New Quitter

[Jlud007]

Day 291 - 5/1/14
Today the book of Pinched lands on the topic of Brotherhood. I have seen many quitters come and go over my 291 days here, some good and some bad. I have had the chance to meet several quitters face to face and although none of them were beautiful meeting them was. My very own Quit Group dropped from 120 members, to 106 members, to 14 members and now we are hovering between 9-10. Although watching that number dwindle sucks to see, I know that at least a handful of them have remained quit. They may have left because life was too busy, perhaps posting roll daily took too much time, maybe were mentally fucked, I suppose a cave could have happened...There are lots of excuses.

I on the other hand have made the conscious decision that after hitting the HOF my quit group became KTC. Although I will always have a special place in my heart for my fellow Duck Fips, the brotherhood reaches well outside of October 13. That brotherhood means that I try to post in my regular groups on a regular basis. It also means that I maintain contact through text or even a few phone calls from other quitters. When I am having a bad day there always seems to be a text from a fellow quitter on my phone reminding me that beyond being quit I have a brother or a sister right there standing guard not just for my quit but also because they care.

Few people get to experience true brotherhood once in their lives, an even smaller number can say that they have more than once. This is yet one small example of brotherhood. KTC and the fin quitters that exist here not only make quitting possible they make life more palatable. For those of you hitting your HOF, now or recently just remember although you may not know it your original quit group is like your immediate family; when members drop like flies (and they will), it will affect you, but the rest of your KTC family will be here. For those of you that are going to drop...well remember that someone here cared enough to help you quit to this point; that's kind of like turning your back on a mother after your seed got her pregnant. You didn't finish the job, you merely filled out an application.

Today I choose brotherhood,

P

Well said!

Your new avatar is hilarious to those of us who have seen Bloodsport and know that there were no drums in that scene!

I will miss the old avatar though! She was hawt!

Well said brother. As we approach the 3rd floor together I reflect often on just "how much better" it did get. That's why I post roll daily (even though I should post in more groups). I quit with you and all our KTC bros today.

QFQQ

The new avatar is funny as hell!

[apogeeammo]

Day 291 - 5/1/14
Today the book of Pinched lands on the topic of Brotherhood. I have seen many quitters come and go over my 291 days here, some good and some bad. I have had the chance to meet several quitters face to face and although none of them were beautiful meeting them was. My very own Quit Group dropped from 120 members, to 106 members, to 14 members and now we are hovering between 9-10. Although watching that number dwindle sucks to see, I know that at least a handful of them have remained quit. They may have left because life was too busy, perhaps posting roll daily took too much time, maybe were mentally fucked, I suppose a cave could have happened...There are lots of excuses.

I on the other hand have made the conscious decision that after hitting the HOF my quit group became KTC. Although I will always have a special place in my heart for my fellow Duck Fips, the brotherhood reaches well outside of October 13. That brotherhood means that I try to post in my regular groups on a regular basis. It also means that I maintain contact through text or even a few phone calls from other quitters. When I am having a bad day there always seems to be a text from a fellow quitter on my phone reminding me that beyond being quit I have a brother or a sister right there standing guard not just for my quit but also because they care.

Few people get to experience true brotherhood once in their lives, an even smaller number can say that they have more than once. This is yet one small example of brotherhood. KTC and the fin quitters that exist here not only make quitting possible they make life more palatable. For those of you hitting your HOF, now or recently just remember although you may not know it your original quit group is like your immediate family; when members drop like flies (and they will), it will affect you, but the rest of your KTC family will be here. For those of you that are going to drop...well remember that someone here cared enough to help you quit to this point; that's kind of like turning your back on a mother after your seed got her pregnant. You didn't finish the job, you merely filled out an application.

Today I choose brotherhood,

P

Well said!

Your new avatar is hilarious to those of us who have seen Bloodsport and know that there were no drums in that scene!

I will miss the old avatar though! She was hawt!

[Pinched]

Day 291 - 5/1/14
Today the book of Pinched lands on the topic of Brotherhood. I have seen many quitters come and go over my 291 days here, some good and some bad. I have had the chance to meet several quitters face to face and although none of them were beautiful meeting them was. My very own Quit Group dropped from 120 members, to 106 members, to 14 members and now we are hovering between 9-10. Although watching that number dwindle sucks to see, I know that at least a handful of them have remained quit. They may have left because life was too busy, perhaps posting roll daily took too much time, maybe were mentally fucked, I suppose a cave could have happened...There are lots of excuses.

I on the other hand have made the conscious decision that after hitting the HOF my quit group became KTC. Although I will always have a special place in my heart for my fellow Duck Fips, the brotherhood reaches well outside of October 13. That brotherhood means that I try to post in my regular groups on a regular basis. It also means that I maintain contact through text or even a few phone calls from other quitters. When I am having a bad day there always seems to be a text from a fellow quitter on my phone reminding me that beyond being quit I have a brother or a sister right there standing guard not just for my quit but also because they care.

Few people get to experience true brotherhood once in their lives, an even smaller number can say that they have more than once. This is yet one small example of brotherhood. KTC and the fin quitters that exist here not only make quitting possible they make life more palatable. For those of you hitting your HOF, now or recently just remember although you may not know it your original quit group is like your immediate family; when members drop like flies (and they will), it will affect you, but the rest of your KTC family will be here. For those of you that are going to drop...well remember that someone here cared enough to help you quit to this point; that's kind of like turning your back on a mother after your seed got her pregnant. You didn't finish the job, you merely filled out an application.

Today I choose brotherhood,

P

[Doc Chewfree]

If you do not fix your avatar...I'm gonna take a shit on your intro page! 'flush'

have to admit, I miss that bouncing avatar as well... 'boob'

Just for those of you upset with my recent avi change...

Hot Jiggly Jogger

Whew! Thanks P!




Another

I feel much better...and a little sleepy. 'boob'

[brettlees]

If you do not fix your avatar...I'm gonna take a shit on your intro page! 'flush'

have to admit, I miss that bouncing avatar as well... 'boob'

Just for those of you upset with my recent avi change...

Hot Jiggly Jogger

Whew! Thanks P!




Another

[Pinched]

If you do not fix your avatar...I'm gonna take a shit on your intro page! 'flush'

have to admit, I miss that bouncing avatar as well... 'boob'

Just for those of you upset with my recent avi change...

Hot Jiggly Jogger

[Kdip]

Day 288 - 4/28/14
This weekend I coached a 7U baseball team to their first double header and victories, they won 18-0 and 16-2. Yeah that is kid pitch too. I also coached my 12U team to a tournament victory this weekend. The won with class but nearly gave away the farm as one catcher lost his head and then caused our pitcher to do the same; I hate subbing kids mid inning but these two needed pulled. The replacement players turned things around and won the final game after leading a rally coming from 5 runs behind. They did it I was merely there to help them prepare for the games.

Much like baseball other things emulate life. I made the decision last week to step out of some of my volunteer roles in the community because I started noticing that my wife and I and my daughter and I were becoming further apart and my oldest son and I were also starting to drift apart. I noticed this happening over time but wasn't sure what to do. After some soul searching it came to me one morning on my run last week, quit this, quit that, and let them lead their own life with the utmost in independence and let's see what happens. I found a replacement Cub Master and stepped down, I stepped down as Assistant Scout Master, I resigned as District Committee Chairman and I resigned as Cub Scout Day Camp Program Director for our Council. Now granted that is going to be a big hit to the Boy Scouts in the area, but I have agreed to do a few things privately and I will teach Adults how to fulfill those roles.

What does all this mean? Well I get to focus on baseball with the boys, taking the whole family on camping trips when we want and getting back to my life, no politics to deal with, no whining boys, no complaining mothers, not constantly feeling like if I don't no one else will. Hell I may just get that "honey-do" list done, I get to hunt and shoot when I want now, I can take my daughter shopping, I can take my wife out for a date...

I will certainly miss some of the aspects of it but I feel that as long as I continue to support my son's and their choices then they can become their own kind of men and my daughter can become the princess she deserves to be.

P.S. I am doing it all without nicotine or tobacco, so UST can still kiss my ass, my money is my kid's money, come try to take it from me.

P

Good on you! Adults and children aren't too different. Everyone wants to ride in the wagon and have someone else pull it. As long as someone pulls, most kids wont take a turn. I think you just let you community know that its time for some others to take a turn pulling the wagon.

Nothing wrong with that, in fact everything is right with that. Whiny mothers should become the cub scout leaders. Then they have more perspective.

Anyway you have a good quit going because you are recovering from the illness of addiction too. Not jus quit but owning your destination in life!

I signed up to be the den leader of my son 3 years ago.

Fast forward to this year, and I'm stepping back. I love it. I just don't have time for everything. (And, the worst part is that the leadership roles require you to spend time with every kid and parent except your own.) I'm going to be an assistant, and my theory is that I will be glad to show up and help pretty much every meeting. I signed up to be with my boy. I'll gladly help, but he deserves my attention too.

I did the same thing with baseball and not "officially" coaching but I show up and help out.

There's nothing wrong with focusing on your family first. I'm in the same place.

I'm 100% on board with you on this one. Someone else can replace you in the scouts and take their turn, but you can't replace lost time with your wife and family. Once that time is gone its gone forever. Since my daughter is a senior and going off to college next year, i am especially sensitive to this issue. Traveling for work and my selfish dip habit cost me a lot of time from my family before I finally put them first before everything else.

[T-Cell]

If you do not fix your avatar...I'm gonna take a shit on your intro page! 'flush'

have to admit, I miss that bouncing avatar as well... 'boob'

[Doc Chewfree]

If you do not fix your avatar...I'm gonna take a shit on your intro page! 'flush'

[wastepanel]

Day 288 - 4/28/14
This weekend I coached a 7U baseball team to their first double header and victories, they won 18-0 and 16-2. Yeah that is kid pitch too. I also coached my 12U team to a tournament victory this weekend. The won with class but nearly gave away the farm as one catcher lost his head and then caused our pitcher to do the same; I hate subbing kids mid inning but these two needed pulled. The replacement players turned things around and won the final game after leading a rally coming from 5 runs behind. They did it I was merely there to help them prepare for the games.

Much like baseball other things emulate life. I made the decision last week to step out of some of my volunteer roles in the community because I started noticing that my wife and I and my daughter and I were becoming further apart and my oldest son and I were also starting to drift apart. I noticed this happening over time but wasn't sure what to do. After some soul searching it came to me one morning on my run last week, quit this, quit that, and let them lead their own life with the utmost in independence and let's see what happens. I found a replacement Cub Master and stepped down, I stepped down as Assistant Scout Master, I resigned as District Committee Chairman and I resigned as Cub Scout Day Camp Program Director for our Council. Now granted that is going to be a big hit to the Boy Scouts in the area, but I have agreed to do a few things privately and I will teach Adults how to fulfill those roles.

What does all this mean? Well I get to focus on baseball with the boys, taking the whole family on camping trips when we want and getting back to my life, no politics to deal with, no whining boys, no complaining mothers, not constantly feeling like if I don't no one else will. Hell I may just get that "honey-do" list done, I get to hunt and shoot when I want now, I can take my daughter shopping, I can take my wife out for a date...

I will certainly miss some of the aspects of it but I feel that as long as I continue to support my son's and their choices then they can become their own kind of men and my daughter can become the princess she deserves to be.

P.S. I am doing it all without nicotine or tobacco, so UST can still kiss my ass, my money is my kid's money, come try to take it from me.

P

Good on you! Adults and children aren't too different. Everyone wants to ride in the wagon and have someone else pull it. As long as someone pulls, most kids wont take a turn. I think you just let you community know that its time for some others to take a turn pulling the wagon.

Nothing wrong with that, in fact everything is right with that. Whiny mothers should become the cub scout leaders. Then they have more perspective.

Anyway you have a good quit going because you are recovering from the illness of addiction too. Not jus quit but owning your destination in life!

I signed up to be the den leader of my son 3 years ago.

Fast forward to this year, and I'm stepping back. I love it. I just don't have time for everything. (And, the worst part is that the leadership roles require you to spend time with every kid and parent except your own.) I'm going to be an assistant, and my theory is that I will be glad to show up and help pretty much every meeting. I signed up to be with my boy. I'll gladly help, but he deserves my attention too.

I did the same thing with baseball and not "officially" coaching but I show up and help out.

There's nothing wrong with focusing on your family first. I'm in the same place.

[Mthomas3824]

Day 288 - 4/28/14
This weekend I coached a 7U baseball team to their first double header and victories, they won 18-0 and 16-2. Yeah that is kid pitch too. I also coached my 12U team to a tournament victory this weekend. The won with class but nearly gave away the farm as one catcher lost his head and then caused our pitcher to do the same; I hate subbing kids mid inning but these two needed pulled. The replacement players turned things around and won the final game after leading a rally coming from 5 runs behind. They did it I was merely there to help them prepare for the games.

Much like baseball other things emulate life. I made the decision last week to step out of some of my volunteer roles in the community because I started noticing that my wife and I and my daughter and I were becoming further apart and my oldest son and I were also starting to drift apart. I noticed this happening over time but wasn't sure what to do. After some soul searching it came to me one morning on my run last week, quit this, quit that, and let them lead their own life with the utmost in independence and let's see what happens. I found a replacement Cub Master and stepped down, I stepped down as Assistant Scout Master, I resigned as District Committee Chairman and I resigned as Cub Scout Day Camp Program Director for our Council. Now granted that is going to be a big hit to the Boy Scouts in the area, but I have agreed to do a few things privately and I will teach Adults how to fulfill those roles.

What does all this mean? Well I get to focus on baseball with the boys, taking the whole family on camping trips when we want and getting back to my life, no politics to deal with, no whining boys, no complaining mothers, not constantly feeling like if I don't no one else will. Hell I may just get that "honey-do" list done, I get to hunt and shoot when I want now, I can take my daughter shopping, I can take my wife out for a date...

I will certainly miss some of the aspects of it but I feel that as long as I continue to support my son's and their choices then they can become their own kind of men and my daughter can become the princess she deserves to be.

P.S. I am doing it all without nicotine or tobacco, so UST can still kiss my ass, my money is my kid's money, come try to take it from me.

P

Good on you! Adults and children aren't too different. Everyone wants to ride in the wagon and have someone else pull it. As long as someone pulls, most kids wont take a turn. I think you just let you community know that its time for some others to take a turn pulling the wagon.

Nothing wrong with that, in fact everything is right with that. Whiny mothers should become the cub scout leaders. Then they have more perspective.

Anyway you have a good quit going because you are recovering from the illness of addiction too. Not jus quit but owning your destination in life!

[Pinched]

Day 288 - 4/28/14
This weekend I coached a 7U baseball team to their first double header and victories, they won 18-0 and 16-2. Yeah that is kid pitch too. I also coached my 12U team to a tournament victory this weekend. The won with class but nearly gave away the farm as one catcher lost his head and then caused our pitcher to do the same; I hate subbing kids mid inning but these two needed pulled. The replacement players turned things around and won the final game after leading a rally coming from 5 runs behind. They did it I was merely there to help them prepare for the games.

Much like baseball other things emulate life. I made the decision last week to step out of some of my volunteer roles in the community because I started noticing that my wife and I and my daughter and I were becoming further apart and my oldest son and I were also starting to drift apart. I noticed this happening over time but wasn't sure what to do. After some soul searching it came to me one morning on my run last week, quit this, quit that, and let them lead their own life with the utmost in independence and let's see what happens. I found a replacement Cub Master and stepped down, I stepped down as Assistant Scout Master, I resigned as District Committee Chairman and I resigned as Cub Scout Day Camp Program Director for our Council. Now granted that is going to be a big hit to the Boy Scouts in the area, but I have agreed to do a few things privately and I will teach Adults how to fulfill those roles.

What does all this mean? Well I get to focus on baseball with the boys, taking the whole family on camping trips when we want and getting back to my life, no politics to deal with, no whining boys, no complaining mothers, not constantly feeling like if I don't no one else will. Hell I may just get that "honey-do" list done, I get to hunt and shoot when I want now, I can take my daughter shopping, I can take my wife out for a date...

I will certainly miss some of the aspects of it but I feel that as long as I continue to support my son's and their choices then they can become their own kind of men and my daughter can become the princess she deserves to be.

P.S. I am doing it all without nicotine or tobacco, so UST can still kiss my ass, my money is my kid's money, come try to take it from me.

P

[Erussell]

Day 277 - 4/17/14
Newbs and others take notice...when I was on week one and two and kept hearing from the veterans on here "it gets better" I just wanted to tell them to fuck off because it sucks right now, I could give a fuck about it getting better, I wanted it better right now. I am not from the Now generation and I have never asked for anyone to give me something nor have I ever felt entitled to something, but early in my quit I just wanted all the bullshit to stop.

The constant cravings, the little voices telling me one little pinch won't hurt, the rage (OMFG the Rage), the mood swings, the change in dietary needs, posting roll... All of it was too much, at times.

However, everyone was consistent, the message was clear, the people were real, the stories hit home. The path was defined. SO I stuck with it and ever since about 240 something it has been easier. Granted the recent forum changes were not easy but no IT changes are; however, this recent changed reminded me of when I was a newb fucking up roll, bumping people lie crazy and not giving a damn because my head was so far in the fog (AKA up nicotine's ass) that I could see the real journey.

Tonight I have a chance to expand my quit network in real life again, meeting up with a over two year quitter, a -100 day brother, a seasoned yet pre-HOF quitter, and if they can make it some even more long term quitters. All of this shows me that it doesn't matter if you are on day 1, 10, 100, 1,000, 10,000; we all quit the same way daily, we are all one bad decision away from another day 1. We all share the same stories, we all are addicts.

Now insert Ferris Bueller voice "If you have the means to meet another quitter I highly recommend picking one out, they are so choice"
Ferris Bueller - So Choice

Carry on!

P

'Cheers' Looking forward to a couple beers and good quit conversation tonight! Great message to the newbies, it truely does get better. But you have to want it and put the work in (kinda like most worth-while things in life...) to build a quit that lasts. There are many things in life you can half-ass your way through and still be considered sucessful. Quitting isn't like that. You have to intentionally quit every day, build your accountability.

Nothing to add... only wish I was close enough to join you guys.

Rock on my brother and you guys have a great time.

shocker

Amen brother pinched! Anytime I can watch your avatar and gain good quit knowledge I get a quit chub.
Quit on brother, I'll be right behind you!

please don't get behind me with a chub..not that there's anything wrong with that but i like the vagina

Boing

[jayd41]

Day 277 - 4/17/14
Newbs and others take notice...when I was on week one and two and kept hearing from the veterans on here "it gets better" I just wanted to tell them to fuck off because it sucks right now, I could give a fuck about it getting better, I wanted it better right now. I am not from the Now generation and I have never asked for anyone to give me something nor have I ever felt entitled to something, but early in my quit I just wanted all the bullshit to stop.

The constant cravings, the little voices telling me one little pinch won't hurt, the rage (OMFG the Rage), the mood swings, the change in dietary needs, posting roll... All of it was too much, at times.

However, everyone was consistent, the message was clear, the people were real, the stories hit home. The path was defined. SO I stuck with it and ever since about 240 something it has been easier. Granted the recent forum changes were not easy but no IT changes are; however, this recent changed reminded me of when I was a newb fucking up roll, bumping people lie crazy and not giving a damn because my head was so far in the fog (AKA up nicotine's ass) that I could see the real journey.

Tonight I have a chance to expand my quit network in real life again, meeting up with a over two year quitter, a -100 day brother, a seasoned yet pre-HOF quitter, and if they can make it some even more long term quitters. All of this shows me that it doesn't matter if you are on day 1, 10, 100, 1,000, 10,000; we all quit the same way daily, we are all one bad decision away from another day 1. We all share the same stories, we all are addicts.

Now insert Ferris Bueller voice "If you have the means to meet another quitter I highly recommend picking one out, they are so choice"
Ferris Bueller - So Choice

Carry on!

P

'Cheers' Looking forward to a couple beers and good quit conversation tonight! Great message to the newbies, it truely does get better. But you have to want it and put the work in (kinda like most worth-while things in life...) to build a quit that lasts. There are many things in life you can half-ass your way through and still be considered sucessful. Quitting isn't like that. You have to intentionally quit every day, build your accountability.

Nothing to add... only wish I was close enough to join you guys.

Rock on my brother and you guys have a great time.

shocker

Amen brother pinched! Anytime I can watch your avatar and gain good quit knowledge I get a quit chub.
Quit on brother, I'll be right behind you!

please don't get behind me with a chub..not that there's anything wrong with that but i like the vagina

[Doc Chewfree]

Day 277 - 4/17/14
Newbs and others take notice...when I was on week one and two and kept hearing from the veterans on here "it gets better" I just wanted to tell them to fuck off because it sucks right now, I could give a fuck about it getting better, I wanted it better right now. I am not from the Now generation and I have never asked for anyone to give me something nor have I ever felt entitled to something, but early in my quit I just wanted all the bullshit to stop.

The constant cravings, the little voices telling me one little pinch won't hurt, the rage (OMFG the Rage), the mood swings, the change in dietary needs, posting roll... All of it was too much, at times.

However, everyone was consistent, the message was clear, the people were real, the stories hit home. The path was defined. SO I stuck with it and ever since about 240 something it has been easier. Granted the recent forum changes were not easy but no IT changes are; however, this recent changed reminded me of when I was a newb fucking up roll, bumping people lie crazy and not giving a damn because my head was so far in the fog (AKA up nicotine's ass) that I could see the real journey.

Tonight I have a chance to expand my quit network in real life again, meeting up with a over two year quitter, a -100 day brother, a seasoned yet pre-HOF quitter, and if they can make it some even more long term quitters. All of this shows me that it doesn't matter if you are on day 1, 10, 100, 1,000, 10,000; we all quit the same way daily, we are all one bad decision away from another day 1. We all share the same stories, we all are addicts.

Now insert Ferris Bueller voice "If you have the means to meet another quitter I highly recommend picking one out, they are so choice"
Ferris Bueller - So Choice

Carry on!

P

'Cheers' Looking forward to a couple beers and good quit conversation tonight! Great message to the newbies, it truely does get better. But you have to want it and put the work in (kinda like most worth-while things in life...) to build a quit that lasts. There are many things in life you can half-ass your way through and still be considered sucessful. Quitting isn't like that. You have to intentionally quit every day, build your accountability.

Nothing to add... only wish I was close enough to join you guys.

Rock on my brother and you guys have a great time.

shocker

Amen brother pinched! Anytime I can watch your avatar and gain good quit knowledge I get a quit chub.
Quit on brother, I'll be right behind you!