58- Glad to be quit today. I am on vacation after tonight and am preparing myself to deal with a test. Most of my best friends and their families will be vacationing with me for a few days at a lakehouse, and this will be the first time I am araund them in a mostly private setting. 2 of the three are dippers and the 3rd is a smoker. I am a little worried about it, but I know I have the tools to stay strong. Good day for inspiration for me here. Some of the guys who have been active in helping my quit are hitting 100 days and some of the new quitters I have given my $.02 to are starting to get it. I feel aweful after hearing about Matt but I am glad he is taking control and I pray he will recover.
You got numbers you got your bail out plan always have a back up plan. If she comes for you be ready preparation is the key here. IDK if you do fake or not but have a can of that ready, seeds gum what have you. Keep booze to a minimum remember day 1! You aint gonna do that shit again NAFAR
Set the rules out in the beginnig with your friends that under no circumstances are they to offer you any nicotine....tell them right off the bat that if they do you will be leaving.
just a .02 if you need my number PM me
Good recognition of an upcoming event and pending triggers. I just went thru this on a work trip a couple weeks back and a couple folks told me one thing that really helped me -- Don't lose focus of ODAAT. Don't worry about the entire trip and holding serve the entire time... focus your worry on keeping your word and your quit ODAAT. Initially, I was getting way out in front of it and it was weighing heacy on me, but once I brought it back to basics... One day, one hr, whatever increment you need to keep quit -- I found it easier to relax and keep my word. I like Trauma's call on keeping the booze in check and telling your friends your policy on nic. You got this bro. You have my # if you need anything at anytime.
Stay the course brother! You have received some great advice; set the rules with your buddies, quit everyday, and call/text if you feel you are getting into trouble. There is no shame in reaching out - there is shame in caving when you have all of us with our hands out.
Drink a big ole glass of KTC-aide and enjoy the shit out of you vacation!
When you see them friends just see them for what they are. Slaves bro. Let them see what freedom is. Let them see what it could be like without their poison dragging them around.
Watch the way they act when it's been to long and the poison starts ordering them back outside where they can suckle with it. They will no doubt go outside together and take part in poison suckling. They will have big smiles, while laughing and joking. All the while the poison is coursing through their blood where it will continue to destroy them. Where it will continue to turn their lungs black with tar and Carthaginians. Watch the dipper as he puts black dirt in his lip where it will cut and slice so the poison can course through his veins. Watch as all the slaves finish about the same time, head back inside and wait for their orders to be given once again.
See if for what it is my friend and it will be another day in the life of a real quitter... I'll be quit with you bro....
Thanks guys! I was starting to feel a funk comming on, but then I read all the responses here and I know I will be fine. Great advice, and these friends are my oldest and best so I know they will respect my quit. I will pack plenty of smokeless alternatives, and program some of my contact #s into my wifes phone JIC. So good to be quit... I will remember day 1 and I will show my friends what freedom is like!
Suck the marrow from the bone of life, not the juice from a posionous weed.
Think.
Think about the last time you stopped for 5 months and thought you could handle one with the fellas. Took you two years to wise up.
Friends, lakehouse, vacation...sounds like a hell of a time. Dip won't make it any better.
Live.
Live free of the slavery, the sore lip, the eroded gums, the brown teeth, the spewing of slime into a bottle. Live free of the fear of losing your face, your family, your loved ones...your life.
You got this.
I know it and so does every other mother fucker on this site.
Enjoy yourself. Your true self. Not the one dependent on dip. You don't need the stuff, and you never did.
