Another day another try - need some help

[CB81]

Nixon great first step.
I have been right where you are...I found including my wife in my quit, really helped to resolve the issues of hiding my addiction to nicotine.
Focus on one day at a time, which is all you can control.
I quit with you today, and if you need more support send me a pm.

[nixon]

Flushed. Sounds so damn trivial and cliche. Pathetic almost. So glad I decided to do this and especially join this group. Amazing.

[AquaDiggity]

I'm amazed already of the support. I've tried other support groups with no reply. It sounds like you folks are, well, really here to support one another. That's huge. I understand 100% that it's not to get in trouble (although that's often times the outcome). I have to want to do it. It sounds so terrible, however, I choose this over my marriage, my kids. It's stupid. My wife has been so willing to help if I would just be honest with her. I feel like a total failure as a husband (and human for that matter). It's so incredibly dumb that I make these decisions. Thanks again for the support already.. I can do this. Dumping the can right now.

Yea buddy! Do it. It is rough and will possibly kick your ass at times. We all "stopped" many times. I never bought a log of cope because every can was my "last" for nearly 20 years. I also lied to my wife, coworkers, family, students, and friends. I stayed up late nearly every night to get my fix. Sad shit and we have all done it over and over. If you need anything, check your PM in top right corner of page. I'll listen if you need to rant during the fog of these early days. Quit with us Nix. It starts right now. Day 652 for me. Best decision I ever made.

[nixon]

I'm amazed already of the support. I've tried other support groups with no reply. It sounds like you folks are, well, really here to support one another. That's huge. I understand 100% that it's not to get in trouble (although that's often times the outcome). I have to want to do it. It sounds so terrible, however, I choose this over my marriage, my kids. It's stupid. My wife has been so willing to help if I would just be honest with her. I feel like a total failure as a husband (and human for that matter). It's so incredibly dumb that I make these decisions. Thanks again for the support already.. I can do this. Dumping the can right now.

[RDB]

The point that I'll emphasize is that you have to quit for yourself. Not for your wife. Not for your marriage. Not so you won't get in trouble again. For yourself.

If you quit for your wife, you will only resent her later on, and cave to spite her.

Quit for you, and stay quit.

[Camus]

Hi folks,

I need some help. My chewing problem is starting to effect my marriage. I promised my wife last time I was "caught" that it was the last time. I continued to lie to her face over and over saying that I was doing fine, etc. Busted again. I don't know why I continue to think it's okay to lie about this addiction. I would try to make up excuses as to why I did it, why I lie about it, etc. I've been around smokers and dippers my entire life and it has always been a part me. I quit chewing and smoking several times successfully, however, I keep coming back for more. I don't know why. I'm facing a very serious issue with my wife and it obviously means more to me than a morning buzz. Help!

Best,
Jon

Nixon man I know the feeling. I let the addiction get in the way of my marriage for years but luckily I came to my senses. You can do this and we can help you, but you have to really want this quit. Just post roll in the morning and give your promise that you won't use for the day. Then repeat one day at a time. You can do this man take back your life and marriage

[JB65]

Thanks for reply. I'll try to figure all of this out. It's a bit confusing (and I'm a web developer).

For now, just read up. It is a nicotine free forum so no cigars, cigs, etc.. Once you have dumped them then you can post.

Brother I quit -10 times over 25 years. Always came back too. Why? Because I am an addict. Plain and simple. Sounds like you are too, but that's for you to admit.

Some of my quits were for years at a time too. People in my quit group are just like me. My story is a lot like yours.

What I am trying to say is that everyone on here has something to learn from each other, and no matter how much you think your situation will be unique to you-- wrong.

[nixon]

Thanks for reply. I'll try to figure all of this out. It's a bit confusing (and I'm a web developer).

[JB65]

Nixon. You have come to the right place.

1). Flush ALL YOUR CANS ..NOW. Get rid of it

2) Get on over and visit July quit group. Learn how to post roll call. Introduce yourself. Just like here

3) This is going to be tough, but you can do it. You have to commit to quitting ODAAT - one day at a time. And post your daily quit promise to your brothers in July by posting roll

4). Dive into the site. Read all the stuff from July. There's is some interesting stuff going on. Also read the HOF speeches.

Fix your quit date on your profile to the day you quit. WHICH IS GOING TO BE TOMORROW.

Don't quit for anyone but you right now. Let your wife know what you are doing. And hat it is going to be tough. And ask for support.

Remember, dump the cans you have right now.

[nixon]

Hi folks,

I need some help. My chewing problem is starting to effect my marriage. I promised my wife last time I was "caught" that it was the last time. I continued to lie to her face over and over saying that I was doing fine, etc. Busted again. I don't know why I continue to think it's okay to lie about this addiction. I would try to make up excuses as to why I did it, why I lie about it, etc. I've been around smokers and dippers my entire life and it has always been a part me. I quit chewing and smoking several times successfully, however, I keep coming back for more. I don't know why. I'm facing a very serious issue with my wife and it obviously means more to me than a morning buzz. Help!

Best,
Jon