Dan 18 year dipper

[worktowin]

You can do this man, and prayers.  No excuses.

THAT is what I was trying to convey with my original post today. No excuses, which is why I originally said it didn't matter why I failed because it was an excuse. But since I was asked why more than once, I posted my reason/excuse.

I CHOSE to use about 5 minutes after we were informed that her cancer had metastasized from somewhere and they didn't know the original source. Oh and by the way, they told us, it was stage 4. So I CHOSE to dip that day as a coping mechanism in order deal with it. The cyberknife was ordered for pain management only and there was less than 1% chance it would get rid of the cancer. Well, she dodged the bullet again and won that 1% chance and is cancer free...for now. But it had in fact metastasized and they still don't know from where. The original source will rear its ugly head and it will be pissed off. Her lung function declines each month. It went from 53% to 42% in 6 months. She wears oxygen 24/7 and even smokes while using it!! My wife and I have tried our best to get her to change. Since she continues to smoke 3 cartons a week and lies to doctors about it, I am leaving her to her own fate and now will work on ME, goddammit.

I appreciate everyone taking time to help, but I do not sit in front of a computer all day at work. I worked some on my homework and will complete it tomorrow.

Time for bed. This work shit sucks. Day 2 is tomorrow.

This community and forum are just amazing. One day in the not too distant future you are going to look back at this intro and say... My mother in laws cancer spreading was an excuse for my brain to break my promise and shove carcinogenic neurotoxins back in my head? What the fuck was I thinking?

Well, you weren't thinking. I'm not sure from your words if you are yet, but the beginning is hard. It is better if you don't relive the beginning and you just get it out if the way... Remember that! You only quit once. It sucks, and only a foolish addict would want to relive the suck.

I wish your mom in law well, but dude.... To be honest, someone else's cancer is one of the worst logical reasons I've ever heard to cave. There is no reason to cave after giving your word... None.

C'mon man. Break free. Suck it up. Go in and tell her that you have learned from her struggles... And that nicotine won't steal another person from your wife. Make this fight personal. One day at a time.

[Ready]

You can do this man, and prayers.  No excuses.

THAT is what I was trying to convey with my original post today. No excuses, which is why I originally said it didn't matter why I failed because it was an excuse. But since I was asked why more than once, I posted my reason/excuse.

I CHOSE to use about 5 minutes after we were informed that her cancer had metastasized from somewhere and they didn't know the original source. Oh and by the way, they told us, it was stage 4. So I CHOSE to dip that day as a coping mechanism in order deal with it. The cyberknife was ordered for pain management only and there was less than 1% chance it would get rid of the cancer. Well, she dodged the bullet again and won that 1% chance and is cancer free...for now. But it had in fact metastasized and they still don't know from where. The original source will rear its ugly head and it will be pissed off. Her lung function declines each month. It went from 53% to 42% in 6 months. She wears oxygen 24/7 and even smokes while using it!! My wife and I have tried our best to get her to change. Since she continues to smoke 3 cartons a week and lies to doctors about it, I am leaving her to her own fate and now will work on ME, goddammit.

I appreciate everyone taking time to help, but I do not sit in front of a computer all day at work. I worked some on my homework and will complete it tomorrow.

Time for bed. This work shit sucks. Day 2 is tomorrow.

This is going to take your undivided attention.

All of it.

I understand there are life and death family issues.

Your addiction could actually give two shits.

All in or fold.

Reach up and grab hold Sir. I'm not convinced you have what this will take.

[dan95yj]

You can do this man, and prayers.  No excuses.

THAT is what I was trying to convey with my original post today. No excuses, which is why I originally said it didn't matter why I failed because it was an excuse. But since I was asked why more than once, I posted my reason/excuse.

I CHOSE to use about 5 minutes after we were informed that her cancer had metastasized from somewhere and they didn't know the original source. Oh and by the way, they told us, it was stage 4. So I CHOSE to dip that day as a coping mechanism in order deal with it. The cyberknife was ordered for pain management only and there was less than 1% chance it would get rid of the cancer. Well, she dodged the bullet again and won that 1% chance and is cancer free...for now. But it had in fact metastasized and they still don't know from where. The original source will rear its ugly head and it will be pissed off. Her lung function declines each month. It went from 53% to 42% in 6 months. She wears oxygen 24/7 and even smokes while using it!! My wife and I have tried our best to get her to change. Since she continues to smoke 3 cartons a week and lies to doctors about it, I am leaving her to her own fate and now will work on ME, goddammit.

I appreciate everyone taking time to help, but I do not sit in front of a computer all day at work. I worked some on my homework and will complete it tomorrow.

Time for bed. This work shit sucks. Day 2 is tomorrow.

[wastepanel]

I merged your 2 intros together.

(1)  What happened?
(2)  Why did it happen?
(3)  What are you going to do differently this time?
(4)  How pissed is CoachDoc?

1  2. Mother-in-law has stage 4 lung cancer, COPD, 42% lung function, and a host of other medical issues. She is in the hospital at least once a month. I couldn't handle the stress of dealing with her AND deal with my own stress that comes with quitting.

3. I will succeed, because I have accepted that she will not stop smoking (3 cartons per week) and she will die soon.

4. Ask him yourself.

why I caved but it doesn't matter.

It matters a great deal.  If you do not understand why you failed or how this site works, you are doomed to fail again.

I know why I failed, but didn't have the time to type everything out because I am still at work. That is why I said it didn't matter. I will finish the rest of my homework when I can actually do it: when I get home.

My turn for questions:
1. Do I post in a new group or my old one?
2. Am I even welcome back?

Post in your original group as a supporter and in your new group as well.

That does not look like a solid quit plan to me...maybe a vet with more experience than me can chime in on that. I really don't see solid answers or a solid plan here.

Sorry to ask you to time out of your busy schedule, and thank you for gracing us with your return. I'm truly humbled by this opportunity.

You see, I'm taking precious time out of my schedule. It's 8 pm. I'm at work. I've been at work all day doing taxes, dealing with baseball league duties, and planning a cub scout thing for tomorrow. I've also completely neglected my movie review site today so I'm probably going to fall asleep while a dinosaur eats some lady tonight.

Yet I took the time to ask you some questions.

1  2. Mother-in-law has stage 4 lung cancer, COPD, 42% lung function, and a host of other medical issues. She is in the hospital at least once a month. I couldn't handle the stress of dealing with her AND deal with my own stress that comes with quitting.

Couldn't?

I bet you could.

You can do a lot of things without nicotine. In fact...you don't need it at all. Prayers for your mother-in-law and prayers for the family, but her situation means shit to your quit. You chose to use. When did you choose to use? On the way home one night? After a fight with the wife? What happened that put you in the moment of "fail".

3. I will succeed, because I have accepted that she will not stop smoking (3 cartons per week) and she will die soon.

You can control one thing and one thing alone in this world: Your actions. You are a leaf in the wind with everything else. You can't control her, and saying you will succeed doesn't mean that you filled in the pothole that caught you on question 1.

You can do this man, and prayers. No excuses.

[Sh4string]

I merged your 2 intros together.

(1)  What happened?
(2)  Why did it happen?
(3)  What are you going to do differently this time?
(4)  How pissed is CoachDoc?

1  2. Mother-in-law has stage 4 lung cancer, COPD, 42% lung function, and a host of other medical issues. She is in the hospital at least once a month. I couldn't handle the stress of dealing with her AND deal with my own stress that comes with quitting.

3. I will succeed, because I have accepted that she will not stop smoking (3 cartons per week) and she will die soon.

4. Ask him yourself.

why I caved but it doesn't matter.

It matters a great deal.  If you do not understand why you failed or how this site works, you are doomed to fail again.

I know why I failed, but didn't have the time to type everything out because I am still at work. That is why I said it didn't matter. I will finish the rest of my homework when I can actually do it: when I get home.

My turn for questions:
1. Do I post in a new group or my old one?
2. Am I even welcome back?

Post in your original group as a supporter and in your new group as well.

That does not look like a solid quit plan to me...maybe a vet with more experience than me can chime in on that. I really don't see solid answers or a solid plan here.

[slug.go]

I merged your 2 intros together.

(1)  What happened?
(2)  Why did it happen?
(3)  What are you going to do differently this time?
(4)  How pissed is CoachDoc?

1  2. Mother-in-law has stage 4 lung cancer, COPD, 42% lung function, and a host of other medical issues. She is in the hospital at least once a month. I couldn't handle the stress of dealing with her AND deal with my own stress that comes with quitting.

3. I will succeed, because I have accepted that she will not stop smoking (3 cartons per week) and she will die soon.

4. Ask him yourself.

why I caved but it doesn't matter.

It matters a great deal.  If you do not understand why you failed or how this site works, you are doomed to fail again.

I know why I failed, but didn't have the time to type everything out because I am still at work. That is why I said it didn't matter. I will finish the rest of my homework when I can actually do it: when I get home.

My turn for questions:
1. Do I post in a new group or my old one?
2. Am I even welcome back?

Post in your original group as a supporter and in your new group as well.

[dan95yj]

I merged your 2 intros together.

(1)  What happened?
(2)  Why did it happen?
(3)  What are you going to do differently this time?
(4)  How pissed is CoachDoc?

1  2. Mother-in-law has stage 4 lung cancer, COPD, 42% lung function, and a host of other medical issues. She is in the hospital at least once a month. I couldn't handle the stress of dealing with her AND deal with my own stress that comes with quitting.

3. I will succeed, because I have accepted that she will not stop smoking (3 cartons per week) and she will die soon.

4. Ask him yourself.

why I caved but it doesn't matter.

It matters a great deal.  If you do not understand why you failed or how this site works, you are doomed to fail again.

I know why I failed, but didn't have the time to type everything out because I am still at work. That is why I said it didn't matter. I will finish the rest of my homework when I can actually do it: when I get home.

My turn for questions:
1. Do I post in a new group or my old one?
2. Am I even welcome back?

[Ready]

Hello, my fellow quitters! My name is Dan and I joined this site almost 2 years ago with "intentions" of quitting dip. I was a pussy and caved. I thought about going into more detail about why I caved but it doesn't matter. Fact of the matter is I was a pussy and CAVED.

Two years have passed and where am I now? In the same nicotine addicted boat that I was in then! It's time that I put myself first and kick the nic bitch in the ass for good.

Welcome back, but I think you are going to need to go into more detail about your cave. You'll need to convince people that you are serious this time. From what I've gathered from other people trying to come back, you can't just jump in and say I'm back with no further explanation.

I merged your 2 intros together.

(1) What happened?
(2) Why did it happen?
(3) What are you going to do differently this time?

(4) How pissed is CoachDoc?

why I caved but it doesn't matter.

It matters a great deal. If you do not understand why you failed or how this site works, you are doomed to fail again.

Go find your old group. Read every post from the very beginning of that group.

Then you will understand.

Then come back here and tell us what you learned.

It is a Very simple thing to do. Whether you make the effort will tell us all we need to know about your intentions.

[wastepanel]

Hello, my fellow quitters! My name is Dan and I joined this site almost 2 years ago with "intentions" of quitting dip. I was a pussy and caved. I thought about going into more detail about why I caved but it doesn't matter. Fact of the matter is I was a pussy and CAVED.

Two years have passed and where am I now? In the same nicotine addicted boat that I was in then! It's time that I put myself first and kick the nic bitch in the ass for good.

Welcome back, but I think you are going to need to go into more detail about your cave. You'll need to convince people that you are serious this time. From what I've gathered from other people trying to come back, you can't just jump in and say I'm back with no further explanation.

I merged your 2 intros together.

(1) What happened?
(2) Why did it happen?
(3) What are you going to do differently this time?

(4) How pissed is CoachDoc?

[slinger]

Hello, my fellow quitters! My name is Dan and I joined this site almost 2 years ago with "intentions" of quitting dip. I was a pussy and caved. I thought about going into more detail about why I caved but it doesn't matter. Fact of the matter is I was a pussy and CAVED.

Two years have passed and where am I now? In the same nicotine addicted boat that I was in then! It's time that I put myself first and kick the nic bitch in the ass for good.

Welcome back, but I think you are going to need to go into more detail about your cave. You'll need to convince people that you are serious this time. From what I've gathered from other people trying to come back, you can't just jump in and say I'm back with no further explanation.

[dan95yj]

Hello, my fellow quitters! My name is Dan and I joined this site almost 2 years ago with "intentions" of quitting dip. I was a pussy and caved. I thought about going into more detail about why I caved but it doesn't matter. Fact of the matter is I was a pussy and CAVED.

Two years have passed and where am I now? In the same nicotine addicted boat that I was in then! It's time that I put myself first and kick the nic bitch in the ass for good.

[dan95yj]

Small world...

This fella here and I were best friends at 13.  Lost contact for a while, share a bit here and there over Facebook, but I don't think I ever mentioned this site to him...and never even knew he dipped.

Ans he shows up here and I happen to ream him out on day one...go figure...

Now he knows I'll cut him even LESS slack...if that were possible...

I just want to know how he knew it was you? Avatar pic? Mind reading? what? :blink:

I use the same avatar for FB profile pic...at least I figure that's how...still...

I knew who it was based on this reply:

"So, let another Dan - me - chime in here. Not only do I have a name in common with you, but I too was a dipper for 18+ years.

I'm also a former military member, currently a football and baseball coach, as well as a nurse. And I've been quit 835 days. What the fuck does that have to do with anything, you ask?"

[CoachDoc]

Small world...

This fella here and I were best friends at 13.  Lost contact for a while, share a bit here and there over Facebook, but I don't think I ever mentioned this site to him...and never even knew he dipped.

Ans he shows up here and I happen to ream him out on day one...go figure...

Now he knows I'll cut him even LESS slack...if that were possible...

I just want to know how he knew it was you? Avatar pic? Mind reading? what? :blink:

I use the same avatar for FB profile pic...at least I figure that's how...still...

[Kubrick]

Small world...

This fella here and I were best friends at 13. Lost contact for a while, share a bit here and there over Facebook, but I don't think I ever mentioned this site to him...and never even knew he dipped.

Ans he shows up here and I happen to ream him out on day one...go figure...

Now he knows I'll cut him even LESS slack...if that were possible...

I just want to know how he knew it was you? Avatar pic? Mind reading? what? :blink:

[FosterChild]

Welcome To the rest of your life. You will get more support here than you could ever imagine. Good luck on your journey and if you ever need anything let me know.

QLF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!