Just joined the group. Read the Forums off and on as motivation for a while. I have been dipping since 2009. I have hid dipping from my wife for almost 3 years. (She knows I have one every now and then but not to the extent that I do.) I have had a few attempts at quitting. My most recent attempt has lasted 15 days so far. It's been tough. I think about it constantly. Driving. Working. Mowing. It's tough. Here is my problem. I am a coach and a teacher and leave next week for Nashville and will be there for 4 days. All expenses paid. Without my wife. It's sad but I am already thinking of the dip I want on the plane rides and at the hotel all by myself all week. To top it all off my superintendent dips and will be offering it to me all week. Please talk me off the ledge and give me some words of advice.
Thanks.
Hey man here are some words for you:
That next dip you take can be the one that gives you cancer, that leads to your death. You'd be robbing your family of many years without you because of the selfish habit of using nicotine.
It's a gamble, but is your life more important than that 10 minutes of comfort? Not for me
117 days quit for me, and if I can do it, you can do it. Inbox me if you need someone to talk with
Big Red
#winning
Life is a series of transactions. Relationships are too. A good marriage results in a husband and wife each giving sometimes, but not one side always giving. A bad relationship is one where there isn't balance, where one side has an advantage, even slight, over time. Gambling is a good example - one side (you) will lose over time to MGM.
Nicotine always wins if you have it in your life. You don't see this now, but the only thing it gives you is relief from the withdrawals of not using it. You don't and haven't felt a buzz in years. And don't say you have, cause dude you know you haven't. It just takes away the stress that your body is putting you through from withdrawal. That's pretty jacked up, and that is The definition of you losing. You know this, and it is why you've taken the first step, you've tossed the can out.
Today you are winning. It feels like you are losing, but dude today is a big win. One day at s time, you are taking control back. You are owning life, you are taking charge, and you are making the right choices. Once you focus on how you are winning (no pain, no gain) I promise you that the fight becomes easier. You are no longer swimming upstream. Tell your boss that you respect him and really need his help, and that you are not using any nicotine on this trip, and DO NOT DRINK! (This is coming from someone that is in the alcohol biz - give it a bit and you can drink again, but not now... you need to be 100% on right now.). Go and have a Coke or some iced tea. This is more important than a few beers right now. Trust me. Start celebrating your victories, and have a great trip. You can do this.
