Day 2 Introduction

[Bill Dance]

He missed his "friend"...

His friend is a bitch.

Apparently he's a little bitch too. Can't even man up enough to give and keep his word.

[69franx]

Only been a couple hours since I tried to email him, but no reply from him yet. I guess no surprise at this point

[Thumblewort]

He missed his "friend"...

His friend is a bitch.

[AppleJack]

He missed his "friend"...

[69franx]

I just emailed him, reaching out to find out what happened, we will see

[pky1520]

Some wasted words here apparently. No activity for three days is not a good sign.

Stump, if you decide to come back, I'd suggest really trying to appreciate and internalize the advice you got here. You will simply never be successful until you go all in with your quit.

Until you own up to your addiction and throw every damn thing you have at it, you'll just be the cautionary tale that proves that not everyone is up to this. I hope you do choose to stop failing and willfully killing yourself in front of your family, but no one else can do that for you. This has to be the moment where you step up and do the right thing.

[JGlav]

AJ is right.

This is one definition of addiction - persistent compulsive use of a substance known by the user to be harmful.

I knew tobacco was harmful every single time I put it in my mouth - I did it anyway.

To do this successfully, you need to be invested 100%. Quitting, at least for a while, needs to be the absolute most important thing in your life.

You're not quitting for your son. You're not quitting to avoid cancer. You're quitting because you want to be quit. If you quit for any other reason, you will find an excuse to fail.

Part of quitting, and it took me a long time to get here, is learning to hate everything about tobacco and nicotine. Hate how it tastes, smells, feels. Hate that it controls your thoughts, feelings, and plans. Hate that it has made you its whimpering little bitch.

The best way to learn to hate tobacco, to get and stay invested in your quit, is to become an active member of this community. Post roll early every day. Make and keep a daily promise to not use nicotine in any form. Learn from us to want to quit for yourself.

If you need anything, hit me up.

Listen to these dudes! You need to change the way you think to be a quitter. Nice thing is the day is half over (check local listings).

AJ spiked out exactly what was like hitting a brick wall when reading that intro statement. Often people talk about intentions of quitting for reasons other than themselves - family, loved ones. Sure, I get that...but like RDB said, it's gotta be for yourself. Because you want it. Everyone will benefit from your selfish quit. But the romancing part...now that's a show stopper.

Nicotine has always been your enemy. She's a leech and her relationship is a one-way street. Thinking she cares one bit about you is addict speak at its best. Nicotine never did shit for me...she instilled fear, dependency, anxiety, stress, embarrassment, shame, among a slew of physical symptoms. I F'ing hate her with every bone in my body.

Wake up brother. She ain't your friend and the best way to kick her to the curb is to post roll every day. Every. Day.

^^^^^^ this guy has been kicking that nic bitch to the curb for over 3-1/2 years. Listen up. Posting roll is quit gold!

[Steakbomb18]

AJ is right.

This is one definition of addiction - persistent compulsive use of a substance known by the user to be harmful.

I knew tobacco was harmful every single time I put it in my mouth - I did it anyway.

To do this successfully, you need to be invested 100%. Quitting, at least for a while, needs to be the absolute most important thing in your life.

You're not quitting for your son. You're not quitting to avoid cancer. You're quitting because you want to be quit. If you quit for any other reason, you will find an excuse to fail.

Part of quitting, and it took me a long time to get here, is learning to hate everything about tobacco and nicotine. Hate how it tastes, smells, feels. Hate that it controls your thoughts, feelings, and plans. Hate that it has made you its whimpering little bitch.

The best way to learn to hate tobacco, to get and stay invested in your quit, is to become an active member of this community. Post roll early every day. Make and keep a daily promise to not use nicotine in any form. Learn from us to want to quit for yourself.

If you need anything, hit me up.

Listen to these dudes! You need to change the way you think to be a quitter. Nice thing is the day is half over (check local listings).

AJ spiked out exactly what was like hitting a brick wall when reading that intro statement. Often people talk about intentions of quitting for reasons other than themselves - family, loved ones. Sure, I get that...but like RDB said, it's gotta be for yourself. Because you want it. Everyone will benefit from your selfish quit. But the romancing part...now that's a show stopper.

Nicotine has always been your enemy. She's a leech and her relationship is a one-way street. Thinking she cares one bit about you is addict speak at its best. Nicotine never did shit for me...she instilled fear, dependency, anxiety, stress, embarrassment, shame, among a slew of physical symptoms. I F'ing hate her with every bone in my body.

Wake up brother. She ain't your friend and the best way to kick her to the curb is to post roll every day. Every. Day.

[Thumblewort]

AJ is right.

This is one definition of addiction - persistent compulsive use of a substance known by the user to be harmful.

I knew tobacco was harmful every single time I put it in my mouth - I did it anyway.

To do this successfully, you need to be invested 100%. Quitting, at least for a while, needs to be the absolute most important thing in your life.

You're not quitting for your son. You're not quitting to avoid cancer. You're quitting because you want to be quit. If you quit for any other reason, you will find an excuse to fail.

Part of quitting, and it took me a long time to get here, is learning to hate everything about tobacco and nicotine. Hate how it tastes, smells, feels. Hate that it controls your thoughts, feelings, and plans. Hate that it has made you its whimpering little bitch.

The best way to learn to hate tobacco, to get and stay invested in your quit, is to become an active member of this community. Post roll early every day. Make and keep a daily promise to not use nicotine in any form. Learn from us to want to quit for yourself.

If you need anything, hit me up.

Listen to these dudes! You need to change the way you think to be a quitter. Nice thing is the day is half over (check local listings).

[RDB]

AJ is right.

This is one definition of addiction - persistent compulsive use of a substance known by the user to be harmful.

I knew tobacco was harmful every single time I put it in my mouth - I did it anyway.

To do this successfully, you need to be invested 100%. Quitting, at least for a while, needs to be the absolute most important thing in your life.

You're not quitting for your son. You're not quitting to avoid cancer. You're quitting because you want to be quit. If you quit for any other reason, you will find an excuse to fail.

Part of quitting, and it took me a long time to get here, is learning to hate everything about tobacco and nicotine. Hate how it tastes, smells, feels. Hate that it controls your thoughts, feelings, and plans. Hate that it has made you its whimpering little bitch.

The best way to learn to hate tobacco, to get and stay invested in your quit, is to become an active member of this community. Post roll early every day. Make and keep a daily promise to not use nicotine in any form. Learn from us to want to quit for yourself.

If you need anything, hit me up.

[AppleJack]

I have to do this, I don't want to. It has been my best friend for over 15 years now. Always there when I needed it...


...but I have let this habit beat me for 15 years.

These 2 things I pulled from your intro are troubling. They scream failure.


If you don't "want" to do this... you've already lost. Too many times in this community, we've seen variations on this phrase and it doesn't inspire confidence. You're waxing romantic on something that is straight up stealing your time, your money, your relationships, and your health. Your "friend" that's always been there for you is gleefully killing you. You NEED to get over that mindset really damn quick or it's going to get the better of you. This shit has done nothing for you. Nothing.

You also need to understand this is an addiction as potent as heroin addiction. It's not a habit.

This may not be the touchy-feely welcome you expected but I hope you can get past that and see that what I've pointed out is detrimental to your success. We want you to be free, bro. It's an amazing thing and you deserve it. We want you to start out on the right foot from the beginning. It doesn't need to be any harder than it already is...

[stumphouse]

I took out my last dip (ever) on August 8, 2017 at 10:00pm. I have had multiple (failed) attempts at quitting since my son was born in 2014. I had promised myself before he was born that I would quit. I failed to come through on that promise, and now I have a 3 year old who thinks when he goes outside he needs to constantly spit and that the cup beside the sofa is for daddy's special gum. I am beyond disappointed in myself for allowing my kid to think what he's been watching is 'ok'.

In addition to this, I received a text from one of my best friends on Saturday afternoon that read "-------- has passed away". Fear and regret has overwhelmed me since that moment. This guy was a dipper who had been quit over 2 years. Diagnosed with mouth cancer last year and died on Saturday. Talk about real life. I believe he was close to 40 years old.

I have to do this, I don't want to. It has been my best friend for over 15 years now. Always there when I needed it. It's not going to be easy for me but I can't let that happen to me. I can't leave my wife and son in a position to explain to people that I'm dying because of something I started put in my mouth during batting practice in high school. I have the determination to get a freaking bachelor's degree in engineering but I have let this habit beat me for 15 years. I've tried several times and even made it to 5 months once.

I need community. I need help, because I can't do this alone. Thanks for helping me out during this journey.