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Jconners
I have been dipping since college (13yrs). I still remember sitting in my dorm and my roommate saying don't blame me if you get addicted. Then I just remember passing out for the nicotine hit and waking up the next day buying my first tin. I now am happily married and have two kids (boys), I don't want them to follow in my footsteps. I have tired since my oldest was born over 6yrs ago to quit but have had little luck, the most I have gone is 3 months. My big temptation comes when I drink, they go hand and hand. I found the website over a year ago but never committed to roll call and reading - well today I am done with it all and not going back.
John
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Jconners
I have been dipping since college (13yrs). I still remember sitting in my dorm and my roommate saying don't blame me if you get addicted. Then I just remember passing out for the nicotine hit and waking up the next day buying my first tin. I now am happily married and have two kids (boys), I don't want them to follow in my footsteps. I have tired since my oldest was born over 6yrs ago to quit but have had little luck, the most I have gone is 3 months. My big temptation comes when I drink, they go hand and hand. I found the website over a year ago but never committed to roll call and reading - well today I am done with it all and not going back.
John
Welcome!
Most people will tell you that it's a great idea to stop (or significantly slow down) drinking in the early part of your quit simply because most caves are alcohol related.
Beyond that, this is pretty straightforward:
1) Wake up
2) Piss
3) Post your promise
4) KEEP YOUR WORD
5) Repeat daily
There's obviously a bit more to it than that, but in its most basic form that's what we do here. Along the way you'll build brotherhood by exchanging contact information with your fellow quitters and work to keep each other accountable. It's a system that's worked for literally thousands of people, and it will for you too if you'll let it.
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Jconners
I have been dipping since college (13yrs). I still remember sitting in my dorm and my roommate saying don't blame me if you get addicted. Then I just remember passing out for the nicotine hit and waking up the next day buying my first tin. I now am happily married and have two kids (boys), I don't want them to follow in my footsteps. I have tired since my oldest was born over 6yrs ago to quit but have had little luck, the most I have gone is 3 months. My big temptation comes when I drink, they go hand and hand. I found the website over a year ago but never committed to roll call and reading - well today I am done with it all and not going back.
John
Welcome!
Most people will tell you that it's a great idea to stop (or significantly slow down) drinking in the early part of your quit simply because most caves are alcohol related.
Beyond that, this is pretty straightforward:
1) Wake up
2) Piss
3) Post your promise
4) KEEP YOUR WORD
5) Repeat daily
There's obviously a bit more to it than that, but in its most basic form that's what we do here. Along the way you'll build brotherhood by exchanging contact information with your fellow quitters and work to keep each other accountable. It's a system that's worked for literally thousands of people, and it will for you too if you'll let it.
Jconners
I have been dipping since college (13yrs). I still remember sitting in my dorm and my roommate saying don't blame me if you get addicted. Then I just remember passing out for the nicotine hit and waking up the next day buying my first tin. I now am happily married and have two kids (boys), I don't want them to follow in my footsteps. I have tired since my oldest was born over 6yrs ago to quit but have had little luck, the most I have gone is 3 months. My big temptation comes when I drink, they go hand and hand. I found the website over a year ago but never committed to roll call and reading - well today I am done with it all and not going back.
John
Welcome!
Most people will tell you that it's a great idea to stop (or significantly slow down) drinking in the early part of your quit simply because most caves are alcohol related.
Beyond that, this is pretty straightforward:
1) Wake up
2) Piss
3) Post your promise
4) KEEP YOUR WORD
5) Repeat daily
There's obviously a bit more to it than that, but in its most basic form that's what we do here. Along the way you'll build brotherhood by exchanging contact information with your fellow quitters and work to keep each other accountable. It's a system that's worked for literally thousands of people, and it will for you too if you'll let it.
Great thank you for the guidance.
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Welcome.
It’s best to not drink in the early part of your quit. How long is the “early part” of your quit? Only you can answer that. For some it might be two months for others two years. But for a while, your quit needs to be the most important part of your life.
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Welcome.
It’s best to not drink in the early part of your quit. How long is the “early part” of your quit? Only you can answer that. For some it might be two months for others two years. But for a while, your quit needs to be the most important part of your life.
Take this as a warning, not a friendly reminder.
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12/11/2019
Its been a rough couple weeks. I let down a lot of people in my old group and all the people in my life. I feel like shit. I deserve everything I got today but in a weird way it feels good to be knocked down. I want to show everyone but more importantly myself that I can beat this once and for all. I know I will beat it. I know I will stay quit. I will not fail this time. Day 1 is coming to a close and of course tonight I have my office holiday party. Not drinking or dipping period, going to enjoy the company, laugh a little bit and eat a lot of food. Glad to be back home where I belong.
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12/11/2019
Its been a rough couple weeks. I let down a lot of people in my old group and all the people in my life. I feel like shit. I deserve everything I got today but in a weird way it feels good to be knocked down. I want to show everyone but more importantly myself that I can beat this once and for all. I know I will beat it. I know I will stay quit. I will not fail this time. Day 1 is coming to a close and of course tonight I have my office holiday party. Not drinking or dipping period, going to enjoy the company, laugh a little bit and eat a lot of food. Glad to be back home where I belong.
Hey @jconners (https://ktcforum.org/index.php?action=profile;u=14607) ,
Each member is allowed one Introduction thread. I merged your new post into your old Introduction.
Chris
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12/11/2019
Its been a rough couple weeks. I let down a lot of people in my old group and all the people in my life. I feel like shit. I deserve everything I got today but in a weird way it feels good to be knocked down. I want to show everyone but more importantly myself that I can beat this once and for all. I know I will beat it. I know I will stay quit. I will not fail this time. Day 1 is coming to a close and of course tonight I have my office holiday party. Not drinking or dipping period, going to enjoy the company, laugh a little bit and eat a lot of food. Glad to be back home where I belong.
Hey @jconners (https://ktcforum.org/index.php?action=profile;u=14607) ,
Each member is allowed one Introduction thread. I merged your new post into your old Introduction.
Chris
Thanks Chris
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12/11/2019
Its been a rough couple weeks. I let down a lot of people in my old group and all the people in my life. I feel like shit. I deserve everything I got today but in a weird way it feels good to be knocked down. I want to show everyone but more importantly myself that I can beat this once and for all. I know I will beat it. I know I will stay quit. I will not fail this time. Day 1 is coming to a close and of course tonight I have my office holiday party. Not drinking or dipping period, going to enjoy the company, laugh a little bit and eat a lot of food. Glad to be back home where I belong.
Hey @jconners (https://ktcforum.org/index.php?action=profile;u=14607) ,
Each member is allowed one Introduction thread. I merged your new post into your old Introduction.
Chris
Thanks Chris
you had my digits
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12/12/2019
Party last night was good, was able to disguise my drink order (cranberry/tonic with a lime). It actually tastes way better with out the alcohol. Enjoyed the food a little bit too much. Dip wasn't on my mind but with the weekend approaching i know it will be. I am glad i have digits and will be checking in with them daily. Feeling good but I know i still have a lot of work to do. Working late tonight then onto Friday. NNT / ODAAT
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12/12/2019
Party last night was good, was able to disguise my drink order (cranberry/tonic with a lime). It actually tastes way better with out the alcohol. Enjoyed the food a little bit too much. Dip wasn't on my mind but with the weekend approaching i know it will be. I am glad i have digits and will be checking in with them daily. Feeling good but I know i still have a lot of work to do. Working late tonight then onto Friday. NNT / ODAAT
Good job brother. When the weekend comes we will worry about that when the time comes. Right now all that matters is today. Hell not even today. Right here right now as you read this. Sometimes we got to take our quit one second at a time. I believe in you bro.
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12/13/2019
Another day almost in the books. Work is busy and its hard to manage KTC, work and my personal life but this is the only way. I feel more and more apart of KTC everyday - getting comfortable with messaging and finding threads. I want to be helpful in my group and stay on top of all of them. Life is always going to be busy. Its Friday, usually by now I'm thinking of where I am going to get a drink and which store to stop an grab a tin. Not this Friday, not any Friday going forward or any day - I am in this and I am now going to go home and enjoy my family. I stay quit with all of KTC today.
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12/13/2019
Another day almost in the books. Work is busy and its hard to manage KTC, work and my personal life but this is the only way. I feel more and more apart of KTC everyday - getting comfortable with messaging and finding threads. I want to be helpful in my group and stay on top of all of them. Life is always going to be busy. Its Friday, usually by now I'm thinking of where I am going to get a drink and which store to stop an grab a tin. Not this Friday, not any Friday going forward or any day - I am in this and I am now going to go home and enjoy my family. I stay quit with all of KTC today.
I'm with you.
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12/13/2019
Another day almost in the books. Work is busy and its hard to manage KTC, work and my personal life but this is the only way. I feel more and more apart of KTC everyday - getting comfortable with messaging and finding threads. I want to be helpful in my group and stay on top of all of them. Life is always going to be busy. Its Friday, usually by now I'm thinking of where I am going to get a drink and which store to stop an grab a tin. Not this Friday, not any Friday going forward or any day - I am in this and I am now going to go home and enjoy my family. I stay quit with all of KTC today.
Geez. That was my routine for the longest time. Not now. Not today. It's the new me. Family man. They don't play second fiddle to a can and a bottle. Nice to be living consciously. Good for you man!
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12/13/2019
Another day almost in the books. Work is busy and its hard to manage KTC, work and my personal life but this is the only way. I feel more and more apart of KTC everyday - getting comfortable with messaging and finding threads. I want to be helpful in my group and stay on top of all of them. Life is always going to be busy. Its Friday, usually by now I'm thinking of where I am going to get a drink and which store to stop an grab a tin. Not this Friday, not any Friday going forward or any day - I am in this and I am now going to go home and enjoy my family. I stay quit with all of KTC today.
Geez. That was my routine for the longest time. Not now. Not today. It's the new me. Family man. They don't play second fiddle to a can and a bottle. Nice to be living consciously. Good for you man!
I am quit with you @Athan (https://ktcforum.org/index.php?action=profile;u=258) - these habits are the worst, need to make better habits. Have a good weekend - family is where it is at.
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12/14/2019
Its Saturday, woke up early (7am) because I didn't have a nicotine or alcohol hangover. I usually don't wake up until 9am by then my kids are jumping around and I am still in a fog. Then I would try to suck it up and think about when I would start drinking and how I could sneak in a few dips around my wife. Not today man, I hate that sneaky shit - it divided me from my wife and kids. Then at night while I was dipping I couldn't get close to my wife because I was making love to the bottle and dip - not a way to live not today and not ever again. Feels good today and I am pushing forward. Family parties tonight with lots of food - that's my jam. True tests will be coming but I am prepared. Fuck that nic bitch - I quit for myself today.
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12/14/2019
Its Saturday, woke up early (7am) because I didn't have a nicotine or alcohol hangover. I usually don't wake up until 9am by then my kids are jumping around and I am still in a fog. Then I would try to suck it up and think about when I would start drinking and how I could sneak in a few dips around my wife. Not today man, I hate that sneaky shit - it divided me from my wife and kids. Then at night while I was dipping I couldn't get close to my wife because I was making love to the bottle and dip - not a way to live not today and not ever again. Feels good today and I am pushing forward. Family parties tonight with lots of food - that's my jam. True tests will be coming but I am prepared. Fuck that nic bitch - I quit for myself today.
This is what I like reading brother. It hypes me up seeing you on roll when I first long in.
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12/15/2019
Went to church today, trying to get better as family by going every Sunday. The pastor talked about how we are all on the naughty list and all we need for Christmas is a savior. My savior this holiday season is this website, maybe it was God/Jesus that pushed me back to the site i don't know. I do believe in a higher power but the most control over everything is yourself. Believe in yourself, if you want to do something then do it - stop thinking about how to do it and just start. I started quitting again 5 days ago, I had no idea what i was going to do but I put my mind to it and now I am here. I quit for myself today. I just learned how to add and delete someone for SSOA, can't wait to learn more and stay on my March20 group. Lets get it!
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12/15/2019
Went to church today, trying to get better as family by going every Sunday. The pastor talked about how we are all on the naughty list and all we need for Christmas is a savior. My savior this holiday season is this website, maybe it was God/Jesus that pushed me back to the site i don't know. I do believe in a higher power but the most control over everything is yourself. Believe in yourself, if you want to do something then do it - stop thinking about how to do it and just start. I started quitting again 5 days ago, I had no idea what i was going to do but I put my mind to it and now I am here. I quit for myself today. I just learned how to add and delete someone for SSOA, can't wait to learn more and stay on my March20 group. Lets get it!
You are going down the right path on staying quit for the long run @jconners (https://ktcforum.org/index.php?action=profile;u=14607). This stuff right here will strengthen your quit. It makes you appreciate how and why this sites work. Keep kicking ass.
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12/16/2019
6 days down, I helped gather everyones digits and times. Feeling closer to this group and site more and more everyday. I want to help myself but need to do a better job at help others. I guess maybe its because that's what I want and need. I am trying to make it my goal to reach out to new digits everyday and check in. Mondays are busy but seems like everyday is busy. Have a board meeting tonight for our baseball association and were going to a brewery/restaurant. Going to reach out too a couple brothers tonight and get some feedback. I am quit and will stay quit!
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Going to reach out too a couple brothers tonight and get some feedback. I am quit and will stay quit!
....and that's how we do that!!
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12/16/2019
With the help of a quick call from Athan I stayed sober and nicotine free last night - felt good. I did eat way too much but rather that then the alternative. Felt good this morning - works been crazy and I wish I could have been more involved today on the site. Have off tomorrow and going to be more active - my quit feels strong and ready for more.
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12/16/2019
With the help of a quick call from Athan I stayed sober and nicotine free last night - felt good. I did eat way too much but rather that then the alternative. Felt good this morning - works been crazy and I wish I could have been more involved today on the site. Have off tomorrow and going to be more active - my quit feels strong and ready for more.
I love to see quitters use the forums as intended. Be accountable, ask for help, succeed.
That is a big win. You have more wins ahead. QLF with you today!
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12/16/2019
With the help of a quick call from Athan I stayed sober and nicotine free last night - felt good. I did eat way too much but rather that then the alternative. Felt good this morning - works been crazy and I wish I could have been more involved today on the site. Have off tomorrow and going to be more active - my quit feels strong and ready for more.
The cool thing is, it steeled my resolve as well. ODAAT brother.
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12/18/2019
Day off from work today, busy running around getting last minute gifts and going to see Xmas lights with the family. Today is a good day and I know nic won't be on my mind but I need to remain aware because those days are ahead of me. I let me guard down last time and that won't happen now - I have my brothers. Today is a good day but I am prepared for those tough days - bring nic bitch I'll be waiting.
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12/19/2019
Of course with a day off work was nuts today. Stressed and busy - staying strong with my quit no doubt but work is kicking my ass. Not much else to say but I am quit today and pumped for it to be Friday!
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Great work on check in, posts and outreach. Messages of support such as yours have been helping me get through my second day. Much of it is a fog... but it is clear from KTC support that I am not alone. Chaotique.
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Congrats on 10 days dude! Enjoy the nic-free weekend. Reach out if you need anything.
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Great work on check in, posts and outreach. Messages of support such as yours have been helping me get through my second day. Much of it is a fog... but it is clear from KTC support that I am not alone. Chaotique.
You are never alone, lets keep moving forward and winning. NNT!
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12/20/2019
Busy day back at work. Did my last minute XMAS shopping today - wow I was not alone. Feeling good but I almost text a buddy to go get a drink, I caught myself and thought wow its that easy. I decided against it and stayed busy by updating SSOA, reaching out and updating our text group and posting this journal entry. I can't do this without KTC and March - I got this and excited for the weekend. Smells like XMAS but also a good day to stay quit!
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12/26/2019
Wow haven't posted a journal entry in a while. Holidays do that to you but I still need to stay strong in my quit. I feel like I haven't been active with my group but made a point today to focus on them. I hope we don't lose anyone, hopefully i can help others with my experience of failing - its just not an option anymore. It never really was an option but my mind let me think it was. When i got to Wawa i still catch myself checking to see what they have available - I try not to look but its a habit and I will break it. Going to start a religious fast/prayer in January with my wife - I know this will add stress to my life but I feel like it will be good. Growing closer to God should help me with my quit. Happy to be quit today!
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12/26/2019... Going to start a religious fast/prayer in January with my wife ..
Love this! A husband and wife united in Christ is one of the most powerful forces in the universe.
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Day 70 - Ugh its been too long since I posted and I feel like shit. I feel my self slipping back into what made me fail the first time. I stopped drinking again - my goal is 90 days, my wife is going do it with me as support. My drinking and dipping go hand in hand - i started to notice it was getting harder as i was drinking multiple times during the weekend and I was actually thinking of getting away and going out by myself away from my family so I could dip. Drinking is my issue and its the only thing standing between me and death. After typing this it feels like I should never drink again and its probably true. I don't know but for now I'm not drinking and that feels good.
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Day 70 - Ugh its been too long since I posted and I feel like shit. I feel my self slipping back into what made me fail the first time. I stopped drinking again - my goal is 90 days, my wife is going do it with me as support. My drinking and dipping go hand in hand - i started to notice it was getting harder as i was drinking multiple times during the weekend and I was actually thinking of getting away and going out by myself away from my family so I could dip. Drinking is my issue and its the only thing standing between me and death. After typing this it feels like I should never drink again and its probably true. I don't know but for now I'm not drinking and that feels good.
@jconners (https://ktcforum.org/index.php?action=profile;u=14607)
I know you have heard it but it does get so much better. I would consider at least cutting back on the drinking and maybe have some type of substitute with you, fake dip, when you decide to participate in consumption. If you want help shoot me your digits and we can partner in our fight against this addiction. There is strength in numbers. Know need to walk alone.
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Day 70 - Ugh its been too long since I posted and I feel like shit. I feel my self slipping back into what made me fail the first time. I stopped drinking again - my goal is 90 days, my wife is going do it with me as support. My drinking and dipping go hand in hand - i started to notice it was getting harder as i was drinking multiple times during the weekend and I was actually thinking of getting away and going out by myself away from my family so I could dip. Drinking is my issue and its the only thing standing between me and death. After typing this it feels like I should never drink again and its probably true. I don't know but for now I'm not drinking and that feels good.
@jconners (https://ktcforum.org/index.php?action=profile;u=14607)
I know you have heard it but it does get so much better. I would consider at least cutting back on the drinking and maybe have some type of substitute with you, fake dip, when you decide to participate in consumption. If you want help shoot me your digits and we can partner in our fight against this addiction. There is strength in numbers. Know need to walk alone.
There's an alcohol quit group and an alcohol cessation group. Alcohol destroys far more lives than it saves. The God who created you did not create you to be a slave to man nor substance. Be free.
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Day 76
Feeling a lot better than my last post in this journal. Staying involved and picking others up. Can't thank Keith enough to get me back on track here - phone call is powerful tool against the nic bitch. I understand alcohol plays a role - my goal is to stay away but I know it will come up in the future. Going to take it one day at a time and work on a gameplan.