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Offline nkt

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Re: Welp, here I am
« Reply #10 on: December 18, 2013, 12:25:00 AM »
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This is the way I feel tonight........ 'bang head' . Im pissed, stressed, and craving all at the same time....Damnit!!!!! I thought I was doing so well until this afternoon. Really struggling here right now
Bobby:
This is exactly what I was talking about. You feel like shit right now. You probably want a dip. Listen carefully... step back and examine how you feel, and realize that nicotine is the sole reason that you feel this way. It is not the solution to the way you feel... it is the reason you feel this way. Read that last sentence carefully; it is the way out of this.

You may want to resent quitting, resent anything that you feel made you want to quit... but the way out of this is to transfer that resentment to nicotine. IT IS THE REASON YOU FEEL THIS WAY. It is not the cure, it is the disease.

I've been where you are, and I've felt what you are feeling now. I can tell you it does get much much better.

I've sent you a PM with my contact info... I'll be glad to walk you through this, but it's up to you to make it happen. Just stick with it, and it WILL get better.

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Re: Welp, here I am
« Reply #9 on: December 17, 2013, 08:41:00 PM »
Thanks for the post on my thread. When I first went into this, I too thought I could "ween" myself off. But after reading the advice on this site, I realized there's 1 question, to dip or not to dip. There can only be one. I also thought to myself, "1 dip in a 3 day span is better than 15 dips in 3 days." But then I thought, why the F am I trying to rationalize dip. Dip is not rational. So basically I've been telling myself not to throw away all the hard work after 5 days, just to start over on day 1 againÂ…cuz that would be irrational.
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Re: Welp, here I am
« Reply #8 on: December 17, 2013, 07:57:00 PM »
As long as you stay quit, you are doing fucking awesome! Get some fake dip or seeds  go to town on those. The fake dip for me has been great. ODAAT bud, that's all we can do
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Re: Welp, here I am
« Reply #7 on: December 17, 2013, 07:38:00 PM »
This is the way I feel tonight........ 'bang head' . Im pissed, stressed, and craving all at the same time....Damnit!!!!! I thought I was doing so well until this afternoon. Really struggling here right now

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Re: Welp, here I am
« Reply #6 on: December 17, 2013, 07:15:00 PM »
Thanks guys, I gotta admit, today day 5 has been a real bitch!!! I gotta learn how to post roll call. I get ready to do it and end up getting lost reading all the other material on this site.

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Re: Welp, here I am
« Reply #5 on: December 17, 2013, 03:21:00 PM »
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Quote from: bobby1977
... Do I want a dip??? Fuck yeah I want a dip...
You can fix this part if you go about it right. If you keep telling yourself you want a dip, you can keep yourself wanting a dip for the rest of your life. Or, you can dismantle that shit and really get over this. Here's what I did:

Every time you find yourself wanting a dip, pause for a moment, recognize how horrible you feel, and say to yourself "nicotine isn't the solution to these feelings, it's the REASON I feel this way".

That simple exercise got me through some tough spots, and got me to a point where I never want to dip. I literally have no desire left for it.
This is solid advice. Do exactly as NKT has said!!!

See, feeling like shit is a privilege reserved to those who have the guts to quit. You do. So give yourself a big congratulations for saving a life...your own.

Well done!

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Re: Welp, here I am
« Reply #4 on: December 17, 2013, 12:46:00 PM »
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... Do I want a dip??? Fuck yeah I want a dip...
You can fix this part if you go about it right. If you keep telling yourself you want a dip, you can keep yourself wanting a dip for the rest of your life. Or, you can dismantle that shit and really get over this. Here's what I did:

Every time you find yourself wanting a dip, pause for a moment, recognize how horrible you feel, and say to yourself "nicotine isn't the solution to these feelings, it's the REASON I feel this way".

That simple exercise got me through some tough spots, and got me to a point where I never want to dip. I literally have no desire left for it.

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Re: Welp, here I am
« Reply #3 on: December 17, 2013, 12:19:00 PM »
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Sure, nicotine takes about 72 hours to leave you body but guess what....your body is use to living on nicotine so it is about to fight you and fight you hard.

I am not trying to scare you or make things sound too hard to do, I just want you to be geared up and prepared.

The next 50-100 days are going to be difficult and you will have many bad days and a few good days. Use those good days to recharge your batteries and prepare for the next round of the fight. Quit one hour at a time, if that's too difficult, quit for one minute at a time.

When you think about it 100 days isn't very long but it can seem like forever when you are in the middle of it. You can do this and I will stand right beside you while you do it.

I need you to be successful so I know that I can stay successful in my quit.
Thank you Dawg, yes I agree this is no walk in the park fight here. When that nic bitch hits she hits hard

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Re: Welp, here I am
« Reply #2 on: December 17, 2013, 12:11:00 PM »
Sure, nicotine takes about 72 hours to leave you body but guess what....your body is use to living on nicotine so it is about to fight you and fight you hard.

I am not trying to scare you or make things sound too hard to do, I just want you to be geared up and prepared.

The next 50-100 days are going to be difficult and you will have many bad days and a few good days. Use those good days to recharge your batteries and prepare for the next round of the fight. Quit one hour at a time, if that's too difficult, quit for one minute at a time.

When you think about it 100 days isn't very long but it can seem like forever when you are in the middle of it. You can do this and I will stand right beside you while you do it.

I need you to be successful so I know that I can stay successful in my quit.
Oh little worm-dirt...you are so scary...F' OFF...!!!

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Welp, here I am
« on: December 17, 2013, 11:59:00 AM »
Not day one but its day five for me today, and here I am. To be honest I didn't think I could make it this far. 20+ years as a smokeless tobacco user, and last five years or so heavy user, up to two cans of grizzley straight a day. Got back home from the dentist last Thursday after he gave me a scary lecture and I said fuck it, Im done, thinking ok I wont chew for a day or so and maybe cheat a little now and then. Well, here I am day 5 and no cheat yet. Sunday I almost caved, I went and bought a can, sat in my truck opened the can, smelled it, took a pinch, and all of a sudden that voice on my right shoulder said "Bobby you dumb fuck, you have come too far to cave now, throw that shit out now". So I walked over to the trash can and threw it away. Do I want a dip??? Fuck yeah I want a dip.....Do I want to cave??? Fuck no I don't want to cave....So here I am, doing what I never thought was possible and that's making it day by day as a quiter