Hello from an EX-smoker in Texas, y'all!

[DennyX]

Day 80...

Yesterday I became single for the first time in 16 years. I'm moving to a new city with my children and I have the weight of financial responsibility on my shoulders. I have a somewhat hostile ex and a daughter who is struggling with saying goodbye. I'm having trouble forming coherent thoughts and not losing my shit completely.

And I'm quit.

So fuck you if you cave today because of stress.

You're a rock star!! I'm here if you need me. Hang in there.

Wow!!! You just put another bolt lock on the door.. Quit with you ..

Excellence on many levels LHG. Stay stong.

Quit with you, all damn day!

You got my support! Hold your head up!

Stay strong LHG! Way to battle! Congrats on 80. Quit with u all day!

QUIT WOOD! QUIT WOOD! QUIT WOOD! Soak this lesson up newbies..(that includes me :D)... Impressive!

I think I'm in love :wub:

Nice job LHG, you're killing it every day. Stomp nic in the teeth once for me and illdo the same for you. FU nic, I own today.

[FIGHTIN-IGNORANCE]

Day 80...

Yesterday I became single for the first time in 16 years. I'm moving to a new city with my children and I have the weight of financial responsibility on my shoulders. I have a somewhat hostile ex and a daughter who is struggling with saying goodbye. I'm having trouble forming coherent thoughts and not losing my shit completely.

And I'm quit.

So fuck you if you cave today because of stress.

You're a rock star!! I'm here if you need me. Hang in there.

Wow!!! You just put another bolt lock on the door.. Quit with you ..

Excellence on many levels LHG. Stay stong.

Quit with you, all damn day!

You got my support! Hold your head up!

Stay strong LHG! Way to battle! Congrats on 80. Quit with u all day!

QUIT WOOD! QUIT WOOD! QUIT WOOD! Soak this lesson up newbies..(that includes me :D)... Impressive!

[Derk40]

Day 80...

Yesterday I became single for the first time in 16 years. I'm moving to a new city with my children and I have the weight of financial responsibility on my shoulders. I have a somewhat hostile ex and a daughter who is struggling with saying goodbye. I'm having trouble forming coherent thoughts and not losing my shit completely.

And I'm quit.

So fuck you if you cave today because of stress.

You're a rock star!! I'm here if you need me. Hang in there.

Wow!!! You just put another bolt lock on the door.. Quit with you ..

Excellence on many levels LHG. Stay stong.

Quit with you, all damn day!

You got my support! Hold your head up!

Stay strong LHG! Way to battle! Congrats on 80. Quit with u all day!

[jake frawley]

Day 80...

Yesterday I became single for the first time in 16 years. I'm moving to a new city with my children and I have the weight of financial responsibility on my shoulders. I have a somewhat hostile ex and a daughter who is struggling with saying goodbye. I'm having trouble forming coherent thoughts and not losing my shit completely.

And I'm quit.

So fuck you if you cave today because of stress.

You're a rock star!! I'm here if you need me. Hang in there.

Wow!!! You just put another bolt lock on the door.. Quit with you ..

Excellence on many levels LHG. Stay stong.

Quit with you, all damn day!

You got my support! Hold your head up!

[AppleJack]

Day 80...

Yesterday I became single for the first time in 16 years. I'm moving to a new city with my children and I have the weight of financial responsibility on my shoulders. I have a somewhat hostile ex and a daughter who is struggling with saying goodbye. I'm having trouble forming coherent thoughts and not losing my shit completely.

And I'm quit.

So fuck you if you cave today because of stress.

You're a rock star!! I'm here if you need me. Hang in there.

Wow!!! You just put another bolt lock on the door.. Quit with you ..

Excellence on many levels LHG. Stay stong.

Quit with you, all damn day!

[Evil_Won]

Day 80...

Yesterday I became single for the first time in 16 years. I'm moving to a new city with my children and I have the weight of financial responsibility on my shoulders. I have a somewhat hostile ex and a daughter who is struggling with saying goodbye. I'm having trouble forming coherent thoughts and not losing my shit completely.

And I'm quit.

So fuck you if you cave today because of stress.

You're a rock star!! I'm here if you need me. Hang in there.

Wow!!! You just put another bolt lock on the door.. Quit with you ..

Excellence on many levels LHG. Stay stong.

[srans]

Day 80...

Yesterday I became single for the first time in 16 years. I'm moving to a new city with my children and I have the weight of financial responsibility on my shoulders. I have a somewhat hostile ex and a daughter who is struggling with saying goodbye. I'm having trouble forming coherent thoughts and not losing my shit completely.

And I'm quit.

So fuck you if you cave today because of stress.

You're a rock star!! I'm here if you need me. Hang in there.

Wow!!! You just put another bolt lock on the door.. Quit with you ..

[2mch2lv4]

Day 80...

Yesterday I became single for the first time in 16 years. I'm moving to a new city with my children and I have the weight of financial responsibility on my shoulders. I have a somewhat hostile ex and a daughter who is struggling with saying goodbye. I'm having trouble forming coherent thoughts and not losing my shit completely.

And I'm quit.

So fuck you if you cave today because of stress.

You're a rock star!! I'm here if you need me. Hang in there.

[LionHeartedGirl]

Day 80...

Yesterday I became single for the first time in 16 years. I'm moving to a new city with my children and I have the weight of financial responsibility on my shoulders. I have a somewhat hostile ex and a daughter who is struggling with saying goodbye. I'm having trouble forming coherent thoughts and not losing my shit completely.

And I'm quit.

So fuck you if you cave today because of stress.

[LionHeartedGirl]

Jake, I'm glad you were wrong too! I love that... Absolutely loved it! What great encouragement and yeah, I've noticed you're a little outspoken. Now that I know I'm on your radar my quit is that much stronger because you are one dude I do NOT want to piss off! Lol

I think it's hilarious you thought of me as LITE! Truth is, I thought of myself as LITE too. Thank God for 2mch and her HOF speech that pointed me to chat and KTC and made me realize there was a place for me here. I was hesitant to come so I'm glad you gave me a chance. I scare easy believe it or not! This place saved my life. It's where I learned I'm an addict.

Ryan, you can absolutely give your friend my number too! And to the rest of you who commented... Y'all are really special to me. Thank you for continuing to be here!

'crackup'
My HOF speech made you curious about chat!! Hahaha! You can learn a lot from the chatters :wub:

:ph43r:

[2mch2lv4]

Jake, I'm glad you were wrong too! I love that... Absolutely loved it! What great encouragement and yeah, I've noticed you're a little outspoken. Now that I know I'm on your radar my quit is that much stronger because you are one dude I do NOT want to piss off! Lol

I think it's hilarious you thought of me as LITE! Truth is, I thought of myself as LITE too. Thank God for 2mch and her HOF speech that pointed me to chat and KTC and made me realize there was a place for me here. I was hesitant to come so I'm glad you gave me a chance. I scare easy believe it or not! This place saved my life. It's where I learned I'm an addict.

Ryan, you can absolutely give your friend my number too! And to the rest of you who commented... Y'all are really special to me. Thank you for continuing to be here!

'crackup'
My HOF speech made you curious about chat!! Hahaha! You can learn a lot from the chatters :wub:

[LionHeartedGirl]

Jake, I'm glad you were wrong too! I love that... Absolutely loved it! What great encouragement and yeah, I've noticed you're a little outspoken. Now that I know I'm on your radar my quit is that much stronger because you are one dude I do NOT want to piss off! Lol

I think it's hilarious you thought of me as LITE! Truth is, I thought of myself as LITE too. Thank God for 2mch and her HOF speech that pointed me to chat and KTC and made me realize there was a place for me here. I was hesitant to come so I'm glad you gave me a chance. I scare easy believe it or not! This place saved my life. It's where I learned I'm an addict.

Ryan, you can absolutely give your friend my number too! And to the rest of you who commented... Y'all are really special to me. Thank you for continuing to be here!

[jake frawley]

Day 45 (technically 46 but I haven't gone to bed yet)...This was a tough day. It was one of those days that my former self would have taken as THE PERFECT EXCUSE to start again. Was my strongest crave by far but I was never in a danger zone. Simply isn't an option for many reasons.

From day 3 and on, my quit has been "easy". I was emotional and had bouts of anger and had trouble maintaining objectivity in the beginning. I have occassional strong craves. But the moment I understood I am an addict and was freed from ever having to find the balance between "smoking socially" and "becoming addicted", my quit has been pretty effortless. Never again... For any reason. Nothing simpler, if not always easy. What I am left with is an awareness of moments I WOULD have likely caved. Those times more than any remind me why I post roll every damn day. The good days are nice to soak in and come often enough but I know they are the ones that are most dangerous because they have the potential to make me think I don't need to do this one day at a time. And I do. We all do. I've finally accepted that.

I believe that daily promise is essential. I believe making connections is essential. They are hand in hand in my opinion. What's the point of posting roll if you don't give a shit about the person you are promising? But I don't think involvement looks the same for everyone. Some of us need to be on every intro, posting in 32 quit groups and hanging out in chat daily. Some of us just need to post an encouraging word or two. Others need to satisfy our inner ids by describing nic in the foulest terms and using language we would die before we'd let their mother see (I'm looking at you Diesel). Others have a quieter presence.

I quit almost everyday with my friend Boomdrum. He has an intro which he updates occasionally. He's 68 days quit and he's a 100% poster. But chats not really for him (too many conversations at once) and he's very busy with a lot going on so investing in intros or wild card or new quit groups isn't something he has a lot of time for right now. But he has made a few connections here and he has real life accountability in me. He is quit like fuck. No doubt. I'll quit with him every single day and know he has my back.

I bring him up, not to single him out. I hope he doesn't mind I've done this. I bring it up because I think there are a lot of men (and probably some women) who are like him and might feel defensive about their level of commitment. I want to encourage those people. I'm about to enter a phase in my life that requires me to scale back my time here a great deal. I won't feel guilty and my quit remains strong because I am committed to posting 100% and I have folks like 2mch and Boomdrum and others who care about me and will hold me accountable. This phase won't be permanent and I'm sure I'll have times of more involvement again but we all know life has its ebbs and flows.

I encourage you all to post 100% and if you have not yet made at least one connection, reach out today. Surely you've been pm'd at least one number. Take the time to send out a quick text. All you have to say is, "Hope your quit is great today." You could be saving THEIR life one day. Think I'm kidding? I sent a text like that out to a vet a couple weeks ago. Yesterday he was on the ledge and ready to cave with cope right in front of him. Because he'd changed phones mine was one of the three numbers he had in his phone because I'd sent that text. I don't know if he would have caved without my help but I know he DIDN'T cave partly because I was there.

Reach out a little. Not everyone is as lucky as I am to have a real life connection with an amazing quitter but we all have someone to whom we can reach out. Have you found your someone? That one person who would notice if you didn't show up tomorrow?

Guard your quit and find them.

I don't mind.

Thank you so much, LHG. For everything. You're amazing. You got this...

:wub:

Good stuff here. I like.

I understand and doubt not your commitment to your quit or our group!! You are a hell of a quitter young lady, a quitter that I am proud to quit with every damn day!

Perfect, D! Just Perfect!!!

Vey nice, LHG. Proud to be quit with you.

I was at a party last night and I was talking about you and 2mch. There was a girl there, (kind of a date of a mutual friend) and I noticed that she was having a smoke about every 30 minutes or so. She happened to be the only smoker at the party. I could not help myself, so I asked her if she would like to be free of that addiction or if she was content with it. I told her about KTC, WTP, my 188 days and 2 badass female quitters that I know. I told her that they would be happy to help her along if she ever choose to quit. It was a pretty moving converstion and she is giving it some serious thought. I will let you know how it turns out.

Give her my number, Ryan! I always welcome new female quitters. Us gals gotta stick together!

Thanks 2mch, I knew I could count on you :)

I remember when you first joined the site. I was still new and as everyone here knows I am not afraid to voice an opinion! I was kinda irritated when you joined. This is a chewing support forum, not a smoking forum. And here you come in and talk about being a new member here and one at LITE. I was thinking that you didn't belong here and if LITE was for smokers then you should go there.... I sat back and did not voice an opinion and watched how you posted on the site. Then I got to meet you in chat. Over the course of the first weeks you were here I found myself very glad I did not speak up against your involvement here. In my time here you have brought a lot of great views to the threads and I personally have gotten a lot of great encouragement from reading your wisdom. You have been a good source of inspiration to everyone here. No matter what life brings and what may make you step back in your involvement here, I am grateful for each day that you are here. I will not question the strength of your quit in any way! You are a rock here and an example to me that everyone can bring something to the table here no matter what form of NIC addiction they come with. You are one of the few examples to me of being glad I was wrong in my first assessment. Ex smoker or ex chewer it doesn't matter! you are a strong quitter who brings a lot to the table every day. I thought today was a good time to tell you that I was wrong in my judgement when you first joined, You just didn't know it! Thank you again. You make my quit stronger!

[Its_Got2Happen]

Day 45 (technically 46 but I haven't gone to bed yet)...This was a tough day. It was one of those days that my former self would have taken as THE PERFECT EXCUSE to start again. Was my strongest crave by far but I was never in a danger zone. Simply isn't an option for many reasons.

From day 3 and on, my quit has been "easy". I was emotional and had bouts of anger and had trouble maintaining objectivity in the beginning. I have occassional strong craves. But the moment I understood I am an addict and was freed from ever having to find the balance between "smoking socially" and "becoming addicted", my quit has been pretty effortless. Never again... For any reason. Nothing simpler, if not always easy. What I am left with is an awareness of moments I WOULD have likely caved. Those times more than any remind me why I post roll every damn day. The good days are nice to soak in and come often enough but I know they are the ones that are most dangerous because they have the potential to make me think I don't need to do this one day at a time. And I do. We all do. I've finally accepted that.

I believe that daily promise is essential. I believe making connections is essential. They are hand in hand in my opinion. What's the point of posting roll if you don't give a shit about the person you are promising? But I don't think involvement looks the same for everyone. Some of us need to be on every intro, posting in 32 quit groups and hanging out in chat daily. Some of us just need to post an encouraging word or two. Others need to satisfy our inner ids by describing nic in the foulest terms and using language we would die before we'd let their mother see (I'm looking at you Diesel). Others have a quieter presence.

I quit almost everyday with my friend Boomdrum. He has an intro which he updates occasionally. He's 68 days quit and he's a 100% poster. But chats not really for him (too many conversations at once) and he's very busy with a lot going on so investing in intros or wild card or new quit groups isn't something he has a lot of time for right now. But he has made a few connections here and he has real life accountability in me. He is quit like fuck. No doubt. I'll quit with him every single day and know he has my back.

I bring him up, not to single him out. I hope he doesn't mind I've done this. I bring it up because I think there are a lot of men (and probably some women) who are like him and might feel defensive about their level of commitment. I want to encourage those people. I'm about to enter a phase in my life that requires me to scale back my time here a great deal. I won't feel guilty and my quit remains strong because I am committed to posting 100% and I have folks like 2mch and Boomdrum and others who care about me and will hold me accountable. This phase won't be permanent and I'm sure I'll have times of more involvement again but we all know life has its ebbs and flows.

I encourage you all to post 100% and if you have not yet made at least one connection, reach out today. Surely you've been pm'd at least one number. Take the time to send out a quick text. All you have to say is, "Hope your quit is great today." You could be saving THEIR life one day. Think I'm kidding? I sent a text like that out to a vet a couple weeks ago. Yesterday he was on the ledge and ready to cave with cope right in front of him. Because he'd changed phones mine was one of the three numbers he had in his phone because I'd sent that text. I don't know if he would have caved without my help but I know he DIDN'T cave partly because I was there.

Reach out a little. Not everyone is as lucky as I am to have a real life connection with an amazing quitter but we all have someone to whom we can reach out. Have you found your someone? That one person who would notice if you didn't show up tomorrow?

Guard your quit and find them.

I don't mind.

Thank you so much, LHG. For everything. You're amazing. You got this...

:wub:

Good stuff here. I like.

I understand and doubt not your commitment to your quit or our group!! You are a hell of a quitter young lady, a quitter that I am proud to quit with every damn day!

Perfect, D! Just Perfect!!!

Vey nice, LHG. Proud to be quit with you.

I was at a party last night and I was talking about you and 2mch. There was a girl there, (kind of a date of a mutual friend) and I noticed that she was having a smoke about every 30 minutes or so. She happened to be the only smoker at the party. I could not help myself, so I asked her if she would like to be free of that addiction or if she was content with it. I told her about KTC, WTP, my 188 days and 2 badass female quitters that I know. I told her that they would be happy to help her along if she ever choose to quit. It was a pretty moving converstion and she is giving it some serious thought. I will let you know how it turns out.

Give her my number, Ryan! I always welcome new female quitters. Us gals gotta stick together!

Thanks 2mch, I knew I could count on you :)

[jake frawley]

Day 45 (technically 46 but I haven't gone to bed yet)...This was a tough day. It was one of those days that my former self would have taken as THE PERFECT EXCUSE to start again. Was my strongest crave by far but I was never in a danger zone. Simply isn't an option for many reasons.

From day 3 and on, my quit has been "easy". I was emotional and had bouts of anger and had trouble maintaining objectivity in the beginning. I have occassional strong craves. But the moment I understood I am an addict and was freed from ever having to find the balance between "smoking socially" and "becoming addicted", my quit has been pretty effortless. Never again... For any reason. Nothing simpler, if not always easy. What I am left with is an awareness of moments I WOULD have likely caved. Those times more than any remind me why I post roll every damn day. The good days are nice to soak in and come often enough but I know they are the ones that are most dangerous because they have the potential to make me think I don't need to do this one day at a time. And I do. We all do. I've finally accepted that.

I believe that daily promise is essential. I believe making connections is essential. They are hand in hand in my opinion. What's the point of posting roll if you don't give a shit about the person you are promising? But I don't think involvement looks the same for everyone. Some of us need to be on every intro, posting in 32 quit groups and hanging out in chat daily. Some of us just need to post an encouraging word or two. Others need to satisfy our inner ids by describing nic in the foulest terms and using language we would die before we'd let their mother see (I'm looking at you Diesel). Others have a quieter presence.

I quit almost everyday with my friend Boomdrum. He has an intro which he updates occasionally. He's 68 days quit and he's a 100% poster. But chats not really for him (too many conversations at once) and he's very busy with a lot going on so investing in intros or wild card or new quit groups isn't something he has a lot of time for right now. But he has made a few connections here and he has real life accountability in me. He is quit like fuck. No doubt. I'll quit with him every single day and know he has my back.

I bring him up, not to single him out. I hope he doesn't mind I've done this. I bring it up because I think there are a lot of men (and probably some women) who are like him and might feel defensive about their level of commitment. I want to encourage those people. I'm about to enter a phase in my life that requires me to scale back my time here a great deal. I won't feel guilty and my quit remains strong because I am committed to posting 100% and I have folks like 2mch and Boomdrum and others who care about me and will hold me accountable. This phase won't be permanent and I'm sure I'll have times of more involvement again but we all know life has its ebbs and flows.

I encourage you all to post 100% and if you have not yet made at least one connection, reach out today. Surely you've been pm'd at least one number. Take the time to send out a quick text. All you have to say is, "Hope your quit is great today." You could be saving THEIR life one day. Think I'm kidding? I sent a text like that out to a vet a couple weeks ago. Yesterday he was on the ledge and ready to cave with cope right in front of him. Because he'd changed phones mine was one of the three numbers he had in his phone because I'd sent that text. I don't know if he would have caved without my help but I know he DIDN'T cave partly because I was there.

Reach out a little. Not everyone is as lucky as I am to have a real life connection with an amazing quitter but we all have someone to whom we can reach out. Have you found your someone? That one person who would notice if you didn't show up tomorrow?

Guard your quit and find them.

I don't mind.

Thank you so much, LHG. For everything. You're amazing. You got this...

:wub:

Good stuff here. I like.

I understand and doubt not your commitment to your quit or our group!! You are a hell of a quitter young lady, a quitter that I am proud to quit with every damn day!

Perfect, D! Just Perfect!!!

I remember when you first joined the site. I was still new and as everyone here knows I am not afraid to voice an opinion! I was kinda irritated when you joined. This is a chewing support forum, not a smoking forum. And here you come in and talk about being a new member here and one at LITE. I was thinking that you didn't belong here and if LITE was for smokers then you should go there.... I sat back and did not voice an opinion and watched how you posted on the site. Then I got to meet you in chat. Over the course of the first weeks you were here I found myself very glad I did not speak up against your involvement here. In my time here you have brought a lot of great views to the threads and I personally have gotten a lot of great encouragement from reading your wisdom. You have been a good source of inspiration to everyone here. No matter what life brings and what may make you step back in your involvement here, I am grateful for each day that you are here. I will not question the strength of your quit in any way! You are a rock here and an example to me that everyone can bring something to the table here no matter what form of NIC addiction they come with. You are one of the few examples to me of being glad I was wrong in my first assessment. Ex smoker or ex chewer it doesn't matter! you are a strong quitter who brings a lot to the table every day. I thought today was a good time to tell you that I was wrong in my judgement when you first joined, You just didn't know it! Thank you again. You make my quit stronger!