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« Last post by DWEIRICK on January 23, 2026, 01:59:27 AM »Day 220
The Cost of a Cave
One of the biggest lies people tell themselves is that when they cave, they only hurt themselves. That’s bullshit.
When you cave, you don’t just give up on your quit—you give up on every single person in your quit month. You give up on the vets who showed up, posted with you, encouraged you, and put their time and heart into helping you stay quit. Day 1 or Day 10,000 makes no difference. The damage is the same.
A cave isn’t a mistake. It’s a decision to break your word.
And the worst part? It’s a price every single one of us can avoid by doing one simple thing: honoring our promise to stay quit.
I don’t say this from some high horse—I’m a retread. That’s a title I earned, not one I’m proud of. I threw away a comma quit and burned bridges doing it. I had reasons, excuses, justifications—every one of them was complete bullshit. It took time and humility to admit that the truth wasn’t that life was too hard, it was that I chose the easy way out.
What finally killed my excuses was seeing people who had it far worse than I ever did—real loss, real pain, real chaos—who stayed quit anyway. At that point, I had nowhere left to hide. No excuse survives that comparison.
So what’s the cost of a cave?
It’s regret. It’s shame. It’s knowing you built something solid and then destroyed it with your own hands. It’s carrying the knowledge that you let people down who believed in you.
And that’s a price not worth paying.
Build your quit. Protect it. Defend it.
Because throwing it away will be one of the biggest regrets you ever earn.
The Cost of a Cave
One of the biggest lies people tell themselves is that when they cave, they only hurt themselves. That’s bullshit.
When you cave, you don’t just give up on your quit—you give up on every single person in your quit month. You give up on the vets who showed up, posted with you, encouraged you, and put their time and heart into helping you stay quit. Day 1 or Day 10,000 makes no difference. The damage is the same.
A cave isn’t a mistake. It’s a decision to break your word.
And the worst part? It’s a price every single one of us can avoid by doing one simple thing: honoring our promise to stay quit.
I don’t say this from some high horse—I’m a retread. That’s a title I earned, not one I’m proud of. I threw away a comma quit and burned bridges doing it. I had reasons, excuses, justifications—every one of them was complete bullshit. It took time and humility to admit that the truth wasn’t that life was too hard, it was that I chose the easy way out.
What finally killed my excuses was seeing people who had it far worse than I ever did—real loss, real pain, real chaos—who stayed quit anyway. At that point, I had nowhere left to hide. No excuse survives that comparison.
So what’s the cost of a cave?
It’s regret. It’s shame. It’s knowing you built something solid and then destroyed it with your own hands. It’s carrying the knowledge that you let people down who believed in you.
And that’s a price not worth paying.
Build your quit. Protect it. Defend it.
Because throwing it away will be one of the biggest regrets you ever earn.