I'm glad you are here. I'm glad you have decided to quit. Now, you need to decide to make this quit about you.
You need to take the respionsibility for your decision to quit. Your buddy, daughter or wife are not the ones dipping. They don't need to quit. They also will not be the ones chosing to either put a pinch in your lip or not - only you control that. If you want to be the best friend, father and husband you can be, stop putting that pressure and responsibility on them. Square your shoulders and take the responsibility of quitting on yourself. Trust me, you will also be the one to say, "I'm quit and it was MY strength that made it happen." Besides, chicks dig strong, self-determined men with integrity. Make the quit about you and that's exactly what you will be.
Welcome aboard. Post roll every day as early as you can. Stay active on here - it has been proven that the active you are in the quit, the more successful you will be. Get to know your brothers (and other members) - get numbers, get your quit plan together. Ask for help if you need it - and trust me, you are likely going to need it.
Wow.... I am sorry man but I've just got to say something. I am strongly offended by your reply. I've read my introduction post and your reply several times and can't for the life of me, figure out where you got the idea that I:
1. Have not made my quit about me.
2. Have shirked my responsibility to the success or failure of my quit
3. Have put pressure and responsibility on my family and friends for my quit.
4. and that I am weak, undetermined and have no integrity.
My responses are as follows respectfully.
1. 100% me. and goes without saying.
2. Again - 100% me and really goes without saying.
3. Screw you - I do not.
4. Untrue and I'm stronger than you think I am - You don't know me. Chicks? Happily Married 21 years and don't care what they think or dig.
I will further say that if you don't think my quit should have anything to do with friends or family, you are a fool. My quit has everything to do with them. I want to see them, share with them, learn from them and watch them grow and I know without question, the only way for me to make this happen for a long, long time is to quit chewing.
I will do my best with the whole posting, roll posting, brothers and numbers thing but there is one thing I will not do with this group or you for that matter is "get a quit plan together". I Don't understand why anyone would need a plan. I have quit. I killed the can eight frigging days ago... That's the plan, man. There aint no more to it than that. As I said in my introduction post, "I am Done". So, based on your preachy post, I am forced this early on in my relationship with this site, to question why do I need to belong here. I didn't sign up for the coaching, lecture or sermon. My answer in belonging is to hold myself accountable and to potentially help others with the same addiction.
Glad you are offended. Glad it made you think.
Let's see if I can clarify MY opinions for you based on what you yourself posted:
1. Have not made my quit about me.
- I know that this quit is different from the others in that my Daughter just turned 13
- You know, I lost my Dad to that shit just after my 13th birthday and I hated him for not quitting." So... I am done
2. Have shirked my responsibility to the success or failure of my quit
- Baseball got me started Hunting and Fishing kept me doing it and Stress begs me to keep doing it
3. Have put pressure and responsibility on my family and friends for my quit.
- I did know that his Dad died of chewing related cancer and feel like a horrible friend for having dipped in front of him. I am very thankful for my friend and I will be a better Father and Husband for my Family.
4. and that I am weak, undetermined and have no integrity.
- I have quit many times in my 31 years of addiction to Copenhagen. My last two quits were a year and a half and just recently, six months.
Couple things here - you are very very right...I do not know you...all I have to go on is your introduction. That's what I did.
Never idd I say that you don't have integrity...never even suggested that. Integrity is one of the key elements of this site...you give your word to not use each day...you keep that word and show integrity.
Again, I never said that it shouldn't have anything to do with your family. I said don't quit because of them. Don't let them be the reason or the driving force of it. It has to be about you.
As far as my comment about women liking strong men, I'm assuming your wife is a woman...and assuming you want her to find you more appealing...whatever...
To this point, fine, I concede that maybe we got off to a bad start - you posted your intro in a way that led me to lump you in with hundreds of other quitters I've seen come and go over the tie I've been here. My bad. Easy enough to fix.
Now, though, we come to the true crux of the problem...
there is one thing I will not do with this group or you for that matter is "get a quit plan together". I Don't understand why anyone would need a plan. I have quit. I killed the can eight frigging days ago... That's the plan, man. There aint no more to it than that. As I said in my introduction post, "I am Done".
Are you really that friggin foggy that you think this is a GOOD idea? Just how has that "no plan needed" method worked for you all those other times? How is it sooooo different this time?
And for to say that your reason for joining this site was
to hold myself accountable and to potentially help others with the same addiction.
only to say, Piss Off...
Whatever. Rage on.
