38 Years Down The Drain

[suthern_gntlman]

It is written...

I've come full circle with my quit and achieved what should've been achieved many times over, previously in my life.

I'm so grateful to KTC and the numerous men and women I have met through the course of my quit!

I promise to be a constructive member of this community for the next 100 days and hope that I can be of some help to others, as I progressively take steps to help myself.

If anyone ever needs anything. You can send me a text or email. If you don't have my number, send me a pm and I will reply as soon as I can. If it is an emergency, post your need to get hold of me on July 2016, The Phalanx forum. Just about every person there has my contact information! I'm also available on our group me.

Until then, if you are new to this website and want to know more about me and my quit, you can find my Hall of Fame speech here: A String of Broken Promises

Until then,
God Bless
suthern_gntlman

[worktowin]

... and here it is...

Not to make lite of my initial quit and my former A-Team members of August 2015, but this 100 days has more of an impact on me than 330 days ago.

I'm looking forward to writing my HOF speech. I've given it some thought, typed up a few ideas and hope to put it all together real soon.

I want it to be perfect. I want my words to be able to help someone else in some form or fashion.

I've read a lot of the HOF speeches and there is just so much good stuff out there, I feel my inept words will be ineffectual. I've decided I'm going to approach it like presenting a sermon at church. I've always felt that if you give thoughts and ideas from God's written word, at least one person will gain something from it... even if that person is yourself.

So... I'm going to tell my story, exhume suthern_pre-teen and hopefully two people will be benefited from my story. If not, at least I will!!

Congratulations sir. You've come a long way.

No four letter words today. Hallelujah!!!

[wildirish317]

Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of God.

[suthern_gntlman]

... and here it is...

Not to make lite of my initial quit and my former A-Team members of August 2015, but this 100 days has more of an impact on me than 330 days ago.

I'm looking forward to writing my HOF speech. I've given it some thought, typed up a few ideas and hope to put it all together real soon.

I want it to be perfect. I want my words to be able to help someone else in some form or fashion.

I've read a lot of the HOF speeches and there is just so much good stuff out there, I feel my inept words will be ineffectual. I've decided I'm going to approach it like presenting a sermon at church. I've always felt that if you give thoughts and ideas from God's written word, at least one person will gain something from it... even if that person is yourself.

So... I'm going to tell my story, exhume suthern_pre-teen and hopefully two people will be benefited from my story. If not, at least I will!!

[DjPorkchop]

15 days.
15 days.
15 days.

After tomorrow, just 15 days until i re-hit that blessed HOF 100!

I'm really half excited and half nervous.

The last time I hit 100 days, it was just another day for me to post a day and move on. This time it's different!

The last time I hit 100 days, I could care less about a HOF speech. This time I've been testing the waters of my mind to see what pithy words I can dredge up from the depths to make it interesting, but mostly helpful to someone else.

The last time I hit 100 days, I was already wondering when I could stop posting roll. This time I can't imagine EVER stopping to post roll!!

15 days once the bell tolls midnight... then 14 after that! Bring it on Conductor! 'dance'

suthern_gntlman

I quit with you EDD brother!!! One day at a time. All each one of us has is only 24 hours in a day and that is it. I don't look at 30 days, 20 days or 5. I look at another 24 hours gone even though I add my day count to roll every day.

'arse' 'Finger' Nic bitch can kiss it!!

DjPorkchop - 273

[Stranger999]

15 days.
15 days.
15 days.

After tomorrow, just 15 days until i re-hit that blessed HOF 100!

I'm really half excited and half nervous.

The last time I hit 100 days, it was just another day for me to post a day and move on. This time it's different!

The last time I hit 100 days, I could care less about a HOF speech. This time I've been testing the waters of my mind to see what pithy words I can dredge up from the depths to make it interesting, but mostly helpful to someone else.

The last time I hit 100 days, I was already wondering when I could stop posting roll. This time I can't imagine EVER stopping to post roll!!

15 days once the bell tolls midnight... then 14 after that! Bring it on Conductor! 'dance'

100 days is special because we have a HOF thread here. Think hard about it and post some advice that will help someone who is quitting on a day 1.

The long term quit is about showing up every day. It really pained me to see you drop out of August 15. I connected with ScreamingMonkey and then some other folks from your old group. I hope that you have made more connections here than you did last time.

[suthern_gntlman]

15 days.
15 days.
15 days.

After tomorrow, just 15 days until i re-hit that blessed HOF 100!

I'm really half excited and half nervous.

The last time I hit 100 days, it was just another day for me to post a day and move on. This time it's different!

The last time I hit 100 days, I could care less about a HOF speech. This time I've been testing the waters of my mind to see what pithy words I can dredge up from the depths to make it interesting, but mostly helpful to someone else.

The last time I hit 100 days, I was already wondering when I could stop posting roll. This time I can't imagine EVER stopping to post roll!!

15 days once the bell tolls midnight... then 14 after that! Bring it on Conductor! 'dance'

[worktowin]

worktowin reminded me today, that my quit was not about anyone else but me.

This is a good reminder, for I had thrown myself so much into helping my brothers in July 2016, I could've easily forgotten why I was in there.

Paul told the Philippians to be moderate in all things (Philippians 4:5). 'ash1'

This is probably one of my biggest weaknesses. I have always been a person of extremes. I know I shouldn't, but I am.

Learning how to be moderate is a difficult process. Addiction is all about excesses and I'm an addict. I have an addictive personality.

I'm going to continue my efforts to be moderate in all things, but I'm not going to back off from helping The Phalanx. 'jedisith'

Worktowin, even though your words are wise, what you don't know about me, is my lifelong desire to help others. Helping my brothers that stand shoulder to shoulder with me against the NIC, is about me. If I'm not putting forth an effort to help other people, I'm going backwards. I feel lost and wayward, it's just a part of my personality. Whether it is the person that dropped something in the store, a family who has ran out of gas, or a brother in KTC that is struggling with the craves, I've got to try and help or I'm not suthern_gntlman. Thanks for giving me something to think about and helping me, again, evaluate my quit and what it means to me!! 'worship'

I quit with you, and so does all of July suthern_gntlmn!! together we can do this!

Helping others is s great thing, make no mistake.

One of the recurring themes among addicts on this site is that we are all in on whatever we do. When we work, we work to win. When we play, we play hard. When we are in competitive eating contests, we eat 30 hamburgers. It just is how many of us are wired.

Helping others helps yourself. It is the invisible hand theory by the great economist Adam Smith. But... When the focus is on helping others, you leave a door open for failure. Here is an example... You are at the grocery store and see a woman with 3 kids and only enough cash to pay for most of her groceries, and she is trying to figure out what to put back. You give her $20. This makes you feel so good that you stand next to the register all day handing out $20 bills. Man you feel great at the end of the day! But then you realize your credit cards are maxed out and you are gonna have to sell plasma and deliver pizzas to make the car payment.

Quitting here is the same. Throwing all of your energy at the group is helpful, but kind of dangerous. It has happened here over and over. Groups have drama. After HOF a lot of people Ditch and then cave and come back to post another day 1. If your focus is keeping the herd together, you are missing a chance to grow personally and leaving a chance to be disappointed by something you can't control. Help others, but help yourself. Don't run up your credit cards buying me a filet mignon!

[jayperks]

worktowin reminded me today, that my quit was not about anyone else but me.

This is a good reminder, for I had thrown myself so much into helping my brothers in July 2016, I could've easily forgotten why I was in there.

Paul told the Philippians to be moderate in all things (Philippians 4:5). 'ash1'

This is probably one of my biggest weaknesses. I have always been a person of extremes. I know I shouldn't, but I am.

Learning how to be moderate is a difficult process. Addiction is all about excesses and I'm an addict. I have an addictive personality.

I'm going to continue my efforts to be moderate in all things, but I'm not going to back off from helping The Phalanx. 'jedisith'

Worktowin, even though your words are wise, what you don't know about me, is my lifelong desire to help others. Helping my brothers that stand shoulder to shoulder with me against the NIC, is about me. If I'm not putting forth an effort to help other people, I'm going backwards. I feel lost and wayward, it's just a part of my personality. Whether it is the person that dropped something in the store, a family who has ran out of gas, or a brother in KTC that is struggling with the craves, I've got to try and help or I'm not suthern_gntlman. Thanks for giving me something to think about and helping me, again, evaluate my quit and what it means to me!! 'worship'

I quit with you, and so does all of July suthern_gntlmn!! together we can do this!

[suthern_gntlman]

worktowin reminded me today, that my quit was not about anyone else but me.

This is a good reminder, for I had thrown myself so much into helping my brothers in July 2016, I could've easily forgotten why I was in there.

Paul told the Philippians to be moderate in all things (Philippians 4:5). 'ash1'

This is probably one of my biggest weaknesses. I have always been a person of extremes. I know I shouldn't, but I am.

Learning how to be moderate is a difficult process. Addiction is all about excesses and I'm an addict. I have an addictive personality.

I'm going to continue my efforts to be moderate in all things, but I'm not going to back off from helping The Phalanx. 'jedisith'

Worktowin, even though your words are wise, what you don't know about me, is my lifelong desire to help others. Helping my brothers that stand shoulder to shoulder with me against the NIC, is about me. If I'm not putting forth an effort to help other people, I'm going backwards. I feel lost and wayward, it's just a part of my personality. Whether it is the person that dropped something in the store, a family who has ran out of gas, or a brother in KTC that is struggling with the craves, I've got to try and help or I'm not suthern_gntlman. Thanks for giving me something to think about and helping me, again, evaluate my quit and what it means to me!! 'worship'

[Rawls]

I've been thinking about this... maybe what we should be doing is finding ways to improve others lives, even if we fill like crap!

Has a Christian... (Christ) ring too it!
Im in.
Quit with you today suthern.
Keep pushing the big peddle on the right!
ALL DAY LONG.

[suthern_gntlman]

Today was tough.

I ended up eating, practically all day and I'm going to end up weighing 400 pounds!

Since my cave was a one time dip that lasted just a couple of hours, I really didn't expect to go through some of the heavier cravings I had at 14 days my first go around. It almost caught me of guard, but I made it through.

Talking with future about his "future" and how to succeed in his quit helped also. There is nothing more healing than helping someone else!

I've been thinking about this... maybe what we should be doing is finding ways to improve others lives, even if we fill like crap!

Putting a smile on someone else's face always takes my mind of of my own problems. Dollars to donuts, it will yours to!!

[rdad]

I'm confused by what you mean by looking at a half roll of Cope.

One of my guys at work bought a half roll and left it out on the table in the kitchen. Every time I walked by, there it was...

I expressed my consternation and he finally did something with it.. (I almost threw it away!!)

10-4 Bro! I was afraid it was some stupid test you were putting yourself through.
As for July, I don't know what to tell you. You have some questionable retreads in there. I would set a personal goal to be the last man standing and hope for others in your group to be trying to do the same. I, for one, am pulling for you. You came back after your cave with some humility. Unlike others I have seen lately. Stay strong! Stay Quit!

[Can_I_Kick_It?]

Oh the drama... 'jedisith'

Maybe The A-Team of August 2015 'mrt' was just a quiet group, but I don't know if I have ever seen so much drama than what we have going on in July 2016. Sometimes I feel like I'm back in HS.

It's all good though, for you know what? It's a process. We have 16 some odd members now and most of them look like they really get it. I just hope we can stay involved with each other and continue to grow with each other. 'worship'

As all of the newbies read the stories and the frustrations of the cavers (of which I am admittedly one) that are posting days 1; hopefully they will realize the seriousness of the hated NIC! 'bangin'

This is not a game. It is life or death and if I don't overcome, I will die sucking on a dip instead of die craving one... 'chain'

Day 13! Moving on as a quitter!

Get that "if" out of your thoughts, my brother.

There is no "if I don't overcome" in a quitters lexicon. Don't let Nic slip that in there.

[suthern_gntlman]

Oh the drama... 'jedisith'

Maybe The A-Team of August 2015 'mrt' was just a quiet group, but I don't know if I have ever seen so much drama than what we have going on in July 2016. Sometimes I feel like I'm back in HS.

It's all good though, for you know what? It's a process. We have 16 some odd members now and most of them look like they really get it. I just hope we can stay involved with each other and continue to grow with each other. 'worship'

As all of the newbies read the stories and the frustrations of the cavers (of which I am admittedly one) that are posting days 1; hopefully they will realize the seriousness of the hated NIC! 'bangin'

This is not a game. It is life or death and if I don't overcome, I will die sucking on a dip instead of die craving one... 'chain'

Day 13! Moving on as a quitter!