damn I wish I had discovered this a long time ago.

Funny, I haven't been able to sleep for shit the last few days since I had the last bit of nicotine in my body.  I was wondering what the hell is wrong with me till I read on here how others have that same thing happen.

Question: substitutes for the oral fixation a good idea or best to just toss it all?  In the last 4 days I've been stuffing sunflower seeds in my mouth (of course lots of sodium, calories, etc. but not nicotine) and hard candy (Werther's).

Paul

You're only going to get out of it what you put in. Number 1 important is post roll every day no exception and keep your word. Next day repeat. Stay close to this website, it just might save your life.

To fake or not to fake: I chose not to use fake but have used seeds on and off. Much more in the first couple weeks. Everyone is different, I don't think there's a right or wrong answer, as long as you keep nicotine out of your system is number 1.

Ag I was were you were 18 days ago. Denny was the first to reach out to me on my first day. I can promise you that days get brighter each one that goes by. And they get MUCH brighter.

I am still a newbie myself but I can tell you that Day 18 feels like Day 1000. But just quit today. Tomorrow is tomorrow and you don't worry about it today.

Everyone is here for you. Take ownership of the brotherhood.

[DennyX]

Anyway, I can already tell this website is going to help me a great deal and I'm going to commit to it full bore ahead. No where else can you share with like minded individuals and bounce off each other frustrations and get support. Damn I wish I had discovered this a long time ago.

Funny, I haven't been able to sleep for shit the last few days since I had the last bit of nicotine in my body. I was wondering what the hell is wrong with me till I read on here how others have that same thing happen.

Question: substitutes for the oral fixation a good idea or best to just toss it all? In the last 4 days I've been stuffing sunflower seeds in my mouth (of course lots of sodium, calories, etc. but not nicotine) and hard candy (Werther's).

Paul

You're only going to get out of it what you put in. Number 1 important is post roll every day no exception and keep your word. Next day repeat. Stay close to this website, it just might save your life.

To fake or not to fake: I chose not to use fake but have used seeds on and off. Much more in the first couple weeks. Everyone is different, I don't think there's a right or wrong answer, as long as you keep nicotine out of your system is number 1.

[LLCope]

AgLawyer,

Welcome aboard. I quit 94 days ago and I am glad I did. I am also 39 with a young family and dipped all day long---at the office, during the communte and at home.

You must take it day by day. You are only responsible for quitting today. Do whatever it takes today to quit---let nothing stand in the way of today's quit and your WORD! After a while the days will mount up and things will get better.

Pm me if you need anything

LL

[Pouchgoaway]

Sunflower seeds, chewing gum, taffy,beef jerky,hard candy, toothpicks (careful with these) and there is a plethora of fake products out there that contain no tobacco or nicotine like Oregon Mint Snuff or Smokey Mountain etc.. Whatever it takes :D

If you shop around you may find unsalted sunflower seeds at wal-marts,walgreens,or the larger grocery stores that have big candy/snack sections. Making your own jerky is way cheaper and you can control the sodium levels.

[AgLawyer]

I'm loving this site. I'm seeing how my story is so similar to pretty much everyone on here, all coming down to having your life controlled by this little freaking monster in your head that tells you that you need to put this shit in your mouth to get you back to even and then when that buzz goes away, repeat. The circumstances may be different but it is all the same. I feel like a fool with all the lies and how I would modify my day to squeeze in a dip. I must say it is comforting seeing that I'm among others who know EXACTLY what it is like. I'd get busted by my wife and I'd argue with her that I just couldn't help it, that it was an addiction but in her eyes I was just being weak by choosing to put that in my mouth and risking my future with my children....I think it is both. I always knew I was foolish. I'd think, what a freaking dumb dick I am to put something in my mouth that can hurt me...and for 20 years! Anyway, I can already tell this website is going to help me a great deal and I'm going to commit to it full bore ahead. No where else can you share with like minded individuals and bounce off each other frustrations and get support. Damn I wish I had discovered this a long time ago.

Funny, I haven't been able to sleep for shit the last few days since I had the last bit of nicotine in my body. I was wondering what the hell is wrong with me till I read on here how others have that same thing happen.

Question: substitutes for the oral fixation a good idea or best to just toss it all? In the last 4 days I've been stuffing sunflower seeds in my mouth (of course lots of sodium, calories, etc. but not nicotine) and hard candy (Werther's).

Paul

[DennyX]

I'm doing it - thanks for the words of support. I like the Roll Call idea a lot.  I wish I had come across this site before.  I stumbled across it last night when my wife was giving me the riot act (I do know because she is just concerned) because a friend of her dad's was just recently diagnosed with bladder cancer and it was linked to dipping. I was like huh???  So I googled it and sure as shit it is.  Anyway, during that perusal on google I came across this website. Glad I clicked. I see the significance. I posted on the Roll Call around 6:00 this morning.  About thirty minutes ago I had a big bowl of oatmeal and while I'm finishing that little fucker in my head is saying, "the wife is at the gym, the kids are watching cartoons, go to the store and grab a can" -now I'm just pissed that he is there. Anyway, thought about how couple of hours ago I posted on the Roll Call and committed to the day so not falling victim to it like a little bitch like I have been for so long.

Cheers and have a great weekend fellas!

Ag - your story is amazing and congratulations on doing this today. Remember, it's a ONE day promise. You just have to make it to bed tonight. Tomorrow post roll, repeat. My first handful of days was hour by hour. I'm proud to be quit with you today. You'll find that you aren't alone. CC already said he hid it, I hid it for 6 years and came clean 20 days into my quit. You want to talk about FURIOUS? Don't f' with a redhead, it's NOT a pretty site. Anyway, I'm proud to be quit with you today. You need to get numbers immediately and use them if you're a tough spot. Use live chat, read HOF speeches. Read read read. Again proud to be quit with you brother.

Denny

[AgLawyer]

I'm doing it - thanks for the words of support. I like the Roll Call idea a lot. I wish I had come across this site before. I stumbled across it last night when my wife was giving me the riot act (I do know because she is just concerned) because a friend of her dad's was just recently diagnosed with bladder cancer and it was linked to dipping. I was like huh??? So I googled it and sure as shit it is. Anyway, during that perusal on google I came across this website. Glad I clicked. I see the significance. I posted on the Roll Call around 6:00 this morning. About thirty minutes ago I had a big bowl of oatmeal and while I'm finishing that little fucker in my head is saying, "the wife is at the gym, the kids are watching cartoons, go to the store and grab a can" -now I'm just pissed that he is there. Anyway, thought about how couple of hours ago I posted on the Roll Call and committed to the day so not falling victim to it like a little bitch like I have been for so long.

Cheers and have a great weekend fellas!

[Cancrusher]

Thanks fellas! Full steam ahead...just posted first time on Roll Call.  One day at a time - I'm done with this shit.  F U nicotine and that little monster in my head who makes me crave it!

Hell yeah. It's a fight for your life..literally. These first few days are shitty but it gets better.

AgLaw-

Congratulations! Roll call is HUGE! If you haven't already picked up on it, It's kind of the cornerstone of what we do. You mentioned in your intro "...Hell, maybe I don't believe myself". Boy have I been there, 438 days ago. That's where Roll Call comes in. That simple post puts a bullet in the dome of any Self-Doubt you may be harboring. Yeah yeah, your wife is gonna try and call your bluff for a while..."OH yeah, your fuckin' lier, your Quit JUST like last time eh?" Take this for what it is. She's been lied to, Time is the only healer now. I'm speaking from experience by the way. My wife thought i was done for over a year before she busted my lame ass.

Anyways, you've found the path. Now stay on it. No excuses now.

CC

[miles]

Thanks fellas! Full steam ahead...just posted first time on Roll Call. One day at a time - I'm done with this shit. F U nicotine and that little monster in my head who makes me crave it!

Hell yeah. It's a fight for your life..literally. These first few days are shitty but it gets better.

[AgLawyer]

Thanks fellas! Full steam ahead...just posted first time on Roll Call. One day at a time - I'm done with this shit. F U nicotine and that little monster in my head who makes me crave it!

[miles]

Trying is ghey, attempts are lame  Hope is a fat chick from high school.

Just do it. You'll have support coming out of the woodwork over here. We want you to be successfull. Drink the koolaid brother...yummy

As other said, check out the Welcome Center and jump on in...

[just me and my can]

Welcome to the best decision that you have ever made. I look forward to seeing your word every morning that you quit. The awesome part about this quit is that we are not quitting forever, we are quitting each and every day just for that day. Those that have come before us understood that forever was too long. So each day when you post roll you are making a promise to everyone including yourself that you will not have nicotine just for the day.

[Souliman]

Okay Paul. Let me tell you difference between what you are doing now as compared to the past...you have quit. You are done. You have had your last dip. Our mentality is do or do not. We don't flip flop around with words like "try" or "hope". You put your mind to it and get it done by your own accord. There is no other special magic involved other than being a man of your word and getting some solid support. Support that you couldn't buy. We're no nic substitutes so no gum or anything.

Hit the Welcome Center (the warm inviting pink link in the upper left). Read through that. I suggest you read everything on this site. The more you know the safer your quit will be.

Post roll. Every damn day. No excuses. "I can't get to..." or "but it just doesn't..." that shit don't fly. Don't fuck with the program. You get up, you post roll first thing. You put your word down and you stick to it all day.

If your word is in jeopardy, reach out. Get on this site and read. Get on this site and chat. Text a quit brother/sister. Call a quit brother/sister. There is no reason to consume nicotine again. None.

Your quit group is November:

index.php?showtopic=5023

Folks going through it just like you. Get to know them. The more involved you are the safer your quit.

Read. Post. Get involved. Reach out. We do it all one day at a time. You quit today and face tomorrow when it comes. Don't concern yourself with next week or next month or Christmas or whatnot. Focus on today and deal with tomorrow when its staring you in the mirror.

Welcome aboard.

-Soul

[TommyNY]

Hello All -

So I'm cruising the internet last night and I come across this site and think I'll give it a whirl to see if it can aid in my "quit". I took my last dip of the nasty Grizzly long cut wintergreen on the 18th of this month but foolishly convinced myself (as I have on several occasions) that I can chew on a cigar because just not the same thing so my last chew on a cigar, or last time nicotine touched my mouth was this Wednesday, July 27. So now starting my 3rd day fighting this fucking monster.

Little history...I'm 39 and took my first dip when I was 18 or 19 while in college. Some other guys were doing it so I was like hell, that looks cool. Hated it. But, I persevered and continued sticking that shit in my mouth and it eventually became a hardcore addiction...20 years in the making and dipping at least a can a day for as long as I can remember.

I guess I relate almost anything now to having a dip...triggers one may call it. I wake up in the morning and get ready for work, constantly thinking about that first dip I will take in the car on the way to the office. I buy disposable coffee cups so that I can grab a cup of coffee and chug it down and use the cup to spit in. For days I do not make coffee I'll stop by Starbucks and grab a cup of coffee and an extra cup to spit in. While in the office I dip all day. I travel quite a bit on my job so road trips always trigger the need to have it in my mouth. While in hotels at night I am bored and will always have a dip in my mouth. At night at home I stay up late, pretending I need to work, so I can dip while my wife and kids are asleep. During the day I will come up with errands I need to run and when my kids want to come with me I tell them "no", because I need quiet time, have to make business calls, or whatever other lie I can come up with so that I can dip, which is the only reason I'm out "running errands" in the first place. Hell, I'm preaching to the choir here, for those who have quit or are trying to quit you understand how there are so many things that trigger that thought in your brain to throw in a dip. Hell I'm thinking in the back of my mind right now how good it would be to have a dip in. But I'm not going to do it.

I guess it all finally came to head last week. Like others I'm sure, I've quit dozens of times but I was always weak. I would pray for strength but always fell week. I lied repeatedly to my wife that I was quitting or had quit, but I returned to it. This last week, after a successful long stretch of fooling my wife into thinking I quit, she walks into my home office (of which she rarely steps foot into so I considered it "safe") and picked up the scent immediately. I had gotten lazy and she found some cups with spit in my trashcan. She was FURIOUS to put it lightly..."how can you continue to do this to put your health at risk, do you want to leave me a widow, do you want your kids to grow up without you???", needless to say she was pissed. She didn't talk to me for 3-4 days. I told her I quit but she doesn't believe me....hell, maybe I don't believe myself.

Sorry for the rambling and lengthy post. I'm gonna give this a try. Honestly I do feel like this "quitting time" is different. I'm determined and eager to continue this journey. I need to figure where I need to post for whatever group I will be in.

I'm done with this crap. I fucking hate that I am controlled by it. I look at the shit in the spit cup and am disgusted at myself for putting this vile crap in my mouth, and all the same I continue to think how good it would be to put another pinch of this nasty crap in my mouth. I can't do that anymore. Thanks for the support and I hope I can return the favor of encouragement to others as we continue on this journey together.

Paul

dont quit for your wife. dont quit for your kids. quit for yourself. quit every day. dont put that garbage in your mouth anymore....