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Re: Giving Up Your Quit - Just For A Dip ??
« Reply #50 on: January 31, 2009, 03:48:00 PM »
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anybody post .. anything .. so I don't look like a freakin' fruitloop ..k?
You are not a fruitloop! I totally understand and wish I could help - but my lady is one of those you mentioned. She works with addicts and would jump too quickly on AA's policy of same sex sponsors...have you reached out to Melanie, Kid, or BengalsGirl? I'm sure there are dudes on here without crazy jealous chicks - just hop in live chat and put up a flag.
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Re: Giving Up Your Quit - Just For A Dip ??
« Reply #49 on: January 31, 2009, 12:52:00 PM »
anybody post .. anything .. so I don't look like a freakin' fruitloop ..k?
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Re: Giving Up Your Quit - Just For A Dip ??
« Reply #48 on: January 27, 2009, 08:44:00 PM »
okie dokie!
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Re: Giving Up Your Quit - Just For A Dip ??
« Reply #47 on: January 26, 2009, 11:33:00 AM »
I'm looking to talk to old vets as well as new quitters. I need as many numbers as I can get. It's very hard to reach other quitters during the evening hours since it just so happens I'm female. And though I'm female - other male quitters feel/or know that wife/girlfriend would not like their spouse talking to me during those hours. Which honestly sucks as a female because I have to work my issues around my quit brothers availability. Now if I were a male quitter - no problem! I'd be able to call you whenever a crave or issue would come about. Basically I could call you at 8pm and you'd have no worries.

So why can't others see females are addicts .. I don't want phone sex or to steal you away from your spouse. I don't want to have an affair. I don't want anything other than the compassion of knowing that when I need someone to talk to they'll be there. I'd be willing to speak to your spouse(s) on how important it is to have availability not just for male quitters but .... yes for female quitters as well. We do exist. Some hide behind male names, I know. For fear of rejection that it's impossible for a woman to become addict to snuff .. a woman like me for 20 plus years be an addict.

I'm proof we are out there. And so are the other women on here. Maybe I'm just rambling. Maybe I need help more than other women. Maybe I'm just completely fucked up. I just have alot on my plate to deal with and sharing some of that when I'm down .. helps me not think about all the screwed up shit I could be doing .. like dipping.


So if you think you can handle listening to me cry, rant, laugh and yell all about my crazy world then pass on your number by pm. I'll program it into my cell phone and if you need me I'll be there. If you have certain times I am able to call let me know .. trust me .. I understand ... I'm the other woman. I'm the one with the same addiction as you.

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Re: Giving Up Your Quit - Just For A Dip ??
« Reply #46 on: January 21, 2009, 09:15:00 PM »
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I wish more would people would post just so I could have new stuff to read.  I literally spend the entire working day with this site up, trying to stay as close as possible.  It turns out that I end up re-reading a lot of HOF speeches cause I run out of fresh motivational material.  Then again, I shouldn't complain cause I'm not a big poster myself.
scuba - if you haven't seen this page i'd suggest you check it out.

http://www.killthecan.org/facts/cancerfacts.asp

everything on this page has been taken from the forums... think of these as the "gems" from qsx.

enjoy!
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Re: Giving Up Your Quit - Just For A Dip ??
« Reply #45 on: January 21, 2009, 01:34:00 PM »
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I wish more would people would post just so I could have new stuff to read. I literally spend the entire working day with this site up, trying to stay as close as possible. It turns out that I end up re-reading a lot of HOF speeches cause I run out of fresh motivational material. Then again, I shouldn't complain cause I'm not a big poster myself.
scuba - if you haven't seen this page i'd suggest you check it out.

http://www.killthecan.org/facts/cancerfacts.asp

everything on this page has been taken from the forums... think of these as the "gems" from qsx.

enjoy!
"Every man dies... not every man really lives." - William Wallace

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Re: Giving Up Your Quit - Just For A Dip ??
« Reply #44 on: January 21, 2009, 01:21:00 PM »
I wish more would people would post just so I could have new stuff to read. I literally spend the entire working day with this site up, trying to stay as close as possible. It turns out that I end up re-reading a lot of HOF speeches cause I run out of fresh motivational material. Then again, I shouldn't complain cause I'm not a big poster myself.
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Re: Giving Up Your Quit - Just For A Dip ??
« Reply #43 on: January 21, 2009, 08:57:00 AM »
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Do other members who post actually help your quit by seeing what they go through day to day?

-mls
definitely, definitely, definitely
"Every man dies... not every man really lives." - William Wallace

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Re: Giving Up Your Quit - Just For A Dip ??
« Reply #42 on: January 21, 2009, 07:34:00 AM »
it all help nickie girl. reading. posting. noing there's help around. all the stuff i never had when i tried to quit before.

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Re: Giving Up Your Quit - Just For A Dip ??
« Reply #41 on: January 21, 2009, 02:50:00 AM »
Do other members who post actually help your quit by seeing what they go through day to day?

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Re: Giving Up Your Quit - Just For A Dip ??
« Reply #40 on: October 07, 2008, 09:55:00 AM »
My oh my Nickie, can you tell a story. The ability to touch others through prose is a rare gift that you possess in abundance.

This is a sad story on so many levels and at the same time an amazing reminder of what is important in life.

Regardless of the motivation that caused us to quit, we all have additional time to spend with those that are dearest to us.

Let us make the most of it.

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Re: Giving Up Your Quit - Just For A Dip ??
« Reply #39 on: October 01, 2008, 11:51:00 PM »
It happened over the summer. My mother didn't want to upset me since I was being tested at Shands Hospital during that time. I found out a few weeks ago at a birthday party for my mother. That's when Jay's mother explained to me what happened. He was a wonderful person and a good friend,
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Re: Giving Up Your Quit - Just For A Dip ??
« Reply #38 on: October 01, 2008, 05:04:00 PM »
Wow....sad for sure....when did this happen
How the hell did we get here?

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Re: Giving Up Your Quit - Just For A Dip ??
« Reply #37 on: October 01, 2008, 06:25:00 AM »
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Most, .. if not all who chose to quit dipping do so in fear of cancer and ultimately their fear of death from their addiction.


- Imagine being twelve and your first dip. Dad lets you do it around the garage with him as you tinker with his tools pretending to help. Pretty cool, huh?

- Imagine being fifteen and your friends start hanging out at your house 'cause it's okay to dip around your parents. Heck, most of their parents haven't a clue about the dipping ritual that happens after school.

- Imagine being nineteen and working with your father at his business. Both still dipping and enjoying the conversations you spend because you feel a connection, even if it has to do with dip.

- Imagine finding your first sore, gums raw but you still keep using. Dad says its happened to him but it'll go away. So you pack it to the other side of your mouth. It feels somewhat less painful that way.

- Imagine being twenty-one and the birth of your first and only son. Dipping the whole time your wife is in labor. So nervous but you need dip to take that edge off. Asking the nurses for a cup to spit into. Holding your son after birth, but in the back of your mind you know that you need to get another can since you're out.

- Imagine being twenty-seven and your now six yr old son wants to go hunting with you like he has many times before but you tell him he can't go. Unable to tell him why since there's going to be alcohol and a little party later at a friends house. Your son cries not understanding why Daddy won't take him hunting. You promise to take him real soon. Maybe next weekend. He pouts some but you're able to scoot out the door without him noticing.

- Imagine hunting while drinking some beer. Later on you're at a friends house you've known since grade school. You play a little poker and get somewhat carried away with the shots and liquor being passed around.

- Imagine feeling a bit dizzy and resting on the couch since the room won't stop spinning. Some time later others pass by and laugh 'cause your drunker than shit. They believed you have passed out since they hear you snoring.

- Imagine being so intoxicated to the point that you've swallow your snuff. What they believe was snoring was actually you gasping for air yet since you've been drinking, you're unable to move and get help .. you die .. not from cancer .. but from choking on your wad of dip.

Now imagine leaving behind your wife and son, mother, father and sister. Leaving behind your friends and one of the girls (me) who played truth or dare and was dared to kiss you. We were fourteen. (the time I started dipping secretly)

Imagine now, if cancer's truly the only culprit that can lead to your death.

This true story happened to a good friend of mine. Someone with a kind heart but just was stupid to think that he wasn't addicted. To proud thinking he was invincible to cancer and death. Yet sadly he died by asphyxiation.

He's gone by just a single dip!

-mylilsecret

Rest in peace, Jay Archibald! I hope you're death wasn't in vain and by me telling your story will help someone take that first step to quit.
Nickie,

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Re: Giving Up Your Quit - Just For A Dip ??
« Reply #36 on: October 01, 2008, 12:35:00 AM »
Most, .. if not all who chose to quit dipping do so in fear of cancer and ultimately their fear of death from their addiction.


- Imagine being twelve and your first dip. Dad lets you do it around the garage with him as you tinker with his tools pretending to help. Pretty cool, huh?

- Imagine being fifteen and your friends start hanging out at your house 'cause it's okay to dip around your parents. Heck, most of their parents haven't a clue about the dipping ritual that happens after school.

- Imagine being nineteen and working with your father at his business. Both still dipping and enjoying the conversations you spend because you feel a connection, even if it has to do with dip.

- Imagine finding your first sore, gums raw but you still keep using. Dad says its happened to him but it'll go away. So you pack it to the other side of your mouth. It feels somewhat less painful that way.

- Imagine being twenty-one and the birth of your first and only son. Dipping the whole time your wife is in labor. So nervous but you need dip to take that edge off. Asking the nurses for a cup to spit into. Holding your son after birth, but in the back of your mind you know that you need to get another can since you're out.

- Imagine being twenty-seven and your now six yr old son wants to go hunting with you like he has many times before but you tell him he can't go. Unable to tell him why since there's going to be alcohol and a little party later at a friends house. Your son cries not understanding why Daddy won't take him hunting. You promise to take him real soon. Maybe next weekend. He pouts some but you're able to scoot out the door without him noticing.

- Imagine hunting while drinking some beer. Later on you're at a friends house you've known since grade school. You play a little poker and get somewhat carried away with the shots and liquor being passed around.

- Imagine feeling a bit dizzy and resting on the couch since the room won't stop spinning. Some time later others pass by and laugh 'cause your drunker than shit. They believed you have passed out since they hear you snoring.

- Imagine being so intoxicated to the point that you've swallow your snuff. What they believe was snoring was actually you gasping for air yet since you've been drinking, you're unable to move and get help .. you die .. not from cancer .. but from choking on your wad of dip.

Now imagine leaving behind your wife and son, mother, father and sister. Leaving behind your friends and one of the girls (me) who played truth or dare and was dared to kiss you. We were fourteen. (the time I started dipping secretly)

Imagine now, if cancer's truly the only culprit that can lead to your death.

This true story happened to a good friend of mine. Someone with a kind heart but just was stupid to think that he wasn't addicted. To proud thinking he was invincible to cancer and death. Yet sadly he died by asphyxiation.

He's gone by just a single dip!

-mylilsecret

Rest in peace, Jay Archibald! I hope you're death wasn't in vain and by me telling your story will help someone take that first step to quit.
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