Keep taking those big breaths brother. You can do this.
You also have a great group forming to help in those times when it seems there is no oxygen to breath in.
We have all done it.... So can you. ODAAT.
PM if you ever need any help.
Rawls,
I see that you and I are both the same kind of 'gambler'. If you could pray for me, I would greatly appreciate it brother. Specifically for a softened heart toward my wife and kids. Two days in a row and we've had some pretty bad arguments - stupid stuff, but it just triggers something in me. I'm ok for a while as we argue, but then she just keeps picking and picking and I can't help it but fire back...
Here's the hardest part. Since the start of the quit, my strength/faith in Christ has grown cynical, as if to say that He can't do anything to help me. In fact, I don't even want to pray about it. The quit is making me irrational/unreasonable. This used to happen some mornings at home on weekends when I couldn't get a fix. Now that i'm 4 days in, i'm really unreasonable.
i'm making it...
Don't doubt that through his grace this is possible. The anger and fight is part of the suck of quitting. Don't take your pain out on the family they aren't the fools that poisoned you. Hang in there Handjob you can do this.
Gotta walk off my friend! Right or wrong man up grab your sac walkoff! Hey look at those kids they need you to do this as bad as you need this! Prayers for you friend! You got this, who says that this is not the devil in the tin working on you! You've got to give this your all! Want it more than anything you ever wanted! Be strong, be the man! Do not be defeated! I struggle nearly every day but I shrug it off smile and say not today nic bitch! We all here to help! Reach out! Just addict trying to help another addict! Proud to be quit with you today my friend! Anyone can dip but not everyone can handle the quit!
Hey brother... I feel you. I've been in ministry for a couple decades now. Through all of it I chewed like it was my job. This quitting is a hard thing to reconcile sometimes where faith is concerned. One thing along the lines of family... Be extremely open about why you're bein such a butt. Educate them on the physical/mental crap that is going on. Involve them, hand in hand. Healing that will happen together is just as needed as the healing you are going through. Now... Here's the tough one... Give yourself some grace m'man. You are goin through some hell and everything, I mean EVERYTHING, in your life is being reworked as you move further away from nicotine. Christ isn't going anywhere, man... If you aren't in a place to be eloquent in prayer... Dude, He knows. Even if you're just crying out for help and strength to get through, it's alright. His grace, His gift, to you is this site. That's how I chose, and still choose, to look at it. Allow yourself a li'l grace...
Well said AJ! That was some good stuff, needed that myself! Thanks!
You didn't find Ktc as a fluke. Was it luck, or did a higher power help lead you here?
I dunno Hando, but I know that this site helps, and is the difference between a stop and a quit. This time, you are quit. Thank God.
One foot in front of the other.
-w2w
Booooom..... How is that for some answered prayer. Strong support in the halls of KTC.
Yes I will pray for you.
He has blessed you with your wife and kids.
Don't quit for them and bring on resentment towards them. Let them be the benefactor of your decision to not be chained by another Idol.
Quit for you...... You know it needs to die. Let it die and be excited about your new identity.
They want and need to follow you. They need you to lead them, with patience, understanding, gentleness and forgiveness.
When you quit for the right reasons, you will gain respect and teach them how to handle future situations in their own life's.
I pray you receive wisdom and patience to overcome the lies of nicotine.
I Respect your decision to quit. Now let's put some work behind our decision and learn from men with experience above ours that have learned to quit by replacing chemicals with relationships.
Read and stay here fighting the addiction with the same energy you used to feed your addiction.
And last.. Don't ever stop praying. When would it be OK for your own kids to quit asking you for your help?
Swords sharpen Swords.
I just PMed you my Sword Numbers. Call anytime.
Ps.... Go buy your wife some new walking shoes... Ask here to go on walks. Share your struggles and victories about quitting with her, being YOUR IDEA.
Then don't try and fix her... Just let her vent.
After that... Be prepared for some good ol fashion "Necking"
Your quit will be so rewarding, one day you will thank Him for the struggles you are going through today.
I quit with you and your family.
Rawls