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Offline JGlav

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Re: Tired and terrified...
« Reply #7 on: October 26, 2016, 08:43:00 AM »
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Hello sir.

My name is Michael, aka worktowin, and I'm an addict.

^^^this is step one. Dip does not define you. Dip isn't who who are. It isn't your pleasure source in life. It doesn't make things easier. It doesnt help one single thing in life. Not one. Nicotine takes... money, health, integrity, freedom, and the withdrawal of not using it.

When you throw a new one in, the withdrawal goes away. Briefly. You are scared? Anxious? Not ofmissing the good... but facing the bad. Bud I wasted 25 years and $40,000 chasing the withdrawals away. You are in good company here.

You can do this. It is going to suck at first. But until you quit you'll never know how good it feels to break free. Freedom is a glorious thing, and not being chained to a little round can wig a chopped up plant is sure a good feeling. That little can had me by the nuts too man, but I promise that you can do this. Don't plan your quit. Don't cut back or wean yourself off... quit with us. We win together here. Take your life back. Win.

Today's the day. Why give that little can any more power over you?
You got this. And everyone posting here has been in your shoes. It truly is one second, one minute, one hour and one day at a time. All the withdraw anxiety will go away.
Its a plant, a nasty disgusting plant, learn to hate it. Post roll in the morning, get some numbers. We are with you and quitting is bad ass. Life is so much better without putting a weed in your lip.
Proud to be quit with you.

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Re: Tired and terrified...
« Reply #6 on: October 26, 2016, 08:41:00 AM »
Hey, man... you're coming back to look at this.

You're reading some hard but excellent truths.

You're getting genius and compassionate advice.

You're being called out...

What's it gonna be, bro? Taking your life back today?
Well, it’s one louder, isn’t it? It’s not ten.

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Re: Tired and terrified...
« Reply #5 on: October 26, 2016, 06:31:00 AM »
Hello sir.

My name is Michael, aka worktowin, and I'm an addict.

^^^this is step one. Dip does not define you. Dip isn't who who are. It isn't your pleasure source in life. It doesn't make things easier. It doesnt help one single thing in life. Not one. Nicotine takes... money, health, integrity, freedom, and the withdrawal of not using it.

When you throw a new one in, the withdrawal goes away. Briefly. You are scared? Anxious? Not ofmissing the good... but facing the bad. Bud I wasted 25 years and $40,000 chasing the withdrawals away. You are in good company here.

You can do this. It is going to suck at first. But until you quit you'll never know how good it feels to break free. Freedom is a glorious thing, and not being chained to a little round can wig a chopped up plant is sure a good feeling. That little can had me by the nuts too man, but I promise that you can do this. Don't plan your quit. Don't cut back or wean yourself off... quit with us. We win together here. Take your life back. Win.

Today's the day. Why give that little can any more power over you?

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Re: Tired and terrified...
« Reply #4 on: October 25, 2016, 02:00:00 PM »
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I've been on the can for 17.5 years, and I'm tired of it. I'm sick of being a slave to this disgusting habit. I've wanted to quit for years, but I've been weak minded. Two days ago, I switched from Cope long cut, to Cope pouches. That was my first step. Today I talked to doc about it, and he set me up with Chantix. I know many of you will steer me away from that too, but I am terrified of quitting. It's dictated who I am for so long, it scares me to think about who might be on the other side of that can. I WILL quit. I WILL survive this. I just fee like I (and my marriage) needs a short term chemical aid.
As I type this, my heart is pounding, and my eyes are watering. I'm so scared.
Yep, we've been where you are. There's no way getting around it, quitting sucks until it doesn't.

Take it from someone who thought he needed to "taper" down using nicotine gum for the first three weeks - you don't need the aids. You need to buckle up and embrace the suck of the quit. The only place the nicotine gum got me was three weeks behind where I should have been. Every time I fed my addiction, even a little bit, I took a step backwards. Every time I extended the time between pieces of gum by one hour, I took a step backwards.

Cold Turkey is your best bet at a lasting quit.

If you quit today, your Quit Group will be the February group found here. Guess what! If you go over there and post roll, right away, you will be the first member of that group! The pioneer! But, you won't be alone. The full force of the KTC forums will be behind you.

Learn about posting roll here. That's the backbone of the site, and the price of admission to this otherwise free site.

Honestly, the anxiety, the fear of the unknown, feeling like you're losing a "friend" - we've all experienced it. When you get involved here, and stay quit, you will soon learn that tobacco and nicotine are the enemies. They have been trying to kill you for the past 17.5 years. Freedom can be found on the other side of the suck. But you've got to be willing to take your licks before you get there. It's worth it.

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Re: Tired and terrified...
« Reply #3 on: October 25, 2016, 01:29:00 PM »
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Quote from: texasxb
I've been on the can for 17.5 years, and I'm tired of it. I'm sick of being a slave to this disgusting habit. I've wanted to quit for years, but I've been weak minded. Two days ago, I switched from Cope long cut, to Cope pouches. That was my first step. Today I talked to doc about it, and he set me up with Chantix. I know many of you will steer me away from that too, but I am terrified of quitting. It's dictated who I am for so long, it scares me to think about who might be on the other side of that can. I WILL quit. I WILL survive this. I just fee like I (and my marriage) needs a short term chemical aid.
As I type this, my heart is pounding, and my eyes are watering. I'm so scared.
RELAX! Everyone here knows what is going through your head and we've all been there before. If you really want to quit, you've come to the right place. Drop the cope pouches, drop the patch/gum, drop the chantix. All of that is just band-aids to a war wound.

Here is what you need to do (among other things): find your quit group in the forum (it will be either January or February, I think the latter). Post your promise that you won't use nicotine today. It seems weird to post a promise to a bunch of internet strangers, but it works. Anybody can quit for one day. Take it an hour at a time, a minute at a time, whatever is needed; just don't use nicotine that day. Then, tomorrow when you wake up, post your promise again. Don't think of the future beyond that one day. The way to quit is one day at a time, or ODAAT. Embrace it and you will soon find yourself on the other side where the pastures are green.

Also, I recommend reading long intro threads and HOF (hall of fame) speeches. This will feed your stoke to quit, offer you lots of advice and motivation, encourage you that you are not alone in this, and give you something to look forward to.

The formula is not easy, but it is simple. Follow it and you will see freedom at long last!

PS - I'm only 39 days ahead of you in this quit, but I feel confident to say all of the above. I quit with you today!
^^^^ LMM is only a few days ahead of you but his advice is spot on!

Keep sharing your experience here, and it lets guys like that reach out to help. That's one way to build your network, and to help other quitters see what you have made it through, in the future. Get to know other quitters here, and learn all you can about what you are fighting in this evil addiction. If you start to get mad about the tobacco companies, you are starting to get it! And use your discomfort, and any anger, to fuel your resolve. You can break free now, just keep yourself in the game and it gets easier over time!
This info helped me early on, and still does today: https://whyquit.com/whyquit/linksaaddiction.html

Quitters I’ve met so far: Ihatecope, >Pinched<, T-Cell, grizzlyhasclaws, Canvasback, BaseballPlayer, Cbird65, ERDVM, BradleyGuy, Ted, Zeno, AppleJack, Bronc, Knockout, MookieBlaylock, Rdad, 2mch2lv4, MN_Ben, Natro, Lippizaner, Amquash, ChristopherJ, GDubya, SRohde  -- always eager to meet more!

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Re: Tired and terrified...
« Reply #2 on: October 25, 2016, 01:54:00 AM »
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I've been on the can for 17.5 years, and I'm tired of it. I'm sick of being a slave to this disgusting habit. I've wanted to quit for years, but I've been weak minded. Two days ago, I switched from Cope long cut, to Cope pouches. That was my first step. Today I talked to doc about it, and he set me up with Chantix. I know many of you will steer me away from that too, but I am terrified of quitting. It's dictated who I am for so long, it scares me to think about who might be on the other side of that can. I WILL quit. I WILL survive this. I just fee like I (and my marriage) needs a short term chemical aid.
As I type this, my heart is pounding, and my eyes are watering. I'm so scared.
RELAX! Everyone here knows what is going through your head and we've all been there before. If you really want to quit, you've come to the right place. Drop the cope pouches, drop the patch/gum, drop the chantix. All of that is just band-aids to a war wound.

Here is what you need to do (among other things): find your quit group in the forum (it will be either January or February, I think the latter). Post your promise that you won't use nicotine today. It seems weird to post a promise to a bunch of internet strangers, but it works. Anybody can quit for one day. Take it an hour at a time, a minute at a time, whatever is needed; just don't use nicotine that day. Then, tomorrow when you wake up, post your promise again. Don't think of the future beyond that one day. The way to quit is one day at a time, or ODAAT. Embrace it and you will soon find yourself on the other side where the pastures are green.

Also, I recommend reading long intro threads and HOF (hall of fame) speeches. This will feed your stoke to quit, offer you lots of advice and motivation, encourage you that you are not alone in this, and give you something to look forward to.

The formula is not easy, but it is simple. Follow it and you will see freedom at long last!

PS - I'm only 39 days ahead of you in this quit, but I feel confident to say all of the above. I quit with you today!

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Tired and terrified...
« on: October 25, 2016, 12:03:00 AM »
I've been on the can for 17.5 years, and I'm tired of it. I'm sick of being a slave to this disgusting habit. I've wanted to quit for years, but I've been weak minded. Two days ago, I switched from Cope long cut, to Cope pouches. That was my first step. Today I talked to doc about it, and he set me up with Chantix. I know many of you will steer me away from that too, but I am terrified of quitting. It's dictated who I am for so long, it scares me to think about who might be on the other side of that can. I WILL quit. I WILL survive this. I just fee like I (and my marriage) needs a short term chemical aid.
As I type this, my heart is pounding, and my eyes are watering. I'm so scared.