Get Busy Livin or Get Busy Dyin

[clairmontblues]

It looks like you cleared some high hurdles the last few days. I can relate to much of what you've posted. I really worried about my first weekend day home alone because in the past I'd have had a packed lip continuously and diving into some project. I ninja dipped 24/7 and relished the occasional "day of my own" where I could really pack a fat one. What a relief to realize that I can still get into yard work or some home fix-it project without any nasty nic onboard for the ride.
Now here's to finding all the other things we can do; do well; and enjoy free of nicotine.
I'm proud to be quit with you.

[Scowick65]

Notes from Days 6 and 7,8,9

Day 6
After being at home by myself for the weekend, enjoyed not having a raw mouth from 24 hour cope benders like in the past. Started to get through some of the early on headache and physical pain/withdrawal.

Days 7,8,9
Was out of town at a job site, worked from sunup to sundown WITHOUT a dip in and didn't just get by, but it felt great. One of the laborers I had working for me was a 19 year old kid who was continually reaching for a pack of smokes or a can of dip. Tried to share some experiences I have dealt with over the last 21 years and also 9 days, didn't really seem to hit home for him - still young and feels like he is invincible. Had to text to post roll,texted with a few guys from my quit group, talked to an experienced quitter - really see and feel the support of the quit community.

Now that I am back in town, will be having the talk with my wife on Friday evening.

Gaining confidence and loving the ODAAT approach.

Great job. Great post.

[bradf]

Notes from Days 6 and 7,8,9

Day 6
After being at home by myself for the weekend, enjoyed not having a raw mouth from 24 hour cope benders like in the past. Started to get through some of the early on headache and physical pain/withdrawal.

Days 7,8,9
Was out of town at a job site, worked from sunup to sundown WITHOUT a dip in and didn't just get by, but it felt great. One of the laborers I had working for me was a 19 year old kid who was continually reaching for a pack of smokes or a can of dip. Tried to share some experiences I have dealt with over the last 21 years and also 9 days, didn't really seem to hit home for him - still young and feels like he is invincible. Had to text to post roll,texted with a few guys from my quit group, talked to an experienced quitter - really see and feel the support of the quit community.

Now that I am back in town, will be having the talk with my wife on Friday evening.

Gaining confidence and loving the ODAAT approach.

[bradf]

Notes from Day 5

1) Worked in the yard and on projects outside and did it without a dip in my lip. Feeling awesome and realizing how pathetic I was, could not even do some work in my yard without that crap before my quit.

2) Starting to realize some triggers. Big meals or heavy food are mentally tough to fight through right now. Probably has something to do with the extra 20 pounds I could drop. Spearmint Trident helps in these and other trigger situations.

3) I would pay way more than market price for a good message, especially if it helped with a tight neck and shoulders.

[E&C's Dad]

Welcome and congratulations on making a decision to save your own life. The struggle we face when we stare down addiction and make a conscious effort to make better decisions is one of the most profound and life changing experiences one can have. This is about so much more than nicotine addiction. We are all liars and thieves, as we have all at some point or another lied about our addiction to ourselves or to others and stolen time away from our families either in longevity or getting away to get a fix. You need to come clean with your family and any close friends who you think would be really upset because they are the ones who care. The men who have posted on this page before me are the ones who made it possible for me to be free from nicotine and I honor them like brothers. Read all you can and be a man of Honesty, Integrity and Character. I am proud to quit with you today Brad. My number is in your PM box send me a text and we can help each other on this journey. Very glad you are here!

[bradf]

WTG, Brad. Join our November 2014 group and post roll.
How are you doing with withdrawal symptoms? Headaches, the fog? Neck and shoulder tightness?

Been posting roll the last 3 days in the November group.

As far as withdrawal symptoms, check, I got em. Not feeling them too bad, been drinking water by what feels like the gallon. Have taken some advil, that really helped. Been going through the Trident like I am a tester for their company.

[FkSkoal]

WTG, Brad. Join our November 2014 group and post roll.
How are you doing with withdrawal symptoms? Headaches, the fog? Neck and shoulder tightness?

[Dagranger]

Brad,

I get the impression that you took the time to read up and understand what type of journey you are embarking upon. I recommend that you dig into all this site has to offer- read the Kern's story it will help motivate your quit. Dig up some vet's threads and read them from the start; I really liked Smokeyg and SKoalMonster's threads. Read a lot of the newer guys stuff too. You will quickly come to realize that we are all the same, we have all done the same stupid shit, and our quits are pretty much all the same. You will gain the tools to successfully quit every damn day, and that's the secret to quit. Quit today. Make personal connections and hold yourself accountable to your quit group, your family, and most importantly yourself. You have to be in this for yourself. It sucks but everyday that goes by sucks a little less... The freedom from being a ninja-tard is FUCKING FABULOUS! Trust me I was there too!

QUIT ON!

Ultimately it's like pulling a band aid. for me it has been a huge help that my wife is on board. I showed her the site, including my intro, and like a lot of wife's here she was initially skeptical. But as the days went by she would occasionally ask me what day I was on, and that helped my accountability.
Bite the bullet and do this Brad....You have done enough hiding lying and sneaking be open as you can with your quit. As a quitter you can hold your head high, don't be ashamed of it.

[Dougie]

Brad,

I get the impression that you took the time to read up and understand what type of journey you are embarking upon. I recommend that you dig into all this site has to offer- read the Kern's story it will help motivate your quit. Dig up some vet's threads and read them from the start; I really liked Smokeyg and SKoalMonster's threads. Read a lot of the newer guys stuff too. You will quickly come to realize that we are all the same, we have all done the same stupid shit, and our quits are pretty much all the same. You will gain the tools to successfully quit every damn day, and that's the secret to quit. Quit today. Make personal connections and hold yourself accountable to your quit group, your family, and most importantly yourself. You have to be in this for yourself. It sucks but everyday that goes by sucks a little less... The freedom from being a ninja-tard is FUCKING FABULOUS! Trust me I was there too!

QUIT ON!

[Tuco]

I have some recent experience in that particular arena:
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Even if it puts you in the doghouse for a little bit, fessing up on your own is a hell of a lot more dignified than getting cornered or caught.

[bradf]

Definitely, the conversation with my wife has been weighing heavy on me lately. I know it will be a huge relief once it is done, just not a fun feeling to face the lie/deceit I have been living.

If there are any experienced with this, that would like to offer me some sage advice, I would welcome it.

[Done4Me]

Brad - Appears you are still ninja with the wife. No need to tell the kids, too young but you will need your wife's support. You are going to be a complete dooshnozzle to her for a long time. She needs to understand why. It will be hard to tell her and she will be pissed for a day or two but she will come around and realize how hard it was for you to tell her and how hard it is to quit. Long term its the right move. There's a spousal support page that you should have her read once she gets passed the pissed phase.

[Invictus]

Get busy liven' or get busy dyin' is right. Only have one life to life. Best of luck on your journey to a healthier life.

[Air Force ADDICT]

Welcome to the family Brad. Read every HOF speech you can. And reach out to us. We've all been there. Here's to a nicotine free day!

[Dagranger]

Brad what's not to like? You are like most of us here. Welcome aboard. I see you have already posted roll so you are ahead of the game already. In order to make this quit your last... post roll every morning. When you do you are promising to be quit for one day. Stay quitall day then go to bed, and then wake up and make another promise. If you do that and keep your word, this will be your last quit. So the real question for you Brad is if you are sick of hiding and lying, are you ready to man up and be the opposite...a man of your word?

Dag...that is why I am here, to man up and be a man of my word AND actions. From the things I have learned in life, the two that I am keeping in front of me right now : I am stubborn enough to do anything I set out to / Quitting is not something you try, you are either in or out.

Game fucking on Brad! Love the attitude and excited to see what type of quitter your are to become.