Its not himself making these decisions, its his addiction.
I'm gonna go ahead and disagree with you here.
Speaking from my own experience, I knew from the first time I packed a lip full of that cancerous shit at age 14, that it would give me cancer. I knew it would kill my gums. I knew it would dissolve my teeth. I knew it could kill me. But I did it anyway.
As I continued doing it, it turned into an addiction. I didn't realize it was happening, but it did. I spent years trying to stop because people asked me to. As stop I did. I knew I shouldn't go back to it because it would kill me, but I did it anyway.
The one day, BAM. I didn't want to be a slave any more. So I quit. That was 70 days ago.
If my addiction could make decisions for me, wouldn't it have stopped me from quitting?
Would it have ever even let me realize I was an addict?
No. I made those decisions. All me. Just like TryingToHelp's man is now. He knows what he's doing. It all comes down to him now to do something about it.