Last night was the first time I was around someone who dipped since my quit. Buddy of mine who I actually gave his first chew probably 10 or 15 years ago. He had a big dip in the whole night. I am ashamed i did not want to tell him i quit WTF? In the back of my mind i thought ill have a dip with him again someday just like old times. Tough night I avoided the topic did not talk to him about dip at all. Did not feel strong enough to fight off the bitch if I got too close. So on one hand I'm clean day 27 is done. Other hand my guy is still chewing from my influence. I need the strength to fight off the bitch and tell my friend proudly I am quit. Any vets or anyone have any similar stories?
I can relate. Its tough. You did right to stay away if that's what you felt most comfortable with .
Early on you have to be selfish with your quit. Whatever it takes to keep da shit, out your lip. If it means staying clear of your buddy one night. So be it.
Eventually though you wiill have to tell him. If he's any kind of friend at all, he will understand.
Also, you need to change your line of thinking. Dont be "ashamed" you quit. Fucking shout it from the roof tops. It takes a man to quit and a Pussy to remain a slave to the can. If anything you should be ashamed you fell victim to that shit. I knonw I am. I'm sure you and your buddy can still have good time minus fucking dip. If not, your friendship was for shit.
I told my buddy who smokes like a chimney. He was extremely supportivem. We used to play video games every night after our kids went to bed as he lived right next door. He would smoke and I would chew. Seemed like some of the best times as we'd play game after game of tekken and talk shit the whole time, and they were, just that nic had 0 to do with it.
Great job on the quit so far!!! Proud to be quit with you!
I can relate to you situation completely, I probably single handedly got 10 of my closest friends into chewing. Most have quit, a few still chew. I have taken the approach of "shouting from the rooftops" and you know what, everyone that still chews understands and deep down all want to quit too. They are true friends becuase I know all would tell me to fuck off if I asked for there tin. If they acted any different then I would have to stay away. Remember you quit for you, if you cave because your affraid of what your buddy will think then fuck him, hes not a real friend. Remember, missery loves company, thats why we all work so hard to stay quit together. If your friend pushed to have you go back to chewing he must be suffering his own missery. Stay true to your quit. I quit with you!
