Passing Day 1,150
Well this place looks like it was trashed. There are cobwebs everywhere, the table has been overturned and a few chairs have been broken. But I guess it was deserved to be like this.
But the past is the past.
There is nothing that we can do today, that can change what has happened in the past.
We can only make a decision today to move forward in a positive direction to learn how to live our life clean and free from an addiction that ruled us.
As I look around, yes I see a mess, but I also see a very strong foundation. One built on trust and giving my word daily and then honoring it. It might be smaller than before but that is ok, as I learned something very important to me over the past 16 months or so. I learned that it is not the size of the foundation that is the most important, but rather the quality of how it is built. You see, the foundation I have at the core, the one that remains today is more solid than any stone or metal known to man. It’s the parts that have fallen away that were the issue. I did not realize it but it was that larger portion that was being built at the expense of my personal home life. It was the continued building of that portion that was actually tearing down a marriage. So though I may have been still solid in my quit and still ‘quitting’, I had not progressed to actually living as being quit. I had not fully incorporated it into my life on a whole. So weird to say but maybe it was greatly needed, to let that additional portion of what was being built fall away, as the quality of how it was built was not properly made. And instead of thinking of the size, think more to the quality of what is there at the core of life.
So I will clean up this place a little, straighten a few things out, and make it look presentable again. But this time will take care of the quality and make sure that the core foundation will never be damaged.
Can I go back to the way things were, no.
Do I want to go back to the way things were, again NO.
Do I want to change what has happened, a resounding NO!!!
I have made a decision to learn from all that has happened, to re-adjust my focus and live life with my family. And we are living happy now. So it can be done.