My name is Tim. I'm now on day 15........chewed 28 years. Started when I was in the Air Force.....working on the flight line. I started posting roll a couple of days ago and one of the members told me to come here and introduce myself.Â
My daughter is 26, never known a Dad that didn't chew. I have a new grandson, I would like to do better.
I live in Bloomington IN and have for the last 7 years.
I decided to quit cold. Nicotine is tough......I knew it would be.....it is what it is.
Tim, I'll give you the best piece of advice that I EVER received when I started my quit 397 days ago - You MUST make this quit about you. A daughter who never knew a dad that didn't dip and having a new grandson might seem like strong motivators. But if you make it about them, you are likely to fail.
I know, you're probably thinking, "Who the fuck is this guy? What the hell kinda support is this, him telling me how to quit and saying I'll fail?" I know, I thought the same things. But, you know what, all those brothers that told me to make it about me were right. But what you have to remember this might be one of the only times everyone you care about will actually benefit from you being self centered and self serving.
Keep posting roll and stay active...the more active you are on the site the more likely you are to remain successful in your quit. Get to know members on here...especially you fellow quitters in your group. Learn how to support them and to accept their help as well. Get numbers...lots of them. Don't be afraid to admit when you are having trouble or bad cravings. Ask for help when you need it. Read this site....and then read some more. Tons and tons of good solid information, knowledge and inspiration regarding quitting.
If you need a number, I'd be happy to provide you with mine. Welcome to your quit.
- CoachDoc
Seriously, you guys wear me out man. It doesn't matter what I say, it seems like somebody wants to jump on. This morning on chat, because I said I was scared of failing on my quit, someone told me I wasn't "balls in enough" so I was going to fail.......now this.
I never said this quit was "for" my daughter....I never said it was "for" my grandson. The quit is for me. I want this because for "me" I would hate a decision I made to keep chewing to cause them pain. I want this quit because "I" think about others too. I want this quit because I want to do better. I want this quit because I don't want to be sick................I know I didn't say all that, but Jesus Christ man you know sometimes you just want to go and be someplace where people aren't up in you about every little inclusion or omission.
Dtim - you know what, your reaction is just what I did when told the same thing. I wasn't down-playing your quit, your committment, your balls...just sharing a little bit of quit advice...
Isn't that why we all came here in the first place? To get help from other in our quit? To learn how to be successful since most of us had tried numerous times before to quit and had not been successful?
Look, 250 days ago, I would have been likely to have gone off on you, telling you how I was just tying to help you in your quit, andwell, basically, tell you to piss off if you weren't willing to accept the advice someone is trying to give you. So, maybe getting close to hitting day 400 I've matured in my quit...after all, you are a grown man...read what you can..if it's useful wonderful...if not, forget you ever read it and hope it wasn't too long to have been too big a waste of your time.
But, again, I will tell you, there is a ton of helpful, experienced people in these groups - many many much more so than myself - who have a lot to offer you in your quit.
Stay strong. Stay true. Stay QUIT
- CoachDoc
