Yep, it's got to be for you. Of course, wanting to regain the trust of your wife and not have division between yourself and your family sure sounds like it's "for you" in my book. Remember how you felt typing that to a forum full of strangers if you start feeling like returning to the tin, and - if you find yourself that close to a cave - ask yourself how that tin can be more important for a temporary fix than your family. Post up on roll and we'll have your back, but the hard work is on you.