Let's Make it Official

[Griffin]

Welcome follow Decemberist! I agree that you need to tell the S.O. I was a lousy Ninja and was always getting caught. So when I joined up here those 6 long days ago and realized I was going to QLF and there was going to be pain I came clean. She's proud of me she says.

However, there has been a downside for Mrs.G. Normally I
Fill up her car and wash it on Sat morning. I've spent thousands of hours cleaning the garage and basement. Always out there trimming trees and pulling weeds... You get the picture. Now that I don't need the excuse to sneak a dip she can wash her own damned car, buy her own damned groceries and while she's at it, the garage never got one bit cleaner under my direction, she can clean it too!

I quit with you today!

Griffin

[Dagranger]

Awesome man! Direct all complaints and rant sessions at us, and spare the wife. She will love you for it. Happy quitting my friend!

Two rivers congrats. Quitting is really tough...but if you follow the methods here it becomes manageable. The biggest rule is to post roll...every day (I do it first thing in the morning) your roll is a promise to everyone on this site that you will not dip today...Meanwhile there are thousands of promises to you to do the same. That's a lot of accountability, and that is also what the difference is between every time before and this time. because now you have literally thousands of folks counting on you to keep your promise...because if you break your promise it takes something out of everyone else's promise. So man up and fight through this. It really does get easier as you go. good luck.

[jtbrown]

Awesome man! Direct all complaints and rant sessions at us, and spare the wife. She will love you for it. Happy quitting my friend!

[Tuco]

Welcome and congrats on making the choice to quit!

I will go ahead and second Bignate's advice on coming clean to your wife. As one former prolific ninja-dipper to another, it's really important to tell your wife now. Yes, she's going to be pissed and yes, you will have blown her trust for a while, but as your wife she deserves to know. That's all part of the formula of accountability. If you try and quit in secret, then you will likely cave in secret. No one wants that.

[Bignate76]

4 days in now! Great job!

Just my 2 cents... take it or leave it. Tell your wife. Today. You are 4 days into a quit that will take the rest of your life to complete. You will need her support.

Sure she may get pissy when you first tell her, but that will pass. And although it's not an excuse to be short tempered or pissy with our loved ones (come here to vent, we can take it!), I'm sure she will be a little more understanding if you are moody, and not make up wild stories in her head as to why you are acting that way to/around her...

Come clean with the wife.. And QLF!!!! I quit with you today.

Send her here after she kicks your ass for being so dumb... KTC - Spousal Support

[slug.go]

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There you go, post roll and let's quit today!

Thanks! Just posted roll for the first time.

Reading helps a lot but to get everything you can out of this site you have to get involved. Make friends, exchange numbers, be active on your intro, lend support to others.
All of the above will make your quit stronger while helping out others at the same time. Welcome! You can do this.

Welcome bro! On the shores of Lake Michigan?

Definitely engage with your brothers in December ... they will help you when you are at your darkest. Stay strong, you've got this ... we'll support you!

Welcome to the mad house. For the record, today was your day 4. Since you quit before midnight Friday, even though it was a partial day, it was still day one! Already at 4 days, that light at the end of the tunnel is the sun, come out into the light!

[canless2014]

TwoRivers, congratulations on getting involved. Echoing what everyone says: Get Involved. As a ninja smoker / dipper (don't know how I managed to hide it form my girlfriend but I did), it can be tough because you've got very few people to talk to. That's where KTC is awesome. In the 48 hours I've been a member on this site, I've had multiple people reach out to me with their phone numbers. It's weird at first, but when you embrace it -- it's an awesome feeling to know people are here for you. As I read a few days ago: "Drink the Kool-Aid, man. It works."

Proud to be quit with you today.

[Smeds]

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There you go, post roll and let's quit today!

Thanks! Just posted roll for the first time.

Reading helps a lot but to get everything you can out of this site you have to get involved. Make friends, exchange numbers, be active on your intro, lend support to others.
All of the above will make your quit stronger while helping out others at the same time. Welcome! You can do this.

Welcome bro! On the shores of Lake Michigan?

Definitely engage with your brothers in December ... they will help you when you are at your darkest. Stay strong, you've got this ... we'll support you!

[rdad]

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There you go, post roll and let's quit today!

Thanks! Just posted roll for the first time.

Reading helps a lot but to get everything you can out of this site you have to get involved. Make friends, exchange numbers, be active on your intro, lend support to others.
All of the above will make your quit stronger while helping out others at the same time. Welcome! You can do this.

[TwoRivers]

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There you go, post roll and let's quit today!

Thanks! Just posted roll for the first time.

[Thumblewort]

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There you go, post roll and let's quit today!

[TwoRivers]

Hello everyone. Where to start...

I'm 30 years old, married, and have three children. I started smoking at the age of 17 and probably tried to quit over 100 times before it finally took hold in 2009. Quitting was a miserable experience, for many reasons, and maybe I'll get more into that at a later time.

In late 2009 I bought my first can of dip, using the cognitive distortion that I wasn't buying cigarettes, so it was a victory, right? WRONG! I dipped about 1/3 - 1/2 a can per day from late 2009 until early 2013. In January 2013 I managed to stop dipping for 6 months. I visited KTC regularly during the first few months and read a lot of posts, but never registered or got involved. In June 2013 I caved and have been back in the saddle since. I've had my good weeks here and there, but I've been dipping pretty steadily again for the past 15 months.

I used my last pouch of tobbacco at about 3:30 p.m. on Friday, September 5, 2014. This weekend was rough. I had a pretty crappy attitude about most things and got into some arguments with the wife. I should add, the wife has never known about my dipping habbit. My reasons for quitting are many: I want to be more healthy; I want to be here for my wife and children for as long as possible; I'm tired of being dependant; I'm tired of not dealing with life's issues with a clear head; I'm tired of not enjoying life's gifts with a clear head; I'm tired of lying to my wife and family; and I'm tired of hiding the purchases, the cans, and the spit bottles. I remember with reverance the feeling I had during my 6 months away from dip. I felt like the weight of the world had been lifted off my shoulders. I remember the first time I worked with power tools in the garage without dip, the first time I got into an argument with the wife and processed things without dip, the first time I took a long drive without dip, the first stressful day at work without dip - man, those all felt great. I think the best benefit though was not having to expend so much mental capacity on hiding things and lying...man, I want to get back there, and stay there!

Anyhow, there's a little bit about me...the bit that those closest to me don't know. Also, I can't seem to find my quit group in the forum. The way I have it calculated, I would be in a group for December 2014. Does anyone know where to find this elusive group? Thanks, and I look forward to reading more of the great information on this site!