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Re: Hiya Folks
« Reply #23 on: July 12, 2016, 01:05:00 PM »
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Day 2 was harder than day 1, and so far day 3 is shaping up to be harder than day 2.

Almost threw in the towel this morning and went to buy a can of Cope, but I didn't.

Sitting at my desk spitting seeds.

Bigg's dill pickle seeds, you (general, collective "you") ought to try them.

Wife is starting to get tired of the anxiety, short temper, whatnot.

She told me this morning that all of that isn't worth having me quit and to go to the store and buy a tin.

I didn't, but so much for a fucking support system.

We're having a party for my four-year-old's birthday on Saturday and if things don't get better by then I'm going to have to do something because I'm NOT behaving the way that I've been behaving for the past day and a half when I've got a house full of strangers and their kids.

We'll see how it goes though. I might be fine by Saturday and not have anything to worry about.
Dude...

You pro'ly don't even realize how many times in the above statement that you've set in motion excuses for you to give up and cave.

C'mon... don't be that guy... again.

You've come this far and THAT is badass. You're right on the edge of your body being free of nicotine. Use that victory as momentum to get through the next moment.

You're winning... it's not an easy win but you're doing it. You.

This is all part of you healing... relish it. Freedom comes at a price and this is it. Don't devalue yourself and fall back into slavery.

Be free...
^^^^^ great advice. Ever been outside during a storm when it is raining super hard. And you can't believe how bad the storm is. But then it clears up quickly and the rest of the day turns outpretty nice. If you're asked a few days later you don't remember it being so bad? That's sort of what quitting is like...only you are in the middle of the rain storm and we are all commenting after the rain has past. If quitting stayed as hard as you're having it now for the rest of your life, none of us would be quit. But because we all know the rain will pass we know things will get easier. Stick with this, regardless of what your wife thinks. You will be in the sunshine soon enough

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Re: Hiya Folks
« Reply #22 on: July 12, 2016, 11:50:00 AM »
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Day 2 was harder than day 1, and so far day 3 is shaping up to be harder than day 2.

Almost threw in the towel this morning and went to buy a can of Cope, but I didn't.

Sitting at my desk spitting seeds.

Bigg's dill pickle seeds, you (general, collective "you") ought to try them.

Wife is starting to get tired of the anxiety, short temper, whatnot.

She told me this morning that all of that isn't worth having me quit and to go to the store and buy a tin.

I didn't, but so much for a fucking support system.

We're having a party for my four-year-old's birthday on Saturday and if things don't get better by then I'm going to have to do something because I'm NOT behaving the way that I've been behaving for the past day and a half when I've got a house full of strangers and their kids.

We'll see how it goes though. I might be fine by Saturday and not have anything to worry about.
Dude...

You pro'ly don't even realize how many times in the above statement that you've set in motion excuses for you to give up and cave.

C'mon... don't be that guy... again.

You've come this far and THAT is badass. You're right on the edge of your body being free of nicotine. Use that victory as momentum to get through the next moment.

You're winning... it's not an easy win but you're doing it. You.

This is all part of you healing... relish it. Freedom comes at a price and this is it. Don't devalue yourself and fall back into slavery.

Be free...
Well, it’s one louder, isn’t it? It’s not ten.

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Re: Hiya Folks
« Reply #21 on: July 12, 2016, 11:38:00 AM »
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Day 2 was harder than day 1, and so far day 3 is shaping up to be harder than day 2.

Almost threw in the towel this morning and went to buy a can of Cope, but I didn't.

Sitting at my desk spitting seeds.

Bigg's dill pickle seeds, you (general, collective "you") ought to try them.

Wife is starting to get tired of the anxiety, short temper, whatnot.

She told me this morning that all of that isn't worth having me quit and to go to the store and buy a tin.

I didn't, but so much for a fucking support system.

We're having a party for my four-year-old's birthday on Saturday and if things don't get better by then I'm going to have to do something because I'm NOT behaving the way that I've been behaving for the past day and a half when I've got a house full of strangers and their kids.

We'll see how it goes though. I might be fine by Saturday and not have anything to worry about.
Think about this. Do you really want to go back to dip because you are an asshole when you're not dipping? Were you an asshole before you ever started dipping? Is that why you started dipping? Did someone come up to you and say "Try this, it will calm you and give you patience." No, they didn't.

I'm going through the same thing. It takes 2-5 years to get to "normal", whatever "normal" is. I want to experience it, but I can't quit for 2-5 years. I can only quit for today. If I string enough today's together, I'll get there, and beyond. Hey, I've got 139 todays today. That's better than this time last year.

Just know that quitting and withdrawal will make you anxious and short tempered. Know that you will have to learn to deal with it. Catch yourself getting angry. Stop yourself. Find your happy place.

Check out the links in my signature. There's a ton of help out there for what ails you, and it's not nicotine.
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Re: Hiya Folks
« Reply #20 on: July 12, 2016, 10:18:00 AM »
Day 2 was harder than day 1, and so far day 3 is shaping up to be harder than day 2.

Almost threw in the towel this morning and went to buy a can of Cope, but I didn't.

Sitting at my desk spitting seeds.

Bigg's dill pickle seeds, you (general, collective "you") ought to try them.

Wife is starting to get tired of the anxiety, short temper, whatnot.

She told me this morning that all of that isn't worth having me quit and to go to the store and buy a tin.

I didn't, but so much for a fucking support system.

We're having a party for my four-year-old's birthday on Saturday and if things don't get better by then I'm going to have to do something because I'm NOT behaving the way that I've been behaving for the past day and a half when I've got a house full of strangers and their kids.

We'll see how it goes though. I might be fine by Saturday and not have anything to worry about.

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Re: Hiya Folks
« Reply #19 on: July 11, 2016, 11:39:00 PM »
Thanks for proving me wrong. You see, so many people talk the talk but never come back and walk the walk! Thanks Damn proud to be quit with you!
Tobacco is so addictive it took me a year after a massive heart attack, in which doctor confirmed caused from dipping to finally put a lid on the bitch! ODAAT EDD

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Re: Hiya Folks
« Reply #18 on: July 11, 2016, 11:51:00 AM »
It gets better, I promise. Spend as much time on this website as you can. Explore it. It has enough to offer to keep your mind off your cravings for 100 days or more.
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Re: Hiya Folks
« Reply #17 on: July 11, 2016, 09:52:00 AM »
Morning guys.

Yeah, yesterday was ROUGH.

From the looks of things so far, today isn't going to go a heck of a lot smoother.

At least I was able to pull it together to post roll properly AND in the morning today.

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Re: Hiya Folks
« Reply #16 on: July 11, 2016, 07:40:00 AM »
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Nice roll post last night Dan! I am so happy to be wrong. Post up again today with us brother!
Remember this sir... You'll never have to relive day 1 again! You've got this!

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Re: Hiya Folks
« Reply #15 on: July 11, 2016, 07:01:00 AM »
Nice roll post last night Dan! I am so happy to be wrong. Post up again today with us brother!
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Re: Hiya Folks
« Reply #14 on: July 10, 2016, 10:51:00 PM »
Soot. I relate to your story. All the calculations. All the planning. I did it too. Until I just quit, threw the stuff away. No ween, just cold turkey. Don't delay your freedom longer. You can do this. You must do it for yourself. Start now.

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Re: Hiya Folks
« Reply #13 on: July 10, 2016, 06:46:00 PM »
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Hi everyone.

My name is Dan.

I started dipping in the Fall of 1990 during Army basic training (OSUT). I began with wintergreen Skoal but within six months was was dipping a can or two of Cope a day.

That habit has lasted on and off for 26 years (mostly "on", though I've made half-hearted attempts to quit in the past I've never gone more than a day or two totally nicotine free).

I've kinda been trying to quit for the past year using cigars, the patch, and/or nicotine gum as "replacement therapy", always with a well-established plan to ween myself off it according to some schedule or another.

Yeah, that's never really worked out.

After a month, a few weeks, a couple of days, I was back to Cope and would be on it for a few weeks or months before I'd make another attempt.

I hide it from everyone (dip in my top lip and swallow so nobody knows it's there), lie to my wife and kids about it, sneak it whenever I can, try to mask the smell by constantly drinking coffee - whatever it takes.

And I'm tired of it.

Tired of lying, tired of hiding it, tired of being enslaved to it, tired of the expense, tired of the health risks.

My most recent "quit" began last weekend with patches and gum.

It lasted maybe three days.

I was hiding it today and the wife caught me.

Even though we just blew another $100 on patches and gum just the other day.

Even after she put together an elaborate Excel spreadsheet outlining the weening off process, which she'd worked on for hours.

Even after having told her, the dozen times she's asked me over the past week how it was going, "Going great, sticking to the plan".

Well, "the plan" doesn't work for me.

It seems that if I have it in my system, in any amount, in any form, I have absolutely no control over the fact that sooner or later I will be going back to Cope.

So beginning tomorrow morning, from the moment I wake up, I'm going to try to kick cold turkey for the first time.

I'd appreciate any help and support y'all could provide.

My first question is, where do I go next? I know that there are quit-date based groups where I can post a "roll call", but for the life of me I can't find the one I should be in.

Thanks.




So beginning tomorrow morning, from the moment I wake up, I'm going to try to kick cold turkey for the first time.

Well let's see guessing tomorrow may be a better day for you! Quit wasting are time and yours until your balls drop! Damn....... just........ Damn!
Email sent, Pabo....we'll see.

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Re: Hiya Folks
« Reply #12 on: July 10, 2016, 06:30:00 PM »
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Hi everyone.

My name is Dan.

I started dipping in the Fall of 1990 during Army basic training (OSUT). I began with wintergreen Skoal but within six months was was dipping a can or two of Cope a day.

That habit has lasted on and off for 26 years (mostly "on", though I've made half-hearted attempts to quit in the past I've never gone more than a day or two totally nicotine free).

I've kinda been trying to quit for the past year using cigars, the patch, and/or nicotine gum as "replacement therapy", always with a well-established plan to ween myself off it according to some schedule or another.

Yeah, that's never really worked out.

After a month, a few weeks, a couple of days, I was back to Cope and would be on it for a few weeks or months before I'd make another attempt.

I hide it from everyone (dip in my top lip and swallow so nobody knows it's there), lie to my wife and kids about it, sneak it whenever I can, try to mask the smell by constantly drinking coffee - whatever it takes.

And I'm tired of it.

Tired of lying, tired of hiding it, tired of being enslaved to it, tired of the expense, tired of the health risks.

My most recent "quit" began last weekend with patches and gum.

It lasted maybe three days.

I was hiding it today and the wife caught me.

Even though we just blew another $100 on patches and gum just the other day.

Even after she put together an elaborate Excel spreadsheet outlining the weening off process, which she'd worked on for hours.

Even after having told her, the dozen times she's asked me over the past week how it was going, "Going great, sticking to the plan".

Well, "the plan" doesn't work for me.

It seems that if I have it in my system, in any amount, in any form, I have absolutely no control over the fact that sooner or later I will be going back to Cope.

So beginning tomorrow morning, from the moment I wake up, I'm going to try to kick cold turkey for the first time.

I'd appreciate any help and support y'all could provide.

My first question is, where do I go next? I know that there are quit-date based groups where I can post a "roll call", but for the life of me I can't find the one I should be in.

Thanks.




So beginning tomorrow morning, from the moment I wake up, I'm going to try to kick cold turkey for the first time.

Well let's see guessing tomorrow may be a better day for you! Quit wasting are time and yours until your balls drop! Damn....... just........ Damn!
Tobacco is so addictive it took me a year after a massive heart attack, in which doctor confirmed caused from dipping to finally put a lid on the bitch! ODAAT EDD

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Re: Hiya Folks
« Reply #11 on: July 10, 2016, 01:58:00 PM »
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Dan I assume you are quit now....considering it's the morning and all. First thing, flush any remaining dip down the toilet. 2nd. Read what you've wrote above as often as you can. It's the cries of an addict who needs help. That is the bed you made...you are an addict, from now until the day you die....don't try to lie about it or sugar coat it, just accept it. Believe me when I tell you your addicted self is going to come up with hundreds of reasons why you should dip over the coming days, and a lot of them are going to seem logical...but in reality all those reasons are bullshit. Dip does nothing for you. Which brings us to 3rd step. Post roll here. Instructions on how to do it were provided by someone in a link above. A roll post is a promise to quit for one day. You make that promise to us everyday, and we also make the same promise to you. Seems useless right? That roll post, and the accountability it added, was the difference for the thousands of us who have used this site to quit....really and truly quit. You can do this. Good luck.
Tomorrow.

How many times did we plan to quit tomorrow?

The great thing about this site is that there isn't one lie that you can tell that we haven't told before, to ourselves or to others, to maintain the level of nicotine in our bloodstream. Not one. We've dug through the trash to re-dip. We've made up lies on vacation to get away and frantically drive to store after store in desperation. We've hidden cans under our big giant ballsack so the it wouldn't show through a jeans pocket. There is no lie or excuse we don't know. Because we are you.

Except we quit. We post our promise. We keep our word. We lean on, encourage, celebrate, and call bullshit on each other when it is appropriate. And we are free.

If we can do this, you can too. You have to take the first step. The first step isn't nic replacement. It isn't making a plan. It isn't measuring out and cutting back. The first step is to say... Fuck this I AM DONE!!!! Throw all nicotine out. Every bit of it. And post your promise. That's it. Is it scary? Yes. Is it hard? Hardest thing I've ever done. Will it hurt? Yes. Will it kill you? No. In almost 1,300 days here, with 10,000 members joining, have I seen a single one say.... Man I wish I hadn't quit? No. How about... Caving is the best thing I've ever done! No.

But I have seen thousands of "this is the best thing I've ever done for me". And "I feel so much younger and better." "Im a better husband/father..."

Freedom isn't for everyone. Altria has to pay for those jets somehow. I'm not paying any more! Hope you join us.

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Re: Hiya Folks
« Reply #10 on: July 10, 2016, 12:33:00 PM »
'Popcorn'

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Re: Hiya Folks
« Reply #9 on: July 10, 2016, 08:39:00 AM »
Welcome Soot! Looks like you've learned that weaning down doesn't work. Don't worry, it's not just you. Weaning down, nicotine gum/ patches, it's all hogwash. Cold turkey washes the poison out of your system in three days and then the work begins.

Have the right mindset, post roll early every day and connect with your group. Exchange numbers and use them. This site works if you use it. Thousands have successfully broken free here. You're strong enough to do it and we're here to help you find the right path.

Good for you man, get this done! Hit me up if you need anything.