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Offline Derk40

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Re: Hello. New feller here.
« Reply #14 on: October 01, 2013, 04:20:00 PM »
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Thanks again guys. Believe it or not I'm still doing pretty good. Stopped by the convenience store and bought some more sugarless gum and other stuff to keep me occupied. Took my brother to the Mexican restaurant for his birthday. Even had a couple of beers while he smoked away on his cigs. Didn't cave. Went to the tobacco / beer store for an 18 pack. Didn't cave! Kinda proud of those two feats! The wife just doesn't understand. I can't hold that against her. She's Never had anything get a hold of her like a delicious can of Kodiak. She doesn't understand and I can't explain it, so F it. You all know where I'm coming from!! And for that I'm grateful.
Took out my Trans Am for some anxiety release. Gave her hell through 2nd,3rd, and 4th. 1st is too many rpms. Better than rubbing one out if you ask me! Thanks for letting me vent. I'll check in later!
Sincerely. Russ. "Big Tuna Vagina"
Tuna, way to hang tight  quit.

My recommendation is to take it ez on the booze intake early on here. Couple of beers at lunch  now an 18 pack... EZ big fella. Too much booze will lower your inhibitions  many folks have lost their quit  claimed the dreaded Alcohol did them in. There will be a time when you are ready, but this early in your quit -- I advise you severely limit intake.

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Re: Hello. New feller here.
« Reply #13 on: October 01, 2013, 04:15:00 PM »
Thanks again guys. Believe it or not I'm still doing pretty good. Stopped by the convenience store and bought some more sugarless gum and other stuff to keep me occupied. Took my brother to the Mexican restaurant for his birthday. Even had a couple of beers while he smoked away on his cigs. Didn't cave. Went to the tobacco / beer store for an 18 pack. Didn't cave! Kinda proud of those two feats! The wife just doesn't understand. I can't hold that against her. She's Never had anything get a hold of her like a delicious can of Kodiak. She doesn't understand and I can't explain it, so F it. You all know where I'm coming from!! And for that I'm grateful.
Took out my Trans Am for some anxiety release. Gave her hell through 2nd,3rd, and 4th. 1st is too many rpms. Better than rubbing one out if you ask me! Thanks for letting me vent. I'll check in later!
Sincerely. Russ. "Big Tuna Vagina"

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Re: Hello. New feller here.
« Reply #12 on: October 01, 2013, 01:23:00 PM »
Just catching up with your intro Tuna. Nice job posting roll today bro!

This place is for you to vent, so let it out. We like it raw and unfiltered. The goal of letting it out is so you don't let it out on your wife and kids.

Remember, you are the guy that made the decision to use this crap... they don't deserve a to be beat up for it. That said... it will happen, but try to learn from it  it will get better. You just have to power thru this time. Don't listen to your wife's comment -- that is her anger talking.

For now, embrace this suck... try to relax and keep occupied. Do whatever it takes in order to stay quit today. I mean whatever... everything is on the table. You need to scream at us... that is why we are here. You can do this! Quit with you today!
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Re: Hello. New feller here.
« Reply #11 on: October 01, 2013, 11:52:00 AM »
Keep it up Tuna. I didn't get much support from my wife at first either. All I can say is get on here and bitch. We get it and understand what you are dealing with. Recognize the rage or irritability is the nic bitch trying to get you to cave. When you see that, you can better focus the anger on the evil can, or yourself for having given yourself such a stupid addiction.
There is a spousal support thing in the welcome center.
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Re: Hello. New feller here.
« Reply #10 on: October 01, 2013, 11:47:00 AM »
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Hey thanks guys for the responses. I posted roll on the December 2013 roll call because I cannot find one for January 2014 yet. Am I missing something? I never claimed to be smart.
Anyway I'm on day two and doing pretty good. Isn't nearly as bad as yesterday. Got the kids off to school no problem. Not even a minor blow up. I did have a pretty good melt down yesterday evening. Throwing things and the whole nine yards!! But no one was around so it didn't even count. Kind of like the tree falling in a forest.
So I've been drinking alot of water. Staying real busy doing stuff the wife doesn't feel like doing. She told me yesterday that if I was going to be a dick while trying to quit, to just go ahead and dip!! How's that for support??
Well, that's it for now. Keep me straight if I post something out of line. I have read the welcome pages, but like I said before, my brain is a little soft.
Thanks, Russ
tuna...you are not trying to quit. You are quitting. Don't forget that. A positive mental attitude can be the thing that makes your quit successful.
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Re: Hello. New feller here.
« Reply #9 on: October 01, 2013, 11:02:00 AM »
Nice Mr Tuna man... the quit is for you first don't give in to such enticements from people and folks around you. All you have to do is keep quit for today only and you. Post roll give us your word accountability will come from us drink the Kool-Aid baby. You goal mission is to work for a change in mindset that you can do life without poison. Embrace the suck bro...you have my digits use them.
Complacency sucks, one moment of it is the difference between being a user and a quitter....OIB

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Re: Hello. New feller here.
« Reply #8 on: October 01, 2013, 09:40:00 AM »
Quote from: Bigtuna77
Hey thanks guys for the responses. I posted roll on the December 2013 roll call because I cannot find one for January 2014 yet. Am I missing something? I never claimed to be smart.
Anyway I'm on day two and doing pretty good. Isn't nearly as bad as yesterday. Got the kids off to school no problem. Not even a minor blow up. I did have a pretty good melt down yesterday evening. Throwing things and the whole nine yards!! But no one was around so it didn't even count. Kind of like the tree falling in a forest.
So I've been drinking alot of water. Staying real busy doing stuff the wife doesn't feel like doing. She told me yesterday that if I was going to be a dick while trying to quit, to just go ahead and dip!! How's that for support??
Well, that's it for now. Keep me straight if I post something out of line. I have read the welcome pages, but like I said before, my brain is a little soft.
Thanks, Russ
I broke my wifes laptop screen in my first week of quitting and just got it replaced last week. I would do it again too if that meant I stay quit. No matter what anyone says or does you have to remember that you are quitting for you and that's it, you can't expect the people around you that you have lied to and that have seen you fail so many times to just be all supportive and think this time it's for real. My wife didn't start supporting my quit until two weeks ago when she finally realized quitting is a part of my life now just like taxes and death, you have to live your quit every day Tuna. Keep up the quit!
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Re: Hello. New feller here.
« Reply #7 on: October 01, 2013, 09:27:00 AM »
Quote from: Bigtuna77
Hey thanks guys for the responses. I posted roll on the December 2013 roll call because I cannot find one for January 2014 yet. Am I missing something? I never claimed to be smart.
Anyway I'm on day two and doing pretty good. Isn't nearly as bad as yesterday. Got the kids off to school no problem. Not even a minor blow up. I did have a pretty good melt down yesterday evening. Throwing things and the whole nine yards!! But no one was around so it didn't even count. Kind of like the tree falling in a forest.
So I've been drinking alot of water. Staying real busy doing stuff the wife doesn't feel like doing. She told me yesterday that if I was going to be a dick while trying to quit, to just go ahead and dip!! How's that for support??
Well, that's it for now. Keep me straight if I post something out of line. I have read the welcome pages, but like I said before, my brain is a little soft.
Thanks, Russ
Looks like you're getting the hang of it! I sent you a message yesterday so I hope you got a chance to read it. Here is the link to the Jan 2014 HOF -----Click
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Re: Hello. New feller here.
« Reply #6 on: October 01, 2013, 09:20:00 AM »
Hey thanks guys for the responses. I posted roll on the December 2013 roll call because I cannot find one for January 2014 yet. Am I missing something? I never claimed to be smart.
Anyway I'm on day two and doing pretty good. Isn't nearly as bad as yesterday. Got the kids off to school no problem. Not even a minor blow up. I did have a pretty good melt down yesterday evening. Throwing things and the whole nine yards!! But no one was around so it didn't even count. Kind of like the tree falling in a forest.
So I've been drinking alot of water. Staying real busy doing stuff the wife doesn't feel like doing. She told me yesterday that if I was going to be a dick while trying to quit, to just go ahead and dip!! How's that for support??
Well, that's it for now. Keep me straight if I post something out of line. I have read the welcome pages, but like I said before, my brain is a little soft.
Thanks, Russ

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Re: Hello. New feller here.
« Reply #5 on: September 30, 2013, 03:53:00 PM »
Congrats on a great decision. It is a decision, right? IE- you aren't thinking about not dipping today...you aren't dipping today.
Anyway, for now you don't need any tips or tricks. The only tip or trick we can really offer you now is to read everything in the WELCOME CENTER, as has been suggested. Then decide if you want to jump on board with what we do. That's first. If you decide to post roll, I have literally ONE tip or trick for you to remember , and it works without fail. Here it is: do not put nicotine into your body. You do that, and you'll be quit. Will you follow that advice? That's the only real decision you have to make. Living with a decision not to dip can be a flat out bitch at times. If you decide to post with us, you'll be offered a ton of ways to help you cope successfully with your decision. Heck, our forums are open, so lurk away if you are interested. But, you have to FIRST decide what it means to quit, and if that's what you WILL be.
Be warned, that "sappy" feeling will fade away soon. Everything will soon seem fine, and you'll decide that "maybe after new Year's" will be a better time for this quit thing. Next thing you know, you'll be bawling (not balling, no homo) in Feb about another wasted year, and vow that you haven't lived up to.
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Re: Hello. New feller here.
« Reply #4 on: September 30, 2013, 03:14:00 PM »
Yes you are a big vagina or a big tuna...Just kidding no not going to lie to you it fucking sucks in the beginning. A great piece of advice I got here in the beginning was embrace the suck, as weird as that sounds do it. Know that you are going through this because you are ridding yourself from the nasty poison that has enslaved you so many years. Its a bad relationship where one side just takes and gives nothing. Remember how awful you feel how foggy you feel and know you don't want to go thru this again...NAFAR never again for any reason! It is how it has to be.

Post roll with your group EDD (every damn day) it is the cornerstone of the site. We post roll and give our word for today only that we will not use. wake tomorrow and repeat. We take it ODAAT (one day at a time) around here.

Get numbers from your group and others keep them in your phone these are the tools you will need to fight the bitch. you have to pull the trigger once you do and send out a message you need help 16000 addicts will come running to help you. If you need numbers mine is in your inbox.
Complacency sucks, one moment of it is the difference between being a user and a quitter....OIB

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Re: Hello. New feller here.
« Reply #3 on: September 30, 2013, 02:49:00 PM »
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Hi all.

I just wanted to introduce myself. I'm Russ. 36. From Western Kentucky. So glad I found this site. I started that innocent Hawken brand about 22 years ago, gradually worked my way up to a can a day plus of Kodiak. First thing in my mouth in the morning, last thing out at night. I have tried quitting a half a dozen times, but I believe this time it's for real!! This time I'm angry at myself for having dipped so long. This time I also have my kids to keep me in check. My son asked me ten times yesterday if I was going to quit today. I made him a promise that I would and I AM going to keep. I only wished I had done it as intended when he was born. That way he would never have had to see me fool with that nasty garbage.
With all that being said. I officially quit at 2200 hours, September 29. This morning I have been as emotional as a teenage girl.......just sad at thoughts of my kids growing up so fast and the like. Is this normal or am I just a big vagina? I don't remember it from previous quitting attempts, but the last one one about 5 years ago. I can handle a few mood swings to be finished with this crap!
Thank you all for reading this. I hope to get to know more of you in the near future. Any tips, tricks, advice, or just some cheering on would be appreciated!
Thanks again. Russ.
Welcome, great decision. You are definitely in the right place to quit.

Do What RickDDD said. Read everything in the Welcome Center and learn how to, and why we post roll. It is the foundation of our quit.

You can do better than just "believe this time it is real" You can make it real. It is real. You quit. Go post roll promising to all of us and yourself that you will stay quit today. Just today. Then keep your word.

Tips and tricks.... well brother, I hate to tell you, but there is no easy ride. Have some candy, gum, fake chew, or sunflower seeds handy at all times. Just giving your mouth something to do will help a little. Hydrate like crazy. Exercise. It all helps a little.

Buckle up, enjoy the misery and put it into your memory banks so that you never want to do it again.

Send me a PM and I will shoot you my phone number. Call or text if you are having a rough time of it. IF you wander off the path, I will hunt you down. That is the accountability that this place offers, and keeps us all quit.

Glad to have you here. Glad to be quit with you.

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Re: Hello. New feller here.
« Reply #2 on: September 30, 2013, 02:34:00 PM »
Welcome Russ! and congratulations on making the decision to be quit for good! Your story is similar to most everyone on this site - many failed quits over the years, broken promises to quit when such-and-such happens, etc. You're not alone, my friend.

Yes its normal to be more emotional at this time. You'll most likely have alot of anxiety, irritability, insomnia, some depression, lots of things like that. It is extremely difficult to go thru, not gonna lie. The good news is that it all means your body is healing, and re-balancing itself to life without nicotine.

We quit one day at a time here - ODAAT. We dont worry about quitting forever, because sometimes, thats too much to take on, and doesn't seem do-able. So dont think about quitting forever. Just promise to quit today, all day long. Then do the same thing tomorrow as soon as you wake up.

What we do here is every day, in the morning sometime, we all come here and "post roll". You will post roll with the January 2014 group, because that's when you'll hit 100 days quit, or the Hall of Fame. Posting roll is your promise to not dip that day. I recommend reading the pink "WELCOME CENTER" link near the top left of this page, and learn how to post roll.

The only advice I can give you is this: do whatever it takes to not put dip into your mouth, or nicotine of any kind. Most people use hard candy, gum, spits, and fake/herbal chew to help them thru. Exercise definitely helps with the anxiety and irritability. Whatever it takes. Just find what works for you, and stick with it.
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Hello. New feller here.
« on: September 30, 2013, 02:17:00 PM »
Hi all.

I just wanted to introduce myself. I'm Russ. 36. From Western Kentucky. So glad I found this site. I started that innocent Hawken brand about 22 years ago, gradually worked my way up to a can a day plus of Kodiak. First thing in my mouth in the morning, last thing out at night. I have tried quitting a half a dozen times, but I believe this time it's for real!! This time I'm angry at myself for having dipped so long. This time I also have my kids to keep me in check. My son asked me ten times yesterday if I was going to quit today. I made him a promise that I would and I AM going to keep. I only wished I had done it as intended when he was born. That way he would never have had to see me fool with that nasty garbage.
With all that being said. I officially quit at 2200 hours, September 29. This morning I have been as emotional as a teenage girl.......just sad at thoughts of my kids growing up so fast and the like. Is this normal or am I just a big vagina? I don't remember it from previous quitting attempts, but the last one one about 5 years ago. I can handle a few mood swings to be finished with this crap!
Thank you all for reading this. I hope to get to know more of you in the near future. Any tips, tricks, advice, or just some cheering on would be appreciated!
Thanks again. Russ.