I bumped this post of Nikki's good stuff My Dear Friends,
I want to share with you something that I wrote for a presentation that ODT is giving today and tomorrow. I wrote this as an insight through the eyes of a female dipper. I hope if a female is reading this. please know you can join this site. You can prove that you are stronger than smokeless tobacco or any other addiction because some of us have more than one to conquer. Let this site help guide you.
Good luck in whatever choice you make,
mylilsecret aka Nickie
My name is Nicole and I used Copenhagen for 23 years. What at first became I simple dare turned into my reasoning to cope with an abusive childhood. I kept it hidden very well as most female dippers do. The personification that dipping is only used by the male population is simply untrue. Unlike cigarette smoking, women have concerns within their social circles about using. ItÂ’s perceived as being unattractive. Many have low self-esteem and less desire to ask for help. I believe more educational and prevention messages should be associated to female dippers to prove they are not alone.
I thought I was alone. For years I tried to quit, only to be thrown back into the clutches of my addiction. You canÂ’t force, bargain, trade or use ultimatums to help someone see their addiction. ThatÂ’s the hardest part of the disease.
If you know a female wanting to quit, let them know they’re others with the same problem. It‘s embarrassing to come out and admit it. I know it's had taken me 23 years to finally say, "I was a woman Copenhagen user." There is support and this website proves just that. Through this website and quitting smokeless tobacco I found something, I found me! Each group works as a team through accountability and using the term, “One day at a time,” I can’t imagine what my life would be like today had I not stumbled upon this website.
Female quitters need help. If I show just one that it can be accomplished then maybe more will follow.
Sincerely,
Nicole Lynch
Day 574
If Given The Chance
I bet - if given the chance - I could seduce you into using me even if it's just one time.
Then after you've tried me I know you wouldn't want anything else other than myself.
I bet - if given the chance - I could make you believe I'm a loyal friend; some sort of confidante.
Sooner or later I'll be able to manipulate, hell I'll be able to isolate you from family even friends.
I bet - if given the chance - I could ravish you with deadly poisons pretending they're great pleasures.
And after all those years of letting me control your every move you'll see what I'm truly after ...... death.
I'm your greatest fear. I'm your addiction.
I bet - if given the chance - you'll begin to feel guilty from hurting so many because of your worship for me.
But after I am gone they'll learn to forgive you but never truly understand how or why this could've happened.
I bet - if given the chance - you'll begin to forget me. However, I'll try my best to wreck havoc on you once more.
You see, within the darkest corner of your mind, every so often I'll beg you to give me another try.
I bet - if given the chance - you'll begin to see hope that you can live your life without me.
And after all those years of letting me control your every move you'll see what I truly dread ...... life.
It's my greatest fear. It's your recovery.
- Nicole Lynch
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