Hang in there Ash!
I will repeat what others have said - I wish I could have quit nicotine in my 20s! I smoked disgusting cigarettes for 20 years before attempting to quit. I then began using nicotine pouches to aid that quit. I used both Skoal Bandits and then Skoal Extra Pouches for seven years before finding this website.
I honestly thought that quitting the pouches would be easy, once I got over cigs - NOT. I actually did quit pouches three years ago, for about three months, but without the help from this website, and the supporters here, it was extremely easy to go back to the addiction again. I thought I could get by only using while at my 9-5 job, and hide it from my husband - NOT.
I, like you, tried to hide this addiction from many people. Using pouches made that much easier, since I just had to slip a pouch between by upper gum and cheek. No one knew I was using, if they didn't see me remove it or install it. The pouches were small enough that they didn't leave a bump on my cheek. But my husband eventually caught be using again. We have been together many years in our happy marriage, and spend a lot of time together. I used to keep a tin of fresh pouches in one pocket of my purse, and a tin of used pouches in another pocket. The gross part was while driving, or just focusing on something else, and accidently grabbing a used pouch - yuck!
You have made the right decision. This is the best place for support, and growing new friends within your team, and with your supporters. Please, feel free to PM me if you need a hand, or have any questions. I will gladly share my number with you, or meet up with you in chat (if I'm not driving at the time). Speaking of Chat - the chat room is an excellent place for support, or just when you would like someone to talk to. I used the chat room frequently during my first couple of months after quitting. The guys in there are excellent, and everyone knows exactly what you are going through.
There is an App for the chat room, to make it easier to use and easier to read on your smart phone. It is called 123FlashChat. Download that app and when it asks for a chat ID (chat room), use the number 198. That will get you into the KTC chat room, with fellow quitters. Again, if you would like to meet up with me in chat, just PM me. We can exchange numbers, if you're comfortable with that, and then when you need a hand you can text me, since a PM on the site doesn't notify me until I log on to KTC.
Sorry for the long-winded post, but I want all women, who are attempting to quit, to be stronger than the men here. We can make it!! You can make it! Together, with each other, and all of the other supporters here, we can build a strong quit and never touch this shit again!!!