Day 1 - The Fog of War

[mfkuss]

Sand_Fleas

I've been laying low from a minor surgery the last week and am just now getting up to speed on what I missed around here.

I was really disappointed to hear you had caved, but am damn glad you are back to QUIT! You've answered the questions and faced up to the failure...

I'll quit with you every damn day!! I got your back and am happy to see you here again! I'll post in July with you!

I'll PM you my digits.

Kuss

[Sand_Fleas_Gotta_Eat]

We are all here to support you and each other.  But you gotta take the 3 questions seriously - they are important.  Its not just for your group's sake, it forces you to think about what you'll do differently next time to avoid caving.

Glad you're quit again, I quit with you.  now:

(1) What happened to make you cave?

(2) Why did it happen?

(3) What are you gonna do differently in this quit, to avoid the same thing happening?

Thanks rickddd - Glad to be back.

Answers to questions:

1) What happened to make you cave? I lost control of myself and didn't take my quit seriously. I made a bad choice.

2) Why did it happen? I didn't take my quit seriously. I didn't post roll call when I should have

3) What I will do differently?
1. I will post roll call everyday.
2. I will take ownership of my quit.
3. I will take my quit seriously.
4. I will take advantage of the wisdom of those who have gone before me and stayed quit. I am an addict and I will need their help when I cannot go on any further.

That's it? Pretty weak. Did you even take a look deep down inside yourself to try to understand why you caved?

Do you talk to anyone in your quit group? Do you have anyone's number? Do you have a quit contract?

Do you have a plan in place when the temptation arises?

I'm sorry that my answers didn't meet with your approval. I didn't know I needed to go into exile and have some deep spiritual epiphany as to the details of how, where, when, why and what the details were 'archer'

I have posted everyday in my current quit group and have been in contact with a few from my old group as well as a number of others in other quit groups. I do have their numbers.

Do I have a plan in place when the temptation arises? Every F****** minute 'bang head'

I know you might be salivating at the opportunity for me to cave right away. Don't worry, I'm not about to give you and parputt the satisfaction.

Love your avitar though :D

[Kubrick]

We are all here to support you and each other.  But you gotta take the 3 questions seriously - they are important.  Its not just for your group's sake, it forces you to think about what you'll do differently next time to avoid caving.

Glad you're quit again, I quit with you.  now:

(1) What happened to make you cave?

(2) Why did it happen?

(3) What are you gonna do differently in this quit, to avoid the same thing happening?

Thanks rickddd - Glad to be back.

Answers to questions:

1) What happened to make you cave? I lost control of myself and didn't take my quit seriously. I made a bad choice.

2) Why did it happen? I didn't take my quit seriously. I didn't post roll call when I should have

3) What I will do differently?
1. I will post roll call everyday.
2. I will take ownership of my quit.
3. I will take my quit seriously.
4. I will take advantage of the wisdom of those who have gone before me and stayed quit. I am an addict and I will need their help when I cannot go on any further.

That's it? Pretty weak. Did you even take a look deep down inside yourself to try to understand why you caved?

Do you talk to anyone in your quit group? Do you have anyone's number? Do you have a quit contract?

Do you have a plan in place when the temptation arises?

[Sand_Fleas_Gotta_Eat]

I look forward to seeing you here everyday, but I see several red flags that have failure written into your story:
1. You enjoyed it.  If that's true you will be drawn back. Get over it hate the shit!!
2.  Too much of a good thing.  What the hell is a good thing?
3.  Ex put you back on the wagon!  BS own your addiction! You put the poison in your mouth, no one else!

I stopped for 3 1/2 yrs once and caved.  All that is in the past now we can quit each day!  Don't look back or into the future, today we can do.

All True - On Day 6 and feeling better - Still Foggy though.

Truth, yes it is the truth. Ownership is what we're talking about here though. You absolutely have to take ownership of the fact that you ruined your previous quit, no one else. There is no enjoyment in a slow, drawn out, painful death. Too much of a good thing, really, how is poisoning yourself on a daily basis a good thing? How is falling prey to an addiction substance a good thing? With those thoughts permeating your brain, how are you going to stay quit when the urges come calling? Making it through these first two weeks with your current attitude and mindset is going to be difficult. What you must do is own your quit and be responsible and accountable to your quit group. If you need help, I'm a PM away.

This still applies.

You owe me some answers my friend. You owe us all an explanation, in detail, of how this time will be different. I'm still here, always was, and never, never did you reach out to me for help. That is not something we do around here.

QLAFM

Eric71 - Trying to do the right thing now. Thanks for being there then and thanks for being here now. I am sorry for not reaching out when I was on that path back to destruction.

I'm here now and will QLAFM

[Sand_Fleas_Gotta_Eat]

We are all here to support you and each other. But you gotta take the 3 questions seriously - they are important. Its not just for your group's sake, it forces you to think about what you'll do differently next time to avoid caving.

Glad you're quit again, I quit with you. now:

(1) What happened to make you cave?

(2) Why did it happen?

(3) What are you gonna do differently in this quit, to avoid the same thing happening?

Thanks rickddd - Glad to be back.

Answers to questions:

1) What happened to make you cave? I lost control of myself and didn't take my quit seriously. I made a bad choice.

2) Why did it happen? I didn't take my quit seriously. I didn't post roll call when I should have

3) What I will do differently?
1. I will post roll call everyday.
2. I will take ownership of my quit.
3. I will take my quit seriously.
4. I will take advantage of the wisdom of those who have gone before me and stayed quit. I am an addict and I will need their help when I cannot go on any further.

[Sand_Fleas_Gotta_Eat]

Sand Fleas,

Glad to see you back, Make it count this time, you have my support. Message me if you need digits.

Thanks Gunner - Will Do!

[eric71]

I look forward to seeing you here everyday, but I see several red flags that have failure written into your story:
1. You enjoyed it.  If that's true you will be drawn back. Get over it hate the shit!!
2.  Too much of a good thing.  What the hell is a good thing?
3.  Ex put you back on the wagon!  BS own your addiction! You put the poison in your mouth, no one else!

I stopped for 3 1/2 yrs once and caved.  All that is in the past now we can quit each day!  Don't look back or into the future, today we can do.

All True - On Day 6 and feeling better - Still Foggy though.

Truth, yes it is the truth. Ownership is what we're talking about here though. You absolutely have to take ownership of the fact that you ruined your previous quit, no one else. There is no enjoyment in a slow, drawn out, painful death. Too much of a good thing, really, how is poisoning yourself on a daily basis a good thing? How is falling prey to an addiction substance a good thing? With those thoughts permeating your brain, how are you going to stay quit when the urges come calling? Making it through these first two weeks with your current attitude and mindset is going to be difficult. What you must do is own your quit and be responsible and accountable to your quit group. If you need help, I'm a PM away.

This still applies.

You owe me some answers my friend. You owe us all an explanation, in detail, of how this time will be different. I'm still here, always was, and never, never did you reach out to me for help. That is not something we do around here.

QLAFM

[rickddd]

We are all here to support you and each other. But you gotta take the 3 questions seriously - they are important. Its not just for your group's sake, it forces you to think about what you'll do differently next time to avoid caving.

Glad you're quit again, I quit with you. now:

(1) What happened to make you cave?

(2) Why did it happen?

(3) What are you gonna do differently in this quit, to avoid the same thing happening?

[Gunner75]

Sand Fleas,

Glad to see you back, Make it count this time, you have my support. Message me if you need digits.

[redtrain14]

Sign in using your old name or contact an admin to help you reset the password. The only thing I can do is disable your ability to post under this new name. Which I would be happy to assist you with.

Thanks.

I guess you've already done that. Thank you!

Since you knew how to use this name, and did, then decided to create a new name anyway ......answer these gentlemen's questions.

[Sand_Fleas_Gotta_Eat]

Sign in using your old name or contact an admin to help you reset the password. The only thing I can do is disable your ability to post under this new name. Which I would be happy to assist you with.

Thanks.

I guess you've already done that. Thank you!

[Parputt]

Find your ball sack and post under your old name. Our rules, not yours. Get with the program or get.

If you are really a Marine, I hope the rest of them aren't as weak as you.

[kkljinc]

Maybe this will help, get you back into the old grove.

[redtrain14]

Sign in using your old name or contact an admin to help you reset the password. The only thing I can do is disable your ability to post under this new name. Which I would be happy to assist you with.

Thanks.

[cbird65]

Man that's fucking depressing... Almost to HOF, then cave. 95 Days, and you still could not control her? Then I would assume you caved and just said fuck it and left right? Or read in the posts with a big old lipper in while all your other quit brothers looked for you and were concerned for you?

"My goal is to again take it one day at a time and hope that I can be stronger and have more resolve and to see it through and stay quit"

Just quit man, every day just like you did last time for 95 fucking days!!!!!!

Why the new name?

Why did you come back?

Why did you wait for so long?

Why will it be any different?

Have you let your brothers/ sisters from whatever class you flunked out of know?

Your hope you can be strong and find some resolve sounds like an excuse.

Whatever dude. From my time on this site four months ago, no one wanted to hear excuses of why someone caved. Frankly it doesn't matter what excuse I have other than I failed and I admit failure. No reason is good enough for failing.

I do expect some shots fired from some of you who can't seem to help yourselves, so have at it if you like. I will read them and comment if they are constructive. I will also post in my previous group. I AM here to quit. Help me if you like or don't if you like. I will quit and stay quit.

Four questions now


(1) What happened?

(2) Why did it happen?

(3) What are you doing differently this time?

(4) Why are you using a new name and not Sand_Fleas_Gotta_Eat

You need to post answers in July 13 and Dec 12