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Offline Doc Chewfree

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Re: This has to happen
« Reply #27 on: May 14, 2014, 10:57:00 AM »
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Small triumph. I had a very important client meeting today. I was presenting to the full board, which is always stressful. The real stress for me was the hour plus drive into DC, without a skoal. The traffic was horrendous and I was cutting it close. I could feel myself getting more and more irritated and "the fog" was thick. The meeting went fine, but on the way home, when I stopped for gas, I was literally shaking as I approached the counter. Right behind the clerk was my golden ticket, buy somehow I overcame one hell of a craving and drove the hour home in misery. I have a headache, the shakes, and irritable bowel syndrome. I guess all of this is normal.
laxdog, thank you for posting this. This post has made my quit stronger by reading it. Damn proud to be quit with a bad ass like yourself!
Just think, with that irritable bowel you'll be shitting without spitting on your dick.
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Re: This has to happen
« Reply #26 on: May 14, 2014, 09:49:00 AM »
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Small triumph. I had a very important client meeting today. I was presenting to the full board, which is always stressful. The real stress for me was the hour plus drive into DC, without a skoal. The traffic was horrendous and I was cutting it close. I could feel myself getting more and more irritated and "the fog" was thick. The meeting went fine, but on the way home, when I stopped for gas, I was literally shaking as I approached the counter. Right behind the clerk was my golden ticket, buy somehow I overcame one hell of a craving and drove the hour home in misery. I have a headache, the shakes, and irritable bowel syndrome. I guess all of this is normal.
laxdog, thank you for posting this. This post has made my quit stronger by reading it. Damn proud to be quit with a bad ass like yourself!
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Re: This has to happen
« Reply #25 on: May 14, 2014, 09:34:00 AM »
Damn! I started reading this thread, and started off with concern. After the first post I was convinced it would have a sad ending of a man who disappeared without posting day 2 or 3. "love Chew"? That never goes over well here or in our addictions. But as I read I saw a quitter coming out. I love it. It reminded me of where I was almost 6 months ago. My concept of addiction was so warped. Our addicted brains make us THINK we love something that we all hate so much that we are willing to go through this hell of quitting. NOTHING about this is easy, But a very wise man said once that "it will suck until one day it doesn't". And that day is so much closer then you think. At almost 6 months I look back and cannot believe how the time has flown and how well life has progressed. Quitting chew did not ruin my life. I still preformed well at work. I was not demoted or fired. My wife did not leave me. I remember sitting at a gas station one day for 20 minutes, exited my car at least twice only to get back in without going inside. I clearly remember the struggle I had as I battled the NIC BITCH'S taunts. I won that day and have won every day since. Today I may have a fleeting thought of chew, but it is so brief that I'm not always sure it even formed completely. I tell you this so that you can know that this IS all normal and it will get better. The pride of being quit can carry you through a lot. The concept of "ONE DAY AT A TIME" is hard to grasp sometimes, but it is what makes this work. When you fully understand it and live by it, you will feel peace. Each day is a victory. Even at day 3! Chewing today would mean you gave up all the time you worked hard for. And I know damn well that the last 3 days have been a struggle. It takes big balls to quit. I'm 32 yrs old and my balls finally dropped 6 months ago. Quit on bro!

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Re: This has to happen
« Reply #24 on: May 14, 2014, 08:44:00 AM »
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Small triumph. I had a very important client meeting today. I was presenting to the full board, which is always stressful. The real stress for me was the hour plus drive into DC, without a skoal. The traffic was horrendous and I was cutting it close. I could feel myself getting more and more irritated and "the fog" was thick. The meeting went fine, but on the way home, when I stopped for gas, I was literally shaking as I approached the counter. Right behind the clerk was my golden ticket, buy somehow I overcame one hell of a craving and drove the hour home in misery. I have a headache, the shakes, and irritable bowel syndrome. I guess all of this is normal.
Fantastic man. You are beating this!! Now get up today and do it again. Soon the days won't be so whacked out by your addiction. A few more days and it will get out of your system. Not easy days but better...
All normal stuff brother.
You're doing it, doing it, doing it....ODAAT and your quit days will stack up quickly and I promise you it gets much, much better.
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Re: This has to happen
« Reply #23 on: May 14, 2014, 06:31:00 AM »
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Small triumph. I had a very important client meeting today. I was presenting to the full board, which is always stressful. The real stress for me was the hour plus drive into DC, without a skoal. The traffic was horrendous and I was cutting it close. I could feel myself getting more and more irritated and "the fog" was thick. The meeting went fine, but on the way home, when I stopped for gas, I was literally shaking as I approached the counter. Right behind the clerk was my golden ticket, buy somehow I overcame one hell of a craving and drove the hour home in misery. I have a headache, the shakes, and irritable bowel syndrome. I guess all of this is normal.
Fantastic man. You are beating this!! Now get up today and do it again. Soon the days won't be so whacked out by your addiction. A few more days and it will get out of your system. Not easy days but better...
NO MO SKOAL!!! I MEAN NEVER AGAIN!!!
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Re: This has to happen
« Reply #22 on: May 13, 2014, 05:25:00 PM »
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Small triumph. I had a very important client meeting today. I was presenting to the full board, which is always stressful. The real stress for me was the hour plus drive into DC, without a skoal. The traffic was horrendous and I was cutting it close. I could feel myself getting more and more irritated and "the fog" was thick. The meeting went fine, but on the way home, when I stopped for gas, I was literally shaking as I approached the counter. Right behind the clerk was my golden ticket, buy somehow I overcame one hell of a craving and drove the hour home in misery. I have a headache, the shakes, and irritable bowel syndrome. I guess all of this is normal.
That is an awesome victory. Huge. Absolutely huge. You should feel extremely proud of your resolve in that situation. Great post and thanks for sharing that...it makes my quit stronger reading shit like that.

Laxdog, the badass MF'n quitter has arrived. I quit with that any day brother.
Dang, you are rockin this man! keep it up! you have some great support and knowledgeable quitters watching you. Keep up the good work-- it's tough but its so worth it you can't even imagine!
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Re: This has to happen
« Reply #21 on: May 13, 2014, 05:22:00 PM »
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Small triumph. I had a very important client meeting today. I was presenting to the full board, which is always stressful. The real stress for me was the hour plus drive into DC, without a skoal. The traffic was horrendous and I was cutting it close. I could feel myself getting more and more irritated and "the fog" was thick. The meeting went fine, but on the way home, when I stopped for gas, I was literally shaking as I approached the counter. Right behind the clerk was my golden ticket, buy somehow I overcame one hell of a craving and drove the hour home in misery. I have a headache, the shakes, and irritable bowel syndrome. I guess all of this is normal.
That is an awesome victory. Huge. Absolutely huge. You should feel extremely proud of your resolve in that situation. Great post and thanks for sharing that...it makes my quit stronger reading shit like that.

Laxdog, the badass MF'n quitter has arrived. I quit with that any day brother.
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Re: This has to happen
« Reply #20 on: May 13, 2014, 04:15:00 PM »
Small triumph. I had a very important client meeting today. I was presenting to the full board, which is always stressful. The real stress for me was the hour plus drive into DC, without a skoal. The traffic was horrendous and I was cutting it close. I could feel myself getting more and more irritated and "the fog" was thick. The meeting went fine, but on the way home, when I stopped for gas, I was literally shaking as I approached the counter. Right behind the clerk was my golden ticket, buy somehow I overcame one hell of a craving and drove the hour home in misery. I have a headache, the shakes, and irritable bowel syndrome. I guess all of this is normal.

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Re: This has to happen
« Reply #19 on: May 13, 2014, 03:18:00 PM »
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Man this afternoon has been tough. Quitting sounds so goof on paper, but I am having a tough time with the concept of forever. I know its the fucking nic talking, but the concept of never chewing again is depressing. It really is beginning to piss me off that my level of happiness is directly tied to that stupid green can, but that is how it feels. Just 5 more hours until the 72 hour mark, which supposedly marks the end of the physical addiction part.

Thanks for the encouragement guys. I have read your HOF speech Doc and we do sound a lot alike. I just have to trust you guys that there is gold at the end of the rainbow. I just want to sleep, which is not like me at all. My daughters complain that I never sit down.
There's hellacious gold at the end and it will be something like this:

Walk outside one day and realize how bright and clear everything is

Realize that you won't die from not dipping skoal

Realize that you can live life without a dip in

Wake up one morning and realize you don't need skoal anymore. Or have just a dream about dipping and wake up realizing it was just that, a friggin dream!!!!

Realize that there is a great chance that you will never need skoal again!(I'm close.....real close)
NO MO SKOAL!!! I MEAN NEVER AGAIN!!!
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Re: This has to happen
« Reply #18 on: May 12, 2014, 09:24:00 PM »
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Man this afternoon has been tough. Quitting sounds so goof on paper, but I am having a tough time with the concept of forever. I know its the fucking nic talking, but the concept of never chewing again is depressing. It really is beginning to piss me off that my level of happiness is directly tied to that stupid green can, but that is how it feels. Just 5 more hours until the 72 hour mark, which supposedly marks the end of the physical addiction part.

Thanks for the encouragement guys. I have read your HOF speech Doc and we do sound a lot alike. I just have to trust you guys that there is gold at the end of the rainbow. I just want to sleep, which is not like me at all. My daughters complain that I never sit down.
You got a lot of great information in here my friend so hope you listen to all that is said. Incorporate in what you may but in everything think of this......Why are people Successful in their quit on this site?

Well it is that Accountability that we have by making a promise each and every day not to use for that 1 day.

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It is that Brotherhood that we build as we reach out to one another to help, as we watch over one another, and even taking it outside of the realm of quit to meet in person to become friends (and yes involve the whole family).

you can do this, just be smart about it and remember us.

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Re: This has to happen
« Reply #17 on: May 12, 2014, 07:13:00 PM »
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Man this afternoon has been tough. Quitting sounds so goof on paper, but I am having a tough time with the concept of forever. I know its the fucking nic talking, but the concept of never chewing again is depressing. It really is beginning to piss me off that my level of happiness is directly tied to that stupid green can, but that is how it feels. Just 5 more hours until the 72 hour mark, which supposedly marks the end of the physical addiction part.

Thanks for the encouragement guys. I have read your HOF speech Doc and we do sound a lot alike. I just have to trust you guys that there is gold at the end of the rainbow. I just want to sleep, which is not like me at all. My daughters complain that I never sit down.
On day 41 here and I still get that millisecond of "joy" after dinner (or after any other trigger) when I *THINK* I'm going to get a dip. It's during that millisecond gap between the trigger and then remembering that I did quit today that you get a burst of so called "joy" which, once you realize you did quit, that I think the brain comes up whit the depressed feelings.

No lies, day 41 is not a walk in the park, but every single day I have added a +1 it has gotten easier and easier to resist urges and the depression gets replaced with more and more positive feelings and a genuine hatred of dip.

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Re: This has to happen
« Reply #16 on: May 12, 2014, 07:12:00 PM »
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Man this afternoon has been tough. Quitting sounds so goof on paper, but I am having a tough time with the concept of forever. I know its the fucking nic talking, but the concept of never chewing again is depressing. It really is beginning to piss me off that my level of happiness is directly tied to that stupid green can, but that is how it feels. Just 5 more hours until the 72 hour mark, which supposedly marks the end of the physical addiction part.

Thanks for the encouragement guys. I have read your HOF speech Doc and we do sound a lot alike. I just have to trust you guys that there is gold at the end of the rainbow. I just want to sleep, which is not like me at all. My daughters complain that I never sit down.
You got a lot to learn, but the good news is you're learning. The hard way...which is the only way. A few things for you to think about

1)stop thinking about forever and think only about today. I'm just over 5 months in and I only think about today. Ask the guy who is 2000 days in,...he thinks only about today. When we post roll, we post roll every day for that day...making that promise, that pledge, that oath not to use nicotine for that day.

2) Quit for you. It's not about how happy your wife or kids are about this; its about you. You've probably "tried" to quit before for all those who want you to quit...and I bet you ended up at square one, every time. Hence you're here. You quit for you.

3) Being quit, talking about being quit, posting roll, quitting with an online support group - used to sound corny, now it is your bread and butter. We are the cool people and we want you to hang out with us; the losers try to quit on their own and usually fail (I was one of those). I now have friends; those I talk to weekly; through this site...because it's F'in cool.

Lastly, re-read your intro in a few days. Look at the stuff you're saying. "Love dipping" "Happinesss directly tied to the can" "quitting sounds goof on paper" ...etc. When the fog lifts and the quitter before you is revealed in the mirror; you will be a different person, still an addict, just different. When you realize your freedom, you won't recognize the slave.
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Re: This has to happen
« Reply #15 on: May 12, 2014, 07:06:00 PM »
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Man this afternoon has been tough. Quitting sounds so goof on paper, but I am having a tough time with the concept of forever. I know its the fucking nic talking, but the concept of never chewing again is depressing. It really is beginning to piss me off that my level of happiness is directly tied to that stupid green can, but that is how it feels. Just 5 more hours until the 72 hour mark, which supposedly marks the end of the physical addiction part.

Thanks for the encouragement guys. I have read your HOF speech Doc and we do sound a lot alike. I just have to trust you guys that there is gold at the end of the rainbow. I just want to sleep, which is not like me at all. My daughters complain that I never sit down.
You got a lot to learn, but the good news is you're learning. The hard way...which is the only way. A few things for you to think about

1)stop thinking about forever and think only about today. I'm just over 5 months in and I only think about today. Ask the guy who is 2000 days in,...he thinks only about today. When we post roll, we post roll every day for that day...making that promise, that pledge, that oath not to use nicotine for that day.

2) Quit for you. It's not about how happy your wife or kids are about this; its about you. You've probably "tried" to quit before for all those who want you to quit...and I bet you ended up at square one, every time. Hence you're here. You quit for you.

3) Being quit, talking about being quit, posting roll, quitting with an online support group - used to sound corny, now it is your bread and butter. We are the cool people and we want you to hang out with us; the losers try to quit on their own and usually fail (I was one of those). I now have friends; those I talk to weekly; through this site...because it's F'in cool.

Lastly, re-read your intro in a few days. Look at the stuff you're saying. "Love dipping" "Happinesss directly tied to the can" "quitting sounds goof on paper" ...etc. When the fog lifts and the quitter before you is revealed in the mirror; you will be a different person, still an addict, just different. When you realize your freedom, you won't recognize the slave.
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Re: This has to happen
« Reply #14 on: May 12, 2014, 04:24:00 PM »
Man this afternoon has been tough. Quitting sounds so goof on paper, but I am having a tough time with the concept of forever. I know its the fucking nic talking, but the concept of never chewing again is depressing. It really is beginning to piss me off that my level of happiness is directly tied to that stupid green can, but that is how it feels. Just 5 more hours until the 72 hour mark, which supposedly marks the end of the physical addiction part.

Thanks for the encouragement guys. I have read your HOF speech Doc and we do sound a lot alike. I just have to trust you guys that there is gold at the end of the rainbow. I just want to sleep, which is not like me at all. My daughters complain that I never sit down.

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Re: This has to happen
« Reply #13 on: May 12, 2014, 09:47:00 AM »
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Believe me I hear you guys. I have not seen my wife this happy in a long time. She really wants this to happen and I am more than a bit surprised that i want it even more. We spent the day out on the boat. It was a beautiful spring day. I caught myself so many times thinking "wouldn't it be nice to pop in a skoal" . I need to try the water thing. Going to try and make this happen without the aid of anything new to feed my oral fixation. I am really tired of buying a new car and promising to never chew in it and then spill a full cup on the controls. Spit cups can kiss my ass. Never again. Day 2 is over halfway done.

What is the proper way to post. Do I hit post reply or do the whole cut and past thing like roll call?
Glad to hear your wife is happy. Mine was too. Quit for yourself though, not her! And the next time your brain says wouldn't it be nice to pop in a skoal just say back "RIGHT!, if I did that anymore I would" I had to say that to myself a lot and I still do after 237 days... There are lots of triggers that you will need to identify soon, and just deal with it man. You don't dip anymore!!! What hit me the hardest was the depression of not having skoal anymore to take the edge off of everything. It's what this drug does. What a joke to think life is one big dipper. Read my HOF speech.... It will sound familiar to you...... I quit with you today!!!
NO MO SKOAL!!! I MEAN NEVER AGAIN!!!
Real Quit Day 9/18/2013 8th Floor 11/26/15
HOF day: 12/26/2013. 9th Floor 3/5/16
2nd Floor: 4/5/14 Comma Day 6/13/16!!!
3rd Floor 7/14/2014. 3 Years 9/18/6!!!
1 Year 9/17/2014. 11th Floor 9/21/16
4th Floor 10/22/14. 12th Floor 12/30/16
Half Comma 1/30/15. 13th Floor 4/8/17
6th Floor 5/10/15 4 Years 9/18/17!!!
7th Floor 8/18/15. 15th Floor 10/26/17
2 Years 9/17/15 16th Floor 2/3/18
5 Years 9/18/18  17th Floor 5/14/18
18th Floor 08/22/2018  19th Floor 11/30/18