Hubby on Day 5, Lone Wolf

[Thumblewort]

I told my wife how hard it is and that there is "something" she could do to ease the rigors of being quit.

The bottle of lotion she bought me fits right where I used to store my logs of Skoal.

[srans]

You guys are amazing. I've been lurking here for a month and joined the Ladies Only KTC FB group. It has given me a much better understanding of what my husband is going through.

Thanks for helping me believe it can be done. He has been chewing since he was maybe 13? 23 years? He quit for 2+ years after we were married and then one dip during a stressful family time turned into five more years.

Now he is on Day 5 of a quit. I have shown him KTC but he says it's not his style. I have seen a dozen of his lone-wolf quit attempts go down in flames, usually turning into ninja dipping. His dad eventually quit on his own (after his kids started pretending to dip with sawdust) so that's his role model.

We have a bright, beautiful five year old son with CP who needs his dad fully present and accounted for. I'm hopeful this time will be the real deal.

I'm sure he thinks KTC is too Kool-Aid, he can do it alone, no one else can tell him what to do, etc. Plus he's super introverted. I haven't nagged him to quit much though he knows I hate it and it scares me. It was his decision, but guilt about our son plays a big part. He is a monster addict, was chewing all day long at work and evenings in the bathroom at home. He's going nuts without it, coping with exercise.

GREAT job all of you quitters, veterans, and KTC founders. I'm in awe of your resolve and commitment to help others get free of this crap.

Jenny

Your husband sounds very lucky to have you in his corner. My wife thinks i joined a cult 448 days ago. She still wants little to do with the site and will never understand this addiction. Thank God for this site, it has changed my life and at the same time,, probably saved it.

It is paramount that your husband does some reading. He must put some quit knowledge in his head. A great book for your husband to read is allen car's easy way to quit smoking. Great book that sets the mind straight about who, what, when and how of nicotine. There is also a lot of information on this site that he can read without joining. It could be the catalyst for joining.

Your husband must understand that 1 is to many and 1000 is never enough. My prayers and thanks for the encouragement. Just continue doing what your doing. It helps more than you know. I Quit with your husband and you today.

[MontanaDipSpouse]

You guys are fantastic. Love the suggestions and will try 'em all.

Day 6 and counting! What's great is that although he is pissed off and struggling I also see real happiness and excitement in there about staying quit another day.

Thanks for your wisdom and support!!

[Menace]

Jenny,

Excellent of you to post on here. If you have told him about this place, then the rest unfortunately will be up to him. He can only quit for himself, not you, not your son, not Grandma etc. Only for himself. This is the one thing you need to be selfish about, QUITTING. My suggestion is that you come on here regularly and post once in a while to keep active on the site as much as you can. Maybe leave the computer on with KTC up, maybe he asked what you are doing, you know subtle stuff. He might eventually just get curious enough to look around here and I think once he does, he will get involved. I know of a few folks who have quit on their own as well and make it stick but your odds increase with KTC as a guide. You never know maybe your hubby is one of the few who can go it alone. Pulling for you guys and if you husband is quit today, I will quit with him today as well.

[DeskJockey]

Good for you Jenny.

He can join us here with some silly screen name and doesn't need to give any personal info. Just posting roll daily and reading the stories of others will help him, I promise.

Hang in there. If he really wants to quit, he will. It will be difficult but gets so much better.

Buy him some sugar-free chewing gum and tell him it's not to late to start posting roll. I didn't find this place until after a couple weeks on my own.

Best wishes you your family,

DeskJockey - Day 367 today

[Doc Chewfree]

Hi Jenny. You are an awesome mom and wife. Just keep working on him and mention things you learn from this site. Hopefully his curiosity will get the best of him and he'll see the light of KTC.
If I can help, let me know.
Good luck to you, your son and husband.

[rdad]

Hi Jenny, I understand the introvert part of his reservation to joining this site. Before this I had never been on facebook, twitter.. nothing. After 166 days I am still on here everyday interacting with the friends I have made here. Without them I most certainly would be back to dipping. Their support saves my life everyday. There is a lot of crap that gets slung around on here but underneath everything is the desire for all of us to help each other stay quit. I hope we see him join soon. He will not regret it!

[brettlees]

Give him a little more info.... this is a bad addiction and support really helps. See the article at the link...

Nicotine Addiction 101

[cbird65]

I dipped for 35 yrs and 'heard it ' from family gfs but not my wife - yes she wanted me to quit but she also knew that addiction was my battle and it had to be 100% my decision -

this isn't a social club - we're dead serious about quitting. I can't tell you the number of failed attempts of stopping I had but I can tell you the accountability here leads to some serious friendships and support.

Dipping sawdust is extreme and just sounds rank.

Here is a list of Smokeless non-tobacco alternatives . If he doesn't want to use a 'fake dip' then nuts, candy, jerky or gum ..... anything but nicotine

[Raider]

You are awesome, Jenny. Try to get your husband to join us here. We would love to have him quit with us. Quitting alone is too hard. He's already family to us.

This is the place to be if he really wants to quit. As a previous "stopper" I know all about just one dip and what it will do. The daily accountability and brother/sisterhood of this site is what keeps me quit.

Great job on reaching out on here for your hubby.

[Reeseb]

You are awesome, Jenny. Try to get your husband to join us here. We would love to have him quit with us. Quitting alone is too hard. He's already family to us.

[B-loMatt]

Jenny, your hubby is lucky to have a spouse who took the time to find out what he is dealing with. Exercise is a great way to deal with the negative side effects of quitting. Drinking lots of water and having fake dip, seeds, gum, etc. on hand to help get past cravings is good too. Even if your husband does not want to post roll with a quit group and get some added accountability, he should still check out the information here. So many lies and myths about nicotine addiction are out there, but the truth can be found here, and helped me break free.

[Thumblewort]

Thank you Jenny for being a kick-ass spouse and mom!

[MontanaDipSpouse]

You guys are amazing. I've been lurking here for a month and joined the Ladies Only KTC FB group. It has given me a much better understanding of what my husband is going through.

Thanks for helping me believe it can be done. He has been chewing since he was maybe 13? 23 years? He quit for 2+ years after we were married and then one dip during a stressful family time turned into five more years.

Now he is on Day 5 of a quit. I have shown him KTC but he says it's not his style. I have seen a dozen of his lone-wolf quit attempts go down in flames, usually turning into ninja dipping. His dad eventually quit on his own (after his kids started pretending to dip with sawdust) so that's his role model.

We have a bright, beautiful five year old son with CP who needs his dad fully present and accounted for. I'm hopeful this time will be the real deal.

I'm sure he thinks KTC is too Kool-Aid, he can do it alone, no one else can tell him what to do, etc. Plus he's super introverted. I haven't nagged him to quit much though he knows I hate it and it scares me. It was his decision, but guilt about our son plays a big part. He is a monster addict, was chewing all day long at work and evenings in the bathroom at home. He's going nuts without it, coping with exercise.

GREAT job all of you quitters, veterans, and KTC founders. I'm in awe of your resolve and commitment to help others get free of this crap.

Jenny