Hello all, I am about to begin my journey nic free. I have been chewing for the past 23 years and am up to a 2 can a day habit. I just cannot continue spending all of this money on this shit. I have a 8 month old baby at home, and feel ashamed when I think of the money that could have been spent on him. I have tried one other time to quit and did not use for a year, then the devil sucked me back in. This is not an option for me anymore, I HAVE TO QUIT!!!! I just found this site last night, what a God sent. Really never dawned on me that there were so many people like me out there. I'm a little aprehensive right now, but know what to expect, so here I go!
Hey man, I quit when my wife was 6 months pregnant and my first born was 7 months old. From my experience, there's one thing that you HAVE to do, and that's remove yourself from your daughter when you feel that urge/rage/frustration coming on. I used a slew of cuss words, tried to break a dinner plate, and bashed my head into the wall several times during my quit (ashamedly all in front of my daughter), and now my oldest daughter throws fits by hitting her head on anything nearby.
I know I sounds like some crazy dude, but I'm actually pretty normal (other than singing itsy bitsy spider in the shower nowadays) and my wife would tell you that I'm a great father and husband. But for a solid 50 or 60 days, that wasn't the case. Kids are the best thing that can happen to a man, but they will test your patience (as I'm sure you know) and my patience bank was running a negative balance through most of the first month or two.
Just make sure both you and your wife are ready for you to run out the door for 5 or 10 minutes where you can chill, break things in the garage, and get over your fits away from your girl. She doesn't need to see that. Try to avoid alone time with her for a while too, so you have the option to get away. Also, have your wife read
this. It helped mine alot.
Bottom line, you can do this. It'll probably be tougher with kids, but let me tell you, it's SO MUCH BETTER without nic! I have no worries of her accidentally opening a spitter, I don't have to spit into the bottle around her head anymore, and I don't have to worry about the chance that my wife might have to raise them alone because of nicotine stealing me away from life early.
Another good motivator is Tom and Jenny's story. I read it several times during the beginning.
Check your PM for my number, and get this thing kicked!
