I have a similar story. I am 39 years old and happily married. I am a general contractor and have been a closet dipper for years. My wife recently found a spitter I left in my truck and quizzed me to death about it. I told her I rarely ever dip and she seemed to buy it. I have been dipping for the last 18 years with very few people knowing I do it. Only other friends who also dip. Now that I am quit, I will not hang out with these friends (I would probably cave in right now).
I quit Christmas day, so I am finishing day 9 of being quit. I started the journey of quitting around a 7 day trip to Mexico I had planned. I went nicotine free for the 7 days in Mexico, but once I got back, the cravings are the worst they have been. Everything seems to trigger my cravings, so I am taking it one day at a time.
Like some of the others stated on here, I would plan my days around when I could sneak in a dip. Its so dumb, but it is what it is. I will stay quit by being strong. I am not announcing anything to the world now, and I will see how this works out for me. If I slip, then I may try another strategy, but I believe this is the best plan for me.
Good luck to my fellow quitters! It will be rough, but we can do this!
I am sorry man, but my head just fucking exploded.
O.K. I get it...you are going to keep lying so that no one finds out that you have been lying....Seriously, I understand, but I don't agree with it.
But I will be hog-tied and ass whipped if I can hear the words "If I Slip I will try another strategy" If I am around my friends I will cave"
C'mon man - I can't tell you how many times over the past 8 days I have second guessed myself - Probably every other 5 minutes. But shit man, I already posted roll for the day and THAT is MY WORD that I won't......Oh shit, I see the problem now - Do YOU?
You may take this as my being a giant asshole (I have not had a dip for 8 days so that very well could be true) But I really want you to quit with me man. I have never been a ninja so I really guess I don't understand......I always just chewed out in the open like"fuck it, this is who I am" I guess now thats how I am gonna quit too...
Feel free to PM me anytime if you want to talk more
Look man, don't judge me! Everyone handles things differently. I did lots of reading before making the commitment to quit. This is a very hard process and I am prepared for it.
I am here for the long haul. If you don't like my choice of words, thats not my problem...We all have our own journey and our own way of doing things. I joined this site for support.
I get you don't like what I had to say, but I don't appreciate your comments either. I don't need anyone questioning my commitment because of what I typed.
The only way to conquer any addiction is to put yourself in the best position to succeed. This means I cannot be around people who openly dip right now. It would be dumb to put myself in that situation. No one plans to slip or to fail, but in the event one does slip, one shouldn't give up and not try to get on the path of being quit.
If you go to the US Government website on quitting nicotine, this is the same advice they give. I do not plan on failing or slipping, but if I do, it says to re-evaluate why you failed and what will help you not fail again.
I have 9 days behind me. I have a long way to go. I am committed to being quit. I will do it my way, and I appreciate all the support I get to help me through this process. I will also gladly help support anyone I can along the way.
Would you cave? Tell me how that would feel knowing you gave your word. You are not a special butterfly, you post your word and stay quit for that day no matter who you are around. It's called life, you need to learn to deal with it. You are going to relearn everything, learn how to do it without dip.
We employ one strategy here, give your word today and honor it. We don't have a fall back strategy, we quit today. The only way you should be thinking about this is quitting today. As someone here said; "Failure is not an option, do something else."
IHate,
J2B got you fighting and that is a good thing! I don't think that our judgements are cold, cruel or not understood.
The reason is because like you, we all have seen it, heard it and been it as it relates to overcoming nicotine addiction. The words we use can be misinterpreted but more often than not, they tell a story we know all too well.
This is a place to vent. I have vented plenty. When I think I didn't need it, I got punched in the mouth. Sometimes I punched others in the mouth when they didn't deserve it. Venting is a means to coping and not taking it out on family.
This site is not a government site of advice. This is a site that is experienced, first hand what it takes to quit. We will not coddle or cry for a "slip up". We get pissed because although fighting craves and triggers is the hardest thing we will probably have to do, the methodology is really simple.
Before KTC, I quit many times only to fail. The KTC way is hard for me to understand. It is so simple, even a caveman can do it. There is no magic yet it works.
If you really want to quit, you will drink the kool aid and embrace the suck by
Quit only for today.
Post your promise to your new brothers battle with them and ask them for advise, help and support.
Keep your word for today. Don't cave. Don't worry about tomorrow or forever. Just win today.
For today, you quit, posted roll, vented / supported, and kept your word. If that didn't kill you and you wake up tomorrow, just repeat it.
I have done that for 296 days. Quitting is hard but the burden of quit is sooooo much lighter than using nicotine.
Everyone that cared to comment is your brother and supports your quit. Just keep your word and slipping up is all in the past.
You can do this and you have many people here that know the ropes. Look up Keddy. 800 days today. You can quit for good but only worry about your quit for today.
