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Offline KingNothing

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Re: Re-Introduction
« Reply #15 on: January 12, 2017, 02:45:00 PM »
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Gauth, what happened last time that you only needed post 24 days before you didn't need KTC anymore? I know you said you didn't trust the process, but what was it about the process? Also, how are you going to put action to words this time when you say you are going to trust the process this time?
It really just came down to thinking I was strong enough on my own to keep my quit going and because of that I thought I had the start I needed. I now understand that once an addict always an addict. There will be constant temptation and situations where you set yourself up to fail if you don't have a support system. I see now the importance of communicating with others who have been there and done that. I will post and communicate everyday for the rest of my life because I believe this works.
Don't worry about the rest of your life. Just worry about today. You might remember one day at a time (ODAAT). What I'm still not seeing in your post is HOW you're going to do it differently this time. You say things like "I now understand that once an addict always an addict" and "I see now the importance of communicating." Not to get college English nerdy on you, but these aren't action phrases. These are passive that show you understand what's going on, but not that you're doing something to make this happen for yourself.

So, how?
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Offline Gauth05

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Re: Re-Introduction
« Reply #14 on: January 12, 2017, 02:39:00 PM »
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Gauth, what happened last time that you only needed post 24 days before you didn't need KTC anymore? I know you said you didn't trust the process, but what was it about the process? Also, how are you going to put action to words this time when you say you are going to trust the process this time?
It really just came down to thinking I was strong enough on my own to keep my quit going and because of that I thought I had the start I needed. I now understand that once an addict always an addict. There will be constant temptation and situations where you set yourself up to fail if you don't have a support system. I see now the importance of communicating with others who have been there and done that. I will post and communicate everyday for the rest of my life because I believe this works.
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Re: Re-Introduction
« Reply #13 on: January 12, 2017, 02:33:00 PM »
Gauth, what happened last time that you only needed post 24 days before you didn't need KTC anymore? I know you said you didn't trust the process, but what was it about the process? Also, how are you going to put action to words this time when you say you are going to trust the process this time?
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"Fuck nicotine dude. You don't need it. And you don't want it. It didn't do a thing for you and you know it." - worktowin
"today you dissided that shit wont control your life. and it wont. unless you let it." - drome
"Not thinking about nicotine is for people who've never used nicotine. We threw that option away with the first dip or drag on a cigarette. We are addicts, and cannot become un-addicted." - wildirish317
"You need to decide how much you really want to be quit." - pky1520
We are always at risk. And probably always will be. That is why I will never get "too quit" to post my +1. Every. Damn. Day. - geis2597

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Offline Gauth05

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Re: Re-Introduction
« Reply #12 on: January 12, 2017, 02:17:00 PM »
My name is Ben Gauthier and I am so ready to be quit. The last time I was here, 3 years ago, I didn't trust the process or the people here that were truly trying to help. I have now been chewing for ten years and can't even bring myself to calculate how much money it has cost me and how much time I have spent fighting with my wife about it. I have two beautiful kids, a son 4, and a daughter just over a year. I am ready to fight this head one, one day at a time. I am an addict and I need to understand that i will be forever. Time to put the can down for good.
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Re: Re-Introduction
« Reply #11 on: March 05, 2014, 05:43:00 AM »
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I just want to be a man my son can look up to and want to be like when he grows up. With chew that is not possible. My wife and I have an amazing relationship outside of chew. It is the sole reason we fight and the only reason I ever feel the need to lie to her.
This section I quoted, Â…is spot on. This isn't who you are. This isn't who you want to be. But this is what you've become. A lying nicotine addict that who will go to great lengths to feed that addiction. Ya know what though, I was a lying nicotine addict that went pathetic lengths to support my addiction. The only difference now is that I'm quitÂ….I don't use nicotine and I don't lie. Notice, I didn't say that I wasn't an addict any more. Gauth, you've come to the right place, we're all addicts and we've all been there before. Embrace the suck of these next few days and promise yourself never to put yourself through it again. You're on the road to freedom my friend. Buckle up.
Fuck Steak that was some righteous shit man! Preach!!!

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Re: Re-Introduction
« Reply #10 on: March 05, 2014, 04:39:00 AM »
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I just want to be a man my son can look up to and want to be like when he grows up. With chew that is not possible. My wife and I have an amazing relationship outside of chew. It is the sole reason we fight and the only reason I ever feel the need to lie to her.
This section I quoted, Â…is spot on. This isn't who you are. This isn't who you want to be. But this is what you've become. A lying nicotine addict that who will go to great lengths to feed that addiction. Ya know what though, I was a lying nicotine addict that went pathetic lengths to support my addiction. The only difference now is that I'm quitÂ….I don't use nicotine and I don't lie. Notice, I didn't say that I wasn't an addict any more. Gauth, you've come to the right place, we're all addicts and we've all been there before. Embrace the suck of these next few days and promise yourself never to put yourself through it again. You're on the road to freedom my friend. Buckle up.
Boom!

Steakbomb just delivered up a plate of quit greatness there!

You are in the right place. You aren't alone. Embracing the process here, posting roll and keeping your word, making connections (do you have steaks contact info? He would be a great mentor) and being accountable to the brotherhood here will get you to your goals.

While you push thru the initial suck phase, and it is temporary and it will get a lot better, come here to vent your anger or frustration. The family didn't cause these feelings, so don't take it out on them. Yell at steakbomb when you feel the need. Lol.

Congratulations on making a great decision. One day at a time, you are the husband and father you've always wanted to be.
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Re: Re-Introduction
« Reply #9 on: March 04, 2014, 10:57:00 PM »
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I just want to be a man my son can look up to and want to be like when he grows up. With chew that is not possible. My wife and I have an amazing relationship outside of chew. It is the sole reason we fight and the only reason I ever feel the need to lie to her.
This section I quoted, Â…is spot on. This isn't who you are. This isn't who you want to be. But this is what you've become. A lying nicotine addict that who will go to great lengths to feed that addiction. Ya know what though, I was a lying nicotine addict that went pathetic lengths to support my addiction. The only difference now is that I'm quitÂ….I don't use nicotine and I don't lie. Notice, I didn't say that I wasn't an addict any more. Gauth, you've come to the right place, we're all addicts and we've all been there before. Embrace the suck of these next few days and promise yourself never to put yourself through it again. You're on the road to freedom my friend. Buckle up.
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Re: Re-Introduction
« Reply #8 on: March 04, 2014, 10:33:00 PM »
Welcome to freedom ....post roll every day, read everything, hit the chat, and stay involved.... I'll quit with you today
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Re: Re-Introduction
« Reply #7 on: March 04, 2014, 10:31:00 PM »
Nice talking to you in chat tonight man... Quit hard today

I quit with you
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Re: Re-Introduction
« Reply #6 on: March 04, 2014, 05:54:00 PM »
You came to the right place. Being quit is not easy, but you can do it.

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Re: Re-Introduction
« Reply #5 on: March 04, 2014, 05:50:00 PM »
Nice job posting roll. You made a great decision. No need to be nervous... Just keep your word no matter what today. You will not chew today. F chew. You can do this bro. One day at a time!

I am quitting with you today!
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Re: Re-Introduction
« Reply #4 on: March 04, 2014, 04:43:00 PM »
Don't think in terms of forever brother. Right now, at the beginning, it's far too big and scary to contemplate.

Today. We will quit today. I'll quit today right alongside you. There will be more to post after me sayin the same thing. Pay attention... We know how to get this done. Get yourself up to the Welcome Center link at the top of the page. It explains what/why/ how we do things at KTC. You'll be in the new June quit group. Welcome to freedom man... It's pretty damn cool. If I can help in any way, message me. Rock on...
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Re: Re-Introduction
« Reply #3 on: March 04, 2014, 04:40:00 PM »
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Hello my name is Ben Gauthier and I am from Northern Wisconsin. I started smoking when I was 14 to feel cool with my older brother. I joined the Army at 19 and quit completely for the 9 weeks of basic training. Instead of staying on the quit path a buddy from basic was flying with me to AIT as we sat on the plane he pulled out a tin of skoal straight long cut and asked if I wanted some. If I could go back in time I would kick my own ass for saying yes. It was at this point that I started down the long and terrible road of addiction. I am going on 7 years of chewing and today is the last day. I have thrown out my tins and ready to begin this journey. I am married with one son who is almost 20 months old. I just want to be a man my son can look up to and want to be like when he grows up. With chew that is not possible. My wife and I have an amazing relationship outside of chew. It is the sole reason we fight and the only reason I ever feel the need to lie to her. I am excited to be rid of this burden forever and want to thank you all in advance for the support.
commit to the KTC way and you will succeed.

Post roll every day and make some friends. You bring the "want", KTC provides the "how".

I quit with you today.
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Re: Re-Introduction
« Reply #2 on: March 04, 2014, 04:34:00 PM »
Hello my name is Ben Gauthier and I am from Northern Wisconsin. I started smoking when I was 14 to feel cool with my older brother. I joined the Army at 19 and quit completely for the 9 weeks of basic training. Instead of staying on the quit path a buddy from basic was flying with me to AIT as we sat on the plane he pulled out a tin of skoal straight long cut and asked if I wanted some. If I could go back in time I would kick my own ass for saying yes. It was at this point that I started down the long and terrible road of addiction. I am going on 7 years of chewing and today is the last day. I have thrown out my tins and ready to begin this journey. I am married with one son who is almost 20 months old. I just want to be a man my son can look up to and want to be like when he grows up. With chew that is not possible. My wife and I have an amazing relationship outside of chew. It is the sole reason we fight and the only reason I ever feel the need to lie to her. I am excited to be rid of this burden forever and want to thank you all in advance for the support.
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Back to take my lumps.
« on: March 04, 2014, 04:34:00 PM »
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