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Offline CavMan83

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Re: New Dad
« Reply #14 on: June 05, 2015, 03:33:00 PM »
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Thanks everyone. I didnt know it had to be in the morning i just posted i will do better tomorrow. thanks for all the support been a long day and reading all your posts just took away my cravings thanks fellas!
Jared,

Last time I looked "tomorrow", with respect to June 1st, is actually June 2d, NOT June 5th. You obviously are having a difficult time understanding how this place works, so allow me to spell it out for you....

1. Wake up
2. Piss
3. Post Roll, which is your DAILY PROMISE to your quit brothers/sisters that you will not use nicotine in any form, at all, that day.
4. Honor your post by being a man of integrity
5. Repeat

Waltzing in to the Samurai room once every four or so days, AIN'T THE WAY THINGS ARE DONE ROUND HERE.

Not trying to be an arse....just pointing out the truth. Let's get with the program, now, shall we?

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Re: New Dad
« Reply #13 on: June 02, 2015, 11:04:00 AM »
Congrats on a great choice. Cancer scares happen all the time. But the scariest thing about them is that you might get a clean bill of health (like you did) and think that means that you can have "just one more." That is addict-speak. And, it is bullshit.

Post roll, keep your word and repeat. That is the way to freedom.

Addicts are professional liars. We've lied to our families, friends, and everyone who cares for us. We even lie to ourselves. The most fucked up part is that we actually fool ourselves?!! Think of that for a minute...like a magician doing tricks on himself...and believing it?!! 'Crazy' That's how powerful nic is. But those days can be gone.

One quick point on your intro (which may have already been covered and I didn't see it). But you didn't "kick the habit." Bad habits are picking your nose, being late, talking too much (my wife), not listening to someone while they're telling you something (me). But neurotically poisoning yourself with something that will kill you is ADDICTION. Learn all about it. The folks on here actually know and understand addiction.

Bad news is that you can't "kick" addiction. You'll always be an addict. That's why you can't "have one more." But the good news is that you can control it. Go to the Quit Groups page and click around. Every name you see there is an addict. And everyone of us is controlling our addiction ONE DAY AT A TIME. And you can too. They all understand you and what you're going through right now. Cancer scares, funks, fear, anxiety, nervousness...whatever. We're all with you.

YOU CAN DO THIS, JARED!!! Post roll, read and repeat.

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Re: New Dad
« Reply #12 on: June 02, 2015, 07:11:00 AM »
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I'm glad you're here, and quitting for your child to be, is a great motivator. I can' lie. It was a factor for me too, but this is for you!! You're quitting to help your life. Making your family part of it is also very helpful too, but this is your life. I haven't seen you posting roll. Do you understand what to do? It's very simple. Follow these steps:

1. Wake
2. Post roll

Then repeat that every day. I hope you stick around, and beat this thing.
What this guy said!!! This will only last if you really want to do it for yourself. Lots of things can be motivation for quitting but it will only last if YOU want to quit for YOU. I dipped 24/7 for 36 years, two to three cans per day. I had multiple reasons for quitting, my son's birth being one of them. I stopped multiple times, once for almost a year. It didn't last because I wasn't quitting for the right reasons. I was finally able to quit, my son was 16, when I wanted to do it for me. I'll pm you my digits.

Mike Land
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Re: New Dad
« Reply #11 on: June 02, 2015, 06:31:00 AM »
No. It doesn't need to be in the morning. It's just an example of a routine. Glad you posted!

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Re: New Dad
« Reply #10 on: June 01, 2015, 11:49:00 PM »
I'm not a veteran, but this doesn't seem to be a form over substance kind of place. In other words, if you want to be first and post the night before, I think that's cool with everyone here so long as you honor your Quit.

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Re: New Dad
« Reply #9 on: June 01, 2015, 11:02:00 PM »
Thanks everyone. I didnt know it had to be in the morning i just posted i will do better tomorrow. thanks for all the support been a long day and reading all your posts just took away my cravings thanks fellas!

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Re: New Dad
« Reply #8 on: June 01, 2015, 06:57:00 AM »
I'm glad you're here, and quitting for your child to be, is a great motivator. I can' lie. It was a factor for me too, but this is for you!! You're quitting to help your life. Making your family part of it is also very helpful too, but this is your life. I haven't seen you posting roll. Do you understand what to do? It's very simple. Follow these steps:

1. Wake
2. Post roll

Then repeat that every day. I hope you stick around, and beat this thing.

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Re: New Dad
« Reply #7 on: June 01, 2015, 02:42:00 AM »
Jared. Welcome and glad to be quitting with you.

You'll be joining our September Samurai 2015 Quit Group. Nice job on posting roll call.

We have a really strong group of Bad Ass Quitters and we are ALL going to make it together. For example, this weekend, we had a group text going on our smart phones. As soon as someone had a craving, messages started flying in from 4 or 5 different KTC supporters... Bottom line, we all came through our first tough weekend without anyone caving.

I will PM you my digits. Text me or call me if you start to feel challenged. Also, lots of other quitters who have been doing this much longer than me will help you out too. Don't hesitate to lean on them.

In the meantime, surf the site, read up on symptoms, personal stories, etc. This site doesn't cost you a penny, but it's not free. Your cost is:

1. As soon as you wake up every morning, you must post roll call - which is your commitment to yourself, me and your fellow Samurai that you will not put nicotine in your system that day

2. Honor your promise and make your Quit rock solid all day.

3. Wake up the next day and repeat.

Simple. :) Talk to you soon and be strong.

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Re: New Dad
« Reply #6 on: May 31, 2015, 10:55:00 PM »
JRAD,

You can also search you-tube for posting roll on kill the can. great videos on posting via computer and phone. The only way you can screw up roll is to not posting every day. Quit strong, no excuses.

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Re: New Dad
« Reply #5 on: May 31, 2015, 10:26:00 PM »
Awesome thanks

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Re: New Dad
« Reply #4 on: May 31, 2015, 10:10:00 PM »
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Thank you corbin I went to the dentist last week and she told me she didnt see anything big bad or scary in there so i guess i am just freakng out way to much about this but i do feel alone in it. where do i find the September group
Jared,

Here you go.... you'll find the September Samurai Quit pages here. Read up on how to post roll. Get to know your quit-mates. Build a web of accountability so tight that were you to even THINK about going back to dip, someone in your group (hopefully a BUNCH of someones) would verbally beat the crap out of you and make you take another path.

These pages have a wealth of information about quitting and how to deal with the SUCK that is the first few months... I expect to see you post your Day 5 tomorrow on September, 2015.

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Re: New Dad
« Reply #3 on: May 31, 2015, 09:55:00 PM »
Thank you corbin I went to the dentist last week and she told me she didnt see anything big bad or scary in there so i guess i am just freakng out way to much about this but i do feel alone in it. where do i find the September group

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Re: New Dad
« Reply #2 on: May 31, 2015, 09:13:00 PM »
JAred,

Everyone's symptoms vary. However, in your case I would recommend seeing your dentist for an oral screening. You haven't been chewing that long so most likely nothing to worry about, don't freak out. Just a piece of mind. Five days on your own is badass. Your quit group is September. Get t know your quit bros and sisters. I quit with you, pm me if you need anything.

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New Dad
« on: May 31, 2015, 08:50:00 PM »
hello all my name is JAred and i just quit it has been five days. I dipped for 7 years about a can a day, not nearly as long as my uncle and he quit. I have kicked the nicotine out as far as i can tell and the biggest struggle i have is beating the oral fixation. i use the Smokey Mountain herbal substitute wintergreen flavor and it is pretty good at keeping me sane. my wife and i recently found out that we are having a baby boy and i am so excited! However, now that i have quit i am having some normal symptoms of a sore throat my mouth is got some sores on it im assuming from the massive amounts of salt. but i am dealing with some not so normal symptoms i feel... anytime i feel something in my mouth hurts or feel tender or any morning i check out my gums in the mirror i feel i have a new sign of cancer ever single day!... is any one else dealing with this or am i alone? the most recent thing is looking up pictures of oral cancer and comparing them to the spot on my cheek and thinking the sore i have in my mouth looks similar to the ones i find online... is this crazy? i have no history of cancer in my family.... some one please help