Today marks 1 year of freedom from alcohol. 365 days of Sobriety, One Day At A Time.
I remember in the beginning how hard it was. We all get a big enough number by our names and the memories of the struggle start to slip. As with dip, so with alcohol. Addiction is the same. It's interesting that the closer I got to 1 year, the more I started to think about drinking afterwards. I mean... if I can quit for a year voluntarily, then I can't be an addict, right?
Fortunately I know better. I know that there are posts out there where I talked about having the same thoughts toward 100 days. Posts where I talk about how hard it was. Posts where I owned up to being an addict. Posts where I mentioned how much better I felt after quitting. Posts where I thanked everyone for their support.
One of the great things about getting involved and doing more than just 'posting and ghosting' is that
you can go back and read the stuff you said. It's one thing to get support from others when you're feeling down, or when you're in a rough patch.
It's something else entirely to go back and read your own words, your own struggle, your own reasons. For posterity's sake, here are some of mine.
Zombo Funk - 1. Celebrating my HOF today with my August Ajays. Pretty afraid to join you all here, but I've been thinking about it a long time. Told everyone in my HOF speech that they should quit now, and I feel like I need to follow my own advice. Drinking has arguably caused way more problems in my life than dip ever did. I'm looking forward to sticking it out with you all.
Zombo Funk 5. Getting easier to fall asleep already. Still wake up 100 times though. Weird how it's hard to admit i drank too much but it's so obvious after I stopped.
Zombo Funk 7. One week of ODAAT. parents coming to visit soon and I'm still not sure how to tell them I've quit.
I don't know your situation but I'm still a little stuck on the part where I admit I have a legitimate 'drinking problem'. I'm fine telling people shit like, "I've decided to quit for 100 days" or some bullshit. It's just the part where I may have to verbalize anything along the lines of "I am quitting forever because I have proven to myself time and time again that drinking just 1 beer/wine/whatever isn't a possibility for me and my only options are being an alcoholic or not drinking, so I'm choosing to not drink" that scares me.
I sold that line of bullshit to some friends, actually. I told them I quit, and then they were asking about it and I bitched out and backtracked to say, "I'm just taking a break to see how it feels". I'm afraid that if I keep saying that it'll end up being true. I know I need to just own it or I'll be dooming myself to failure but it's not easy.
I think the real problem is that I've been struggling to accept it for myself. But it is what it is. I do have a drinking problem and trying to hide my quit isn't doing me any favors.
Zombo Funk - 8 - I quit drinking because I have a drinking problem, and I like the sober version of myself better.
Zombo Funk 15 - I've gotten over my acceptance issue by now. I made it a point to tell everyone I quit drinking as practice and now it's pretty easy.
Zombo Funk 21 - 3 weeks sober. I feel so good in the morning now I started exercising
For anyone who remembers a few weeks back I was worried about explaining my quit to my parents who would be visiting soon. Well they are here now and last night my mom really dug into it. But in a good way. Turns out she has been drinking more and more over the years and has also been looking to quit. Pretty much the same situation I was in 3 weeks ago when I quit. It was weird to hear myself repeating the same stuff you guys all said to me back then, but.. it was all true.
Just wanted to share my story and say thanks everyone for your support. I'm grateful to be a part of the KTC community.
It's been a lot harder than I thought it'd be when I started but the support here has really kept me going.
This'll be my first long weekend sober and I'm going to a wedding which will be another challenge. But you're right. I have started to enjoy telling people that I've quit drinking. I don't feel great pride in saying I've quit 30 days ago, since that kinda seems dodgy, and paints me as the typical struggling alcohol in other's eyes. To KD2's point, I still feel the same way - but I've learned that I don't have to tell people every single detail. It's been enough for me to just say, "no thanks, I've quit drinking" or "I don't drink" and if anyone inquires further, I tell them I just don't enjoy drinking anymore. I haven't felt pressured to actually say to another human, "I am an alcoholic" or go into to much detail unless I wanted to. I have to know that I have a drinking problem. I have to know that I am addicted and that I'm one drink away from 6 beers per night. But I don't feel compelled to share that information. I have started to feel some pride in saying I've quit if I'm being honest. I've started to look forward to it. To borrow a phrase it's like casting a vote for the person you want to be. Every time I tell someone that I've quit, it reinforces the decision and makes it easier to be quit.
365 votes for the person I want to be. I may not be there yet but I'm getting closer. I know where I came from. I know why I'm here now. I remember the struggle. I'm not going back. Not today.
Thanks to all KTC, but especially the Teetotalling Tallywhackers. There are too many to name everyone but I'd like to thank
@KD2 for the support. You've been 6 days ahead of me from the beginning and if I ever lose count, I just check out text message log and subtract 6. PTBQWYT.
Zombo Funk 464 / 365