Day 9.

[Souliman]

Well.... I'm quitting because I want to be there for my daughter and wife. I'm not just refering to cancer. I was a smoker when my wife and I started dating... Then we got engaged and we said we would quit. Well, that lasted for a little while for me. Then, I started up again. She got upset. So I *said* I would quit again. It ended up being a lie. I just told her I quit. After being caught in this idiotic lie, numerous times (not just once), I put the cigs down and never have gone back.

So, a year or two later we moved and I started my career. There are a lot of people in my dept. that dip. So naturally, as an addict, I tried it. The same situation that happened before started alllllllll over again. Nicotine and I are destroying my marriage... So I'm eliminating the nicotine. I need to restore trust in my marriage.

I'm lucky she's still around.

BE COMPLEATLY HONEST WITH HER. SHOW HER THIS SITE. SHOW HER THAT YOU MEAN WHAT YOU SAY. SHOW HER EVERY DAY ONE DAY AT A TIME. SHE WILL BEGIN TO HAVE THAT TRUST AGAIN. JUST LIKE YOUR QUIT DID NOT HAPPEN OVER NIGHT NEITHER WILL HER TRUST BE RESTORED OVER NIGHT. SHE NEEDS TO SEE IN YOUR ACTIONS THAT YOU ARE A MAN OF YOUR WORD. YOU DONT HAVE TO THROW IT IN HER FACE EVERY DAY. I TO HAVE HAD TO RESTORE SOME TRUST FROM MY WIFE. 55 DAYS INTO MY QUIT I CAN TELL YOU THAT I LOVE MY WIFE MORE THAN EVER AND I KNOW SHE HAS MY BACK MORE THAN EVER. SIMPLY BECAUSE I WAS HONEST AND SHOWED HER DAY BY DAY. I JUST SIMPLY GET UP DO MY THING AND WISPER TO HER BABE ITS DAY ?? GIVE HER A KISS AND HEAD OFF TO WORK. I DONT KNOW YOU OR YOUR SITUATION BUT MAYBE THIS WILL HELP.

I agree, 100%!! For 32 years I had been lieing to my sweetheart. I had been caught a number of times but always had a lame ass excuses or promise. The morning of my day 1 when she got up I spilled the whole situation out to her and told her that there were no more lies and I needed her help and support. I showed her the site, had her read the spousal support info, the what to expect and asked her to let me earn her trust. For the first 70 - 80 days I reminded her of the day I was on and the feelings I had been dealing with. If I didn't tell her she would ask. Gradually I noticed she was trusting me, she quit asking if I'd be ok in certain situations. She knew I would be! She only has to ask if I have posted roll. Today if I were to cave, which I won't, I couldn't tell her a lie or any of you addicts! Not only have I quit but I've gained some pride and self worth. I was even more disappointed in my failures than my wife was, what she hated was the lies. She has been my strength, not my motivation. Every time I used her or my daughter for motivation I failed. Now that I've reached several milestones my motivation has changed and includes her, my daughter and my 2 wonderful grandkids.

I'll second that.

This place is real. Connect it to your world out there by letting folks know the truth. Own it brother. Connect what's in your head to what's in this world. It will solidify your quit.

[Wt57]

Well.... I'm quitting because I want to be there for my daughter and wife. I'm not just refering to cancer. I was a smoker when my wife and I started dating... Then we got engaged and we said we would quit. Well, that lasted for a little while for me. Then, I started up again. She got upset. So I *said* I would quit again. It ended up being a lie. I just told her I quit. After being caught in this idiotic lie, numerous times (not just once), I put the cigs down and never have gone back.

So, a year or two later we moved and I started my career. There are a lot of people in my dept. that dip. So naturally, as an addict, I tried it. The same situation that happened before started alllllllll over again. Nicotine and I are destroying my marriage... So I'm eliminating the nicotine. I need to restore trust in my marriage.

I'm lucky she's still around.

BE COMPLEATLY HONEST WITH HER. SHOW HER THIS SITE. SHOW HER THAT YOU MEAN WHAT YOU SAY. SHOW HER EVERY DAY ONE DAY AT A TIME. SHE WILL BEGIN TO HAVE THAT TRUST AGAIN. JUST LIKE YOUR QUIT DID NOT HAPPEN OVER NIGHT NEITHER WILL HER TRUST BE RESTORED OVER NIGHT. SHE NEEDS TO SEE IN YOUR ACTIONS THAT YOU ARE A MAN OF YOUR WORD. YOU DONT HAVE TO THROW IT IN HER FACE EVERY DAY. I TO HAVE HAD TO RESTORE SOME TRUST FROM MY WIFE. 55 DAYS INTO MY QUIT I CAN TELL YOU THAT I LOVE MY WIFE MORE THAN EVER AND I KNOW SHE HAS MY BACK MORE THAN EVER. SIMPLY BECAUSE I WAS HONEST AND SHOWED HER DAY BY DAY. I JUST SIMPLY GET UP DO MY THING AND WISPER TO HER BABE ITS DAY ?? GIVE HER A KISS AND HEAD OFF TO WORK. I DONT KNOW YOU OR YOUR SITUATION BUT MAYBE THIS WILL HELP.

I agree, 100%!! For 32 years I had been lieing to my sweetheart. I had been caught a number of times but always had a lame ass excuses or promise. The morning of my day 1 when she got up I spilled the whole situation out to her and told her that there were no more lies and I needed her help and support. I showed her the site, had her read the spousal support info, the what to expect and asked her to let me earn her trust. For the first 70 - 80 days I reminded her of the day I was on and the feelings I had been dealing with. If I didn't tell her she would ask. Gradually I noticed she was trusting me, she quit asking if I'd be ok in certain situations. She knew I would be! She only has to ask if I have posted roll. Today if I were to cave, which I won't, I couldn't tell her a lie or any of you addicts! Not only have I quit but I've gained some pride and self worth. I was even more disappointed in my failures than my wife was, what she hated was the lies. She has been my strength, not my motivation. Every time I used her or my daughter for motivation I failed. Now that I've reached several milestones my motivation has changed and includes her, my daughter and my 2 wonderful grandkids.

[cdaniels]

Well.... I'm quitting because I want to be there for my daughter and wife. I'm not just refering to cancer. I was a smoker when my wife and I started dating... Then we got engaged and we said we would quit. Well, that lasted for a little while for me. Then, I started up again. She got upset. So I *said* I would quit again. It ended up being a lie. I just told her I quit. After being caught in this idiotic lie, numerous times (not just once), I put the cigs down and never have gone back.

So, a year or two later we moved and I started my career. There are a lot of people in my dept. that dip. So naturally, as an addict, I tried it. The same situation that happened before started alllllllll over again. Nicotine and I are destroying my marriage... So I'm eliminating the nicotine. I need to restore trust in my marriage.

I'm lucky she's still around.

BE COMPLEATLY HONEST WITH HER. SHOW HER THIS SITE. SHOW HER THAT YOU MEAN WHAT YOU SAY. SHOW HER EVERY DAY ONE DAY AT A TIME. SHE WILL BEGIN TO HAVE THAT TRUST AGAIN. JUST LIKE YOUR QUIT DID NOT HAPPEN OVER NIGHT NEITHER WILL HER TRUST BE RESTORED OVER NIGHT. SHE NEEDS TO SEE IN YOUR ACTIONS THAT YOU ARE A MAN OF YOUR WORD. YOU DONT HAVE TO THROW IT IN HER FACE EVERY DAY. I TO HAVE HAD TO RESTORE SOME TRUST FROM MY WIFE. 55 DAYS INTO MY QUIT I CAN TELL YOU THAT I LOVE MY WIFE MORE THAN EVER AND I KNOW SHE HAS MY BACK MORE THAN EVER. SIMPLY BECAUSE I WAS HONEST AND SHOWED HER DAY BY DAY. I JUST SIMPLY GET UP DO MY THING AND WISPER TO HER BABE ITS DAY ?? GIVE HER A KISS AND HEAD OFF TO WORK. I DONT KNOW YOU OR YOUR SITUATION BUT MAYBE THIS WILL HELP.

[DanOnFire]

Well.... I'm quitting because I want to be there for my daughter and wife. I'm not just refering to cancer. I was a smoker when my wife and I started dating... Then we got engaged and we said we would quit. Well, that lasted for a little while for me. Then, I started up again. She got upset. So I *said* I would quit again. It ended up being a lie. I just told her I quit. After being caught in this idiotic lie, numerous times (not just once), I put the cigs down and never have gone back.

So, a year or two later we moved and I started my career. There are a lot of people in my dept. that dip. So naturally, as an addict, I tried it. The same situation that happened before started alllllllll over again. Nicotine and I are destroying my marriage... So I'm eliminating the nicotine. I need to restore trust in my marriage.

I'm lucky she's still around.

[neverShouldaStarted]

I just quit on New Years... again. Did it last year too.

Nope. You've never quit before. You took short breaks in a relentless cycle. I did the same thing before I QUIT 849 days ago. See the difference?

So, the question is...........

Are you quit this time? **hint: there is only one correct answer here**

So true... All I did was put myself through hell for no reason a few weeks at a time. Its real this time. I don't want to go through it again...

I am more curious why you are quitting. Is the reason the same today as it was last year?

Is there any difference in reasons from then til now?

I am sure you are but we have to get you mentally ready for the ball cinderella.

Its Crazy as shit here. 303 days quit for me.

So, So glad I am undefeated with the nic bitch!!!!!

Seriously, Im a newb at quitting, 13 days today. My biggest thing is after the physical withdrawl, I cant fathom what would possibly make me do something that would even potentially make me go through that again.

Believe me I tried to quit before, but I never got through the physical withdrawl, I seriously barely made it 24-48 hrs. Now that I feel the freedom beyond that 72 hour mark? Never again! and fucking FUCK CANCER.

I mean its not even hell at 13 days so I dont understand the "hell a few weeks at a time" its just occational annoyance now. The 3-4 physical withdrawl shit was hell, this shit now is just cumming on the addiction you already fucked. Sorry if that was too crass.

[Mthomas3824]

I just quit on New Years... again. Did it last year too.

Nope. You've never quit before. You took short breaks in a relentless cycle. I did the same thing before I QUIT 849 days ago. See the difference?

So, the question is...........

Are you quit this time? **hint: there is only one correct answer here**

So true... All I did was put myself through hell for no reason a few weeks at a time. Its real this time. I don't want to go through it again...

I am more curious why you are quitting. Is the reason the same today as it was last year?

Is there any difference in reasons from then til now?

I am sure you are but we have to get you mentally ready for the ball cinderella.

Its Crazy as shit here. 303 days quit for me.

So, So glad I am undefeated with the nic bitch!!!!!

[DanOnFire]

I just quit on New Years... again. Did it last year too.

Nope. You've never quit before. You took short breaks in a relentless cycle. I did the same thing before I QUIT 849 days ago. See the difference?

So, the question is...........

Are you quit this time? **hint: there is only one correct answer here**

So true... All I did was put myself through hell for no reason a few weeks at a time. Its real this time. I don't want to go through it again...

[Radman]

I just quit on New Years... again. Did it last year too.

Nope. You've never quit before. You took short breaks in a relentless cycle. I did the same thing before I QUIT 849 days ago. See the difference?

So, the question is...........

Are you quit this time? **hint: there is only one correct answer here**

[SirDerek]

Welcome Dan,

Yes alot make New Years Resolutions, and most fail, some succeed. Well with you finding this site, you now have the place and tools that will help you succeed.

As WT says the posting roll and pledge is the first key in helping to keep you quit.

You are starting to go through the usualls that we all have.

Make this year different and make that resolution each day as you post up here and use the tools that are taught on this site.

I quit with you today and that is my word to you. Will you give me the same in your word?

[916quit]

Dan welcome! You are on fire! I trust you won't ever wanna redo the past nine days so reach down and keep moving forward. Whoever told you it will get better is 1000% correct!
You got this!
Go post in April 2013 group. Lots of guys over there going through the same point on their quit as you.
Keep that fire burning and stay quit!

[loot]

I'm Dan. I just quit on New Years... again. Did it last year too. It's a fucking nightmare though. Weird ass dreams. Eating everything I see. Getting pissed at stupid shit. I'm just a peach to be around. Everyone saying "it'll be better" makes it go away though 'bang head' .... Im tired of depending on this shit.

If you are clean...you no longer are dependent on it bro. You are free. Free from all the shit you hate about it. That's the good news.

The bad news is you will pay for your freedom. It will not be a monetary cost, we all wish it were that easy.

The other good news is you are not alone. We will help you. We've all been in that hole. We have the rope to throw you. Question is...you gonna grab it life your life depends on it?

[KC Bronco]

Dan what you are going through is normal. We've all gone through it or are going through it. Yep I quit every new year, birthday, anniversary etc. for 40 years. Go to the quit groups, find April 2013 HOF group and post roll! Posting roll is a key to succeeding. It is a promise, you are committing to a bunch of other quitters that you will like them keep nicotine out of your system for today! Some people get it and show up daily and succeed others post intermittently and gradually fade away and leave everyone questioning if they are still quit. (We aren't fooled we are addicts and know they probably gave in). Taking a few minutes each day to make a simple promise is a very small sacrifice to be free. Dan I said posting roll is A key or tool, another even more important tool is; your personal commitment and true desire to finally tell nicotine to fuck off and get out of your life!!!! Dan I've posted roll 284 consecutive days (a short time but awesome for me) pm me if I can help you. Your success will depend on you! How fully you take advantage of the tools presented at your feet here. Reach out and take advantage of everything.

HI Dan. Welcome. If I can do it...anyone can do it...YOU can do it. 25 fucking years being a slave to the bear. I couldn't have done it without my brothers of Kill The Can. Get signed in an post roll every day. You will meet some awesome people here. I'm 39 days quit and still a newbie with lots to learn.

It's quite simple here...."Hope is for pussies.....Real men Quit!" You can do it.

KC Bronco

[Wt57]

Dan what you are going through is normal. We've all gone through it or are going through it. Yep I quit every new year, birthday, anniversary etc. for 40 years. Go to the quit groups, find April 2013 HOF group and post roll! Posting roll is a key to succeeding. It is a promise, you are committing to a bunch of other quitters that you will like them keep nicotine out of your system for today! Some people get it and show up daily and succeed others post intermittently and gradually fade away and leave everyone questioning if they are still quit. (We aren't fooled we are addicts and know they probably gave in). Taking a few minutes each day to make a simple promise is a very small sacrifice to be free. Dan I said posting roll is A key or tool, another even more important tool is; your personal commitment and true desire to finally tell nicotine to fuck off and get out of your life!!!! Dan I've posted roll 284 consecutive days (a short time compared to 14000+ days of using but awesome for me) pm me if I can help you. Your success will depend on you! How fully you take advantage of the tools presented at your feet here. Reach out and take advantage of everything.

[DanOnFire]

I'm Dan. I just quit on New Years... again. Did it last year too. It's a fucking nightmare though. Weird ass dreams. Eating everything I see. Getting pissed at stupid shit. I'm just a peach to be around. Everyone saying "it'll be better" makes it go away though 'bang head' .... Im tired of depending on this shit.